Colleagues always speak ill of others in front of me. What should I do?

Speaking ill of others behind their backs is almost a common problem of people in the world workplace, and it is also the darkest part of human nature. The motive is simple: to denigrate others, to elevate oneself, and to benefit others at the expense of others. What is even more disgusting is the dark mentality of "not good for people". I'd rather hurt people than be nice to you. How to face others and speak ill of yourself in front of leaders? No matter how honest you are, you should do these three things. It is not a blessing for an honest man to suffer. Don't be afraid, be an upright person.

First, correct understanding, peace of mind, don't make a fuss.

The ancients said, "Whoever doesn't talk about people behind their backs has no one behind them." It is human nature for ordinary people to speak ill of others behind their backs, and some gentlemen can't help speaking ill of others behind their backs. This is the psychological inheritance of China people. Speaking ill of others has a "special" excitement, just like "good things don't go out, bad things spread thousands of miles".

The whole world is the same. You can tell by watching the news channel. When someone else loses, he pushes himself, and he has nothing to lose, as if he has gained something. That's why people speak ill of you in front of leaders. He thinks that if the leader listens to his bad words, he will have a bad impression on you and make you lose the chance of promotion. Even if he can't get this opportunity and benefit, he also has a sense of psychological satisfaction.

There are two ways to deal with it, one is to ignore it, and the Qing dynasty will clear itself; One is to resolutely fight back and control losses.

Second, ignore it, and stick to the attitude of life that the clear is self-cleaning, and the turbid is self-turbid.

Keep an indifferent attitude towards general bad words. Just to cultivate your open-minded personality and confidence. Let other people's "stab in the back" not hurt your "fur". The advantage of this way is that it is easy, affordable and free, which is conducive to doing business for yourself and is not affected by foreign invasion.

We should also have confidence in leaders. Unless he has no opinion and is extremely soft-hearted, he will not be easily influenced by a few "bad words" from others. Just like you, change your mind about others after hearing a few rumors? I am not a three-year-old child. Listening to the wind is the wind, listening to the rain is the rain. Just ignore the general swearing.

Third, we must resolutely fight back against serious bad singing, prevent three people from becoming tigers and win people's hearts.

The ancients said that the clear is turbid and the turbid is self-turbid. The ancients also said that three people become tigers, and everyone is rich in gold. They call deer a horse, people are awesome, and spit drowns people.

If you don't make the right sound, you will be suppressed by the wrong sound. This is the law of the workplace. If you know that someone has spoken ill of you, hurting your interests, hurting your personality and hurting your interpersonal relationship, then you must fight back, otherwise, you won't know that you have suffered for nothing.