Why not share a room with a good friend?

1. There is a line in the movie "Chinese Partner": Never start a company in partnership with your best friend. And what I want to add is, never share a house with your best friend. Miss l and I have known each other for many years. One, two, three, four ... We have known each other for ten years. We have been with each other from girlhood to adulthood. We went through the entrance examination, graduation and work, and participated in each other's life for a very important decade. The word that has been flooded now is: best friend. Of course, I was very happy when I first shared it. After all, living with familiar friends is better than living alone or sharing a room with strangers. We can go to IKEA for a long time, just to buy a carpet and eat two yuan of ice cream; Go shopping or exercise together when you are free, and then tease each other that one can't be fat and the other can't be thin; Sometimes we discuss some problems in the workplace and life together ... However, these good things are only temporary or superficial. When two people contact each other's life for a long time, the shortcomings will be obvious, which will be a test for relatives, lovers and friends. Miss L is a very sensitive person and easily influenced by other people's attitudes. She can't stand criticism at all. Even after leaving her job for a long time, she will still be bitter about spending holidays with her former colleagues. As for me, my patience is not good, but my temper is not small. When I see something or an idea that I'm not used to, I can't wait to point it out immediately to show that I'm right. Therefore, when people are together, there will be more and more friction if they look up but don't look down. Actually, it doesn't need much. Just a joke or how to place the counter will produce contradictions. Sometimes, you will blame me, and I will blame you. Hey, is that guy really someone I have known for ten years?

It's hard to know when the accumulated contradictions began, but one day, I finally looked up from the hard work of working overtime every day and found that Miss L seemed to have stopped talking for some time. A tentative question, she just said that it was too tiring to work overtime. I believe that there is nothing that can't be solved after dinner, so I invited another good friend to play hot pot together to ease the atmosphere. Obviously, Miss L has made up her mind to ignore me, and in the days to come, she will still keep silent and go her own way. I'm hurt. My hot pot rice. I have racked my brains and can't figure out what the problem is. Is the joke too much, or is there a disagreement about whether to buy a dresser cabinet? Then one day, after I forgot to bring my key to call her when I went out, I finally couldn't help asking her on WeChat, where did I offend her? Why don't we spread it out? Miss L only replied that you didn't offend me, I just didn't want to talk to you. At this point, I finally understand that our friendship is probably over, and our sharing relationship must stop here. Soon, I found a good house and moved out, ending my ten-month shared life. The moment I moved to my new house, I took a long breath and felt relaxed. Later, I learned from a friend that she moved away, and we never contacted each other again. The boat of friendship overturned, all kinds of situations. Some people beat and some people scolded. I also saw a friend and her roommate almost fight in the end. In short, the scene was tragic and there was no intimacy at all. There is no obvious compulsion between miss l and me. She quietly expressed her dissatisfaction, which was another form of coercion, and declared that the friendship had come to an end in a silent way. Everything in the world has a time limit. Saury will expire, canned meat will expire, and even plastic wrap will expire. Then, friendship may also expire. We have known each other for ten years, only enough to share for ten months.

3. There is a question in Zhihu, which behaviors of roommates are the most unbearable when sharing a room? The following answers are varied, such as what is unsanitary, taking advantage of small things, interrupting rest and even stealing things. Another issue that is also in full swing is whether there is a plastic flower sisterhood with roommates. The answer to the question is all kinds of tears, playing carefully, making people mistakenly think that they are on the wrong set. At that time, when I was brushing the post, I just took a gossip look. I thought there were so many great people, but in retrospect, aren't these the most ordinary people around us? When everyone looks at it from a distance, they think it's good to see everyone. Once you live together, even the smallest problem will be infinitely magnified. When we watch the excitement on the internet, we always think that other people's friendship is a plastic flower, and we are unbreakable. Li Bihua once described love like this: Only about10 million people have a pair of Liang Zhu, and then they can become butterflies. Others will only become moths, cockroaches, gnats, flies and scarabs ... but they can't become butterflies, and they are not as beautiful as they think. Actually, the same is true of friendship. About10 million people, only one pair of Boya and Zhong Ziqi can make mountains and rivers flow, and the rest can only become dust, weeds or disappear in time. Growing up is a magical thing, which will change us from one person to another, just like Brother Xun and Runtu mentioned in Mr. Lu Xun's article. The lively and innocent leap soil in youth eventually turned into a dull and numb person, and those beautiful memories together can only be left in memory. Sometimes the growth rate of friendship may not keep up with ours, and the relationship between them is no longer as reliable as when we were teenagers. At this time, if we share a room, all kinds of contradictions may only lead to the rapid breakdown of friendship. From my personal experience in the past ten months, it seems that it is better for everyone not to live with good friends. Maybe you will feel lonely alone, but sharing a room will make you find it even more uncomfortable to live together. If you are friends who have lived together, then I suggest you pay attention to any contradiction between them at ordinary times and try not to offend them. Don't joke or dig at each other just because you are acquaintances. Politeness and gentleness are always right. Don't overestimate the stress resistance of a friendship.

Author: Tang Priest who wants to eat meat

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