The retired old man said: People who are "mature and steady" are often better in these three aspects. Don't underestimate them.

A middle-aged man once asked me: Why do people still think I am naive after forty? I'm naive. What? Middle-aged people look a little angry. Instead of comforting him, I gave him some advice, which was told by a retired old man.

Half a year ago, I was lucky enough to attend a writers' forum, during which I met a respected retired old man. I chatted with him about life and was very happy. I have always wondered why some people are old, but they always leave a feeling of immaturity. The old man often wears a beard and says with a smile: A mature person is "mature and steady" in doing things. This kind of person is often an expert, and we can't look down upon him when we meet him.

After listening to the old man's advice, I suddenly felt very happy, as if I had solved my doubts for a long time Yes, when people reach middle age, please learn to be "mature and steady" in these three aspects, otherwise happiness will slip away quickly, so read it carefully.

Some people may wonder, what is "prudence"? In fact, it means that a person is experienced, sophisticated and steady, and does not act rashly. This sentence comes from the biography of Han Weiyuan Cheng. Yuan Cheng is not as honest and steady as his father, but he is talented.

Really mature people are often sophisticated. Especially on the issue of pursuing interests, they are more "mature and cautious". For example, stupid people tend to value short-term benefits rather than long-term traffic; And a smart person values long-term interests, they will not be blinded by a little immediate interests, but will step into the abyss while being complacent.

To some extent, a stupid person doesn't know the "long-term" and "short-term" benefits, muddling along and never thinking about the future. Such people are often short-sighted and short-sighted, in fact, because they are limited by their own cognitive level and can't see long-term benefits.

If a person knows how to plan and do things regardless of the present, even if what he does next is of little benefit to the present, as long as he can see its future potential, such a person must be a "self-mature and cautious" person. Such people are very powerful and should not be underestimated.

Have you ever had such an experience? When we make mistakes in something, or we are not good enough, we are often stubborn and unwilling to admit it. At this time, we are often called "naive" and "not sensible".

In fact, although this problem seems small, it must not be ignored. Real masters, they often know how to admit their own problems. For example, a person is smart because they are willing to admit their ignorance, which is not shameful, but if you avoid it, you will never mature.

People's progress often begins with admitting mistakes! Stupid people just don't understand this truth. To save face, they cover up all their mistakes and their incompetence. As a result, they can't make any progress and are called "naive" by others. This kind of shirking responsibility is quite unfavorable to us. In fact, it has nothing to do with "face", mainly because our minds are not mature enough to face ourselves.

If you can face up to yourself, admit your mistakes and your incompetence, your future will be smooth and progress will be great, but if we can't, your future happiness will slip away quickly. So, you must be mature and steady!

Really powerful people often know how to punish themselves without making other people's mistakes, while stupid people, on the contrary, are easily influenced by the outside world. Whether in food, clothing, housing and transportation or other aspects, they are always compared with others, and their emotions are always led by the outside world.

And a self-serious person just can't. They also like comparison, but with one more item, they also compare with themselves. Most of them sum up the reasons for their failure by comparing with others, so as to achieve the purpose of improving themselves. Is it natural for such people not to succeed?

Yes, life is actually quite difficult, and there is competition everywhere. If we suddenly give up on ourselves at any moment, we may be spurned by our relatives and friends, so we should always keep working hard and be vigilant, and never punish ourselves with other people's mistakes, otherwise you will easily become passive. In that case, our happiness will soon slip away, and it is too late to regret it.