I am a girlfriend in the city and a girlfriend in the county. We are fine, but my parents don't agree that she is from the countryside. I really love her. I'm anxious and worried.

Many boys and girls may have encountered the question of who their parents and boyfriends choose, and they are all embarrassed about it. Choose a boy and girlfriend that parents can't bear, choose a boy and girlfriend, and feel that it hurts parents and is unfilial. Finally, choose more parents! And the outlook on life thinks this choice is wrong for the following reasons:

1, relatively speaking, parents can spend less time with us. Even if you marry another man or girlfriend according to their arrangement, you will leave them in a few days. And they will grow old and leave us completely. The husband and wife can really accompany you to the old person, and this person must choose.

2, in fact, we all know that parents are good for us, but the general's words are not necessarily right, which does not mean that parents will not do bad things if they are kind. How is your boyfriend or girlfriend? Are you suitable for him? Only you know, because you spend your life with him, not your parents, so it's no use for your parents to be optimistic. The question is whether you are optimistic. Besides, a man's goodness is only known to the women around him. In other words, only you know that your parents have never been with him. How do they know if he is good? This person is the one who will accompany you all your life. Your parents are not in charge, but you are in charge. You must choose the right one.

3, parents disagree, generally for three reasons, (1) is too far away, afraid that my daughter will be wronged so far away, and it is inconvenient to go back to her parents' house. In fact, if you think about it, where is it inconvenient to go with the current traffic? Further on, I will go abroad, which is two or three days' journey. Afraid of being wronged, in fact, being married far away is not necessarily wronged, and being married near is not necessarily popular. Some people who marry people in the same village will not be wronged if they fight for three days at both ends. The key is to see how this person is. So, you must choose this person. (2) The family is poor. In fact, I personally think that having money is not necessarily happiness, and having no money is not necessarily unhappy. Take health as the center, be natural and unrestrained, be confused, forget money, fame and fortune, have a companion and a nest, have money and a friend, simple love, sincere pain, a little warmth, a lot of peace and happiness. Besides, the key is not to see whether his family has money, but whether he has it. Sooner or later, it will be ruined. If he has the desire to earn money, his poverty now is temporary. In this regard, parents should look farther, not just at the present, at least not with a stick. Therefore, the rich and the poor are not looking at houses, but at people. So, you must choose this person. (3) that is, people have a bad reputation or problems. If the family's bad reputation is caused by parents, then I don't think we should blame the children. This is unfair to him, because he is not wrong. Who can say that the murderer's son must be a bad person? Must still be a murderer? Moreover, some special events may have happened near a man's home, which even affected the reputation of the whole local people outside. If such a person kills a boatload of people with one pole, there will be fewer good people in the world. If he is really bad, eating, drinking, whoring and gambling, stealing chickens and dogs, and doing all kinds of bad things, then I totally agree with my parents. Such a man can't marry, this man must choose.

In fact, your parents' anger is temporary, and they will forgive you later. If your boyfriend and girlfriend are gone, maybe you will find a better one, but you will never find one who loves and cares about you like this. I think it is cruel and unfair for him to lose his boyfriend and girlfriend just to be filial and not to make his parents angry. Similarly, of course I can call her filial piety, but I think it is stupid filial piety and a great sorrow!

I remember in a university, a professor did an experiment and asked a girl to arrange the most important people on the blackboard in order, including parents, brothers and sisters, friends, colleagues and neighbors. After that, she decided to delete the person she thought was the least important. Finally, she felt very embarrassed, leaving only her children, parents and husband. Finally, she cried and deleted the parents' names, followed by the children's names. So the professor asked her: Your parents gave you life, raised you and gave you selfless love. The child is your own son, and the husband is nothing. So the girl said: parents will leave her sooner or later, just a few years earlier and a few years later. When the child grows up, he will have his own home and leave himself, and the only person who will really accompany him for a lifetime is his husband. This shows that you must choose this person.

People say that marriage is a woman's second reincarnation. The first time you didn't have a choice, but the second time you did. As for how to choose, it's up to you. No one can help you, other people's opinions can only be used for reference. For your future harmonious and happy life, decide for yourself! Don't miss the person who loves you, and don't lose the person you love!