Some people, because of one sentence, the grass on their graves is now 2 meters high.

Once upon a time there was a man,

Because of his poor mouth, the grass on his grave now is estimated to be 2 meters high!

Do you think I am a threat?

Absolutely not, I'm just threatening.

In love, in the workplace, and in life,

They are all straight men, goofballs and big fools who can’t “make trouble” .

Why?

It’s not all because the emotional intelligence is lower than the horizon!

Let me tell you how people with high emotional intelligence

behave.

1. Modesty benefits, but fullness brings harm

There is a type of people in life who become arrogant when they achieve a little success, and easily get carried away when they are proud of their life. , I am the cutest!”

But people around me will feel disgusted. It’s not jealousy, but normal people will be wary and alienated from things that are excessive, which is often said to be “too much.” .

In ancient and modern times, people who know how to be humble, both at home and abroad, have great wisdom.

Grandpa Newton, the founder of modern science, once said a very Buddhist saying that is well known to everyone: "I am just standing on the shoulders of giants." So everyone thought, oh my god, this is really humility to the extreme. .

The reason why Newton said this is because there were many star-like pioneers such as Aristotle and Cape Town before, and their works were the decisive recognition of Knowledge paves the way.

Newton had a broad field of vision, so he said something from the bottom of his heart, but ordinary people standing low would not be able to see giants.

In "The Book of Changes", there are sixty-four hexagrams, one of which is called "Dishan Qian".

It is said that among the sixty-four hexagrams, the best, most beautiful, and most auspicious one is the "Qian hexagram".

This hexagram is pure and harmless. No other hexagram can rival it. It can be called the "King of Hexagrams". Because if you are modest, you will benefit, but if you are full, you will suffer losses. Since it is a hexagram of "benefit", who can not like it and who can not pursue it!

2. It takes two years to learn to speak and a lifetime to learn to shut up.

Learn to shut up when the time is right.

Last year, my buddy’s new house was renovated and he invited us to visit him. After everyone congratulated him for finally finding a place to stay, one boy suddenly said in the midst of praise: "This house is partly European and partly Chinese. It's like a hodgepodge and a bit rustic."

< p> The atmosphere instantly dropped to subzero.

During the meal, everyone was very happy chatting while eating, and the boy said: "This meal is also like the decoration, some Chinese food, some Western food, the style is not uniform.

”

Everyone laughed, probably thinking:

Unite you MLGB

Other people’s taste is other people’s business, you If you don't control your mouth well, you're in trouble!

Words are like fire. If you don't use them well, you will burn yourself.

Don't let your "ability" happen. "Talk" becomes a "joke" in the future.

Don't let your "talkativeness" become a "black spot" in the future.

3. Learn to act stupid

Of course, pretending to be stupid does not mean being stupid, but knowing how to show weakness and conceal strength at the right time.

Imagine that when you are discussing cooperation with a customer, you find the other party. One of the data is wrong, so I immediately stand up and point out the other party's mistake, and then make a self-righteous boast. What kind of scene is that?

The other party is extremely embarrassed, apologizes repeatedly, and then willingly agrees to the contract? Sign the book?

Learn to act stupid, learn to hide your clumsiness, and show your true nature as a hero.

Only when you don’t embarrass others can your own path become wider and wider.

The true meaning of pretending to be stupid is neither to be shy nor to be cowardly, but to know how to lower oneself to achieve the goal better. As the adage goes: The more mature the rice, the more the ears of rice hang down. < /p>

Being wrong about the situation usually occurs when others do something wrong and we have to interpret and understand the matter.

Life is full of situations. Examples like this:

If a child does not study well, parents think it is because the child does not study hard enough; conversely, when parents themselves cannot learn English well, they will use the excuse that they are too busy and have no time to study.

When Xiao Ming is late for work, the first reaction of his colleagues is that this guy must have stayed up late playing games and watching TV dramas again. But when he is late, the reason is usually because there was too much traffic on the road today and he worked overtime last night. Late!

Why is this happening? It’s because you can’t feel the circumstances of others. What you can see is their actions and results. Only when you experience something personally. Only then can you clearly feel the impact of the surrounding situation.

How can it be done?

First: Overcome the "self-serving bias". Translated into adult language, it is "empathy".

Second: Overcome the "self-serving bias". Translated into adult language, it means "lowering your posture."

5. Do not talk about people behind their backs

Existence is reasonable. When you understand this sentence, there is nothing worth discussing. Everyone has his own outlook, behavior and expression.

Just like Lu Xun said in "The Collection·Xiao Zagan": When I see short sleeves, I immediately think of white arms, immediately think of nakedness, immediately think of genitals, immediately think of sexual intercourse, immediately think of hybridization, immediately think of Think of illegitimate children.

And all of this is just because you care about obscenity.

Just because I don’t support you doesn’t mean you are wrong. I am completely right. It’s just my personal opinion. If you want to understand this, no matter what big waves or coquettish bitch he is across from you, you will just smile and feel that it is not worth mentioning~

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