Say "bone pulse"

After reading the article "The Forbidden Past of Body Smell" written by Professor Gao in the space, I was very touched and remembered many memories of body odor in my youth. I can't help writing it down. Although it lacks new ideas, I may be able to prepare a chat to continue Mink's work.

Professor Gao has already introduced that body odor has always been called "bone vein" in our hometown. Literally, it has become a kind of "pulse gas" that permeates into bones. It comes from heredity, just like blood. It is not only the mark of a lifetime, but also a symbol of life that several generations can't reach. When it comes to who has body odor, the elders around us used to say that "the bones and muscles are wrong", but any "wrong" has become a taboo in family marriage choices and must be strictly guarded against. It is the big killer of all marriage relationships. It can't be touched or crossed for a long time. This is the only major event, which is more terrible than the murder of ancestors. In the countryside, if there are several old people who are well-informed with each other, it seems that they can't be regarded as outsiders. Many times, they are talking about whose "bone pulse is wrong", and this "wrong" has its own reasons. They can be very clear about the causes and symptoms of "wrong" people, including blood relatives and in-laws, five servings and nine families; Moreover, there is almost a road map inside and outside Fiona Fang, which clearly records the origin and ethnic trend of the wrong people. At that time, although I was still young, I also had many hazy dreams about marriage. Hearing a lot of similar things, I am worried that if my parents are gone when I grow up, who will take care of myself is almost "a short step will make me regret forever", which has delayed future generations and made me feel inexplicable.

In fact, when choosing a marriage, in addition to other necessary conditions, parents are indeed bigger than anyone in the matter of "bone pulse" and their sense of smell is more sensitive than anyone else. I've had my own experience. At that time, I was still in college. During the summer vacation, I went to a certain unit to find friends to play with, but I never met them. But I saw a girl in the yard of my friend's unit and asked her where her friend was. It's just a few simple words, but I feel very good about that girl and I can't get rid of it. Afterwards, I wrote to my friend to talk about it. My friend immediately learned in detail that it was a big event and reported it to my father. And invite "Fang Fang" (appropriate) to introduce it into human settlements. Just want to fulfill, my father learned from another channel that his family had a "bone vein" problem, so he sternly stopped it. At that time, I was a red-hot barber carrying a load, and even prepared to disobey my father's orders and work hard, but I immediately found that you would get stuck in the mud and it would be difficult to pull your feet out, which would not work at all. So, it's over before it starts.

About body odor, the communication between adults is basically expressed by "bone vein", which is implicit. However, if there are young people who are not afraid of the cold and are a little emotional, they will scold others for being sick, attack each other, and even scold "smelly board" and "smelly baby", which is extremely lethal. But if the family has this inheritance, it is almost another race, discriminated against. This is another story. Therefore, in rural marriage, almost the most urgent problem is the bone vein of the other party, which is no joke. I remember that my second brother was still in the army at that time, because at the age of marriage, his comrades who went home first were entrusted to propose marriage to the family who later became my second sister-in-law. Close to yisow's house is yisow's mother. She is an outspoken old lady. She was unmoved by the references' various compliments on my second brother and my family. Just say, don't say how good he is. I have to find out whether their house smells good or bad! In the face of "right and wrong", she must be clear about her attitude ...

Therefore, if the country is introduced to people, the host family should inquire in advance, and this "inquiry", in addition to family background, personality and appearance, is the most important thing to "inquire" about bone veins and root veins, and dare not be careless. But within reach, "asking" can still be effective, but what about people who are thousands of miles away and can't even get married? This was written by Professor Gao: "When the second brother was looking for the second sister-in-law, he asked someone to propose marriage, but the woman's family did not agree. Once yisow got off the production team (second brother is a commune cadre) and was arranged to live in yisow's house. In the evening, the second brother deliberately left his shirt on the kang where his mother-in-law lived. Soon the woman's family agreed to the marriage. " As the saying goes, one as one pleases is forever. When my eldest brother was in college, she visited my house before she got married. She was originally from Anhui. Of course, there is no way to "inquire". The way she takes is "smelling"-several people sleep on a kang at night, and the second sister is responsible for stealing her body odor in the middle of the night. Years later, the second sister couldn't help confessing to her, and she was angry and laughing.

With the progress of society and the extensive and in-depth communication between people, the boundary of "bone vein" seems to have been diluted. At least in the consciousness of my generation, the bone vein seems to be a long and vague legend. Because I formed my own family, I completely ignored the concept of "bone vein" at that time. At the same time, my parents-in-law should not have this concept, or they overheard my words without my knowledge. But when my parents met my wife, I should get married in a different place and take my wife home to visit relatives. I really don't know how worried my parents were at that time, and I don't know if I sent any younger sister to steal the smell of my wife, but I am married and cooked with raw rice. Even if I smell the rotten rice, there is nothing I can do. When my own children got married from a virgin friend to a different place, I didn't even think about the concept of "bone vein".

According to literature and related research, body odor taboos, especially marriage taboos, have a long history. The reason is that this smell acts on people's sense of smell, pungent and unpleasant, which makes people produce physical rejection and psychological disgust. Under normal circumstances, no one would want to live with someone who smells like this. Secondly, according to people's experience, body odor is hereditary, and people certainly don't want to substitute such chronic diseases into the blood of future generations because of marriage. For historical and cultural reasons, body odor is also called "Hu odor", that is, the body odor of Hu people. There has always been a contradiction between Han people and Hu people, so people who smell like Hu people will naturally be isolated from most people's lives ... but in the final analysis, body odor is strictly a disease and an unhealthy body odor. With the development of productivity and the improvement of life quality, especially the progress of modern medicine, the externalized form of body odor can be improved. If a special discriminated group is formed because of body odor, it is hard to say that it is fair, let alone humane civilization. Therefore, in my opinion, the desalination of body odor taboo is a manifestation of social progress and the evolution of civilization. On the one hand, people can look at it with a relatively peaceful attitude, on the other hand, it is really good, because the improvement of living standards and the progress of science and technology have promoted the change of people's concepts.

From this, it is thought that "discrimination" is an important character feature in our national character, which is projected everywhere in social life. In our growing experience, we can feel the existence of discrimination almost all the time. For example, the rich discriminate against the poor, and the city dwellers discriminate against the country dwellers (there are also opposite examples, for example, some rural people used to laugh at the city dwellers for being four-legged and not paying attention to food, which is also discrimination). Able-bodied people discriminate against disabled people, and sometimes even the height and weight of some people and the way they walk and talk will become the material of discrimination. Sometimes, even if a person has nothing, he can discriminate against people with body odor, and his knowledge is narrow and sad, but it really exists in social life. Perhaps this should be classified as one of the negative forces that hinder the progress of social civilization.

Back to the last topic, I have seen too much about the powerful role of body odor taboos in marriage. Then, in real life, it is almost customary for people with body odor to marry people with body odor. It is really hard to say that forming such a group in real life is the proper meaning of a civilized society. This reminds me of another thing. In the early 1970s, after graduating from high school, I returned to my hometown and transferred to a branch canal water pipe station in the Yellow River Irrigation District as a canal inspector. There is another commune companion named Shang Keqin (doubtful) who cooks for the water pipe station. He is ingenious, capable and simple, but because he comes from a landlord family and has a high composition, he still can't find a wife in his thirties. At that time, especially in the countryside. Its anxiety state is heartbreaking. At that time, I felt that people with problems in the "bone vein" of families with difficult marriage in rural areas could at least find others who were similar to themselves, while young people like Shang Keqin belonged to another rare group in rural areas. It is generally difficult for poor middle-class girls to marry him unless they are physically disabled and mentally defective, and even if there are unmarried girls belonging to this group, they will try their best to leave this group and fly away. Shang Keqin became a special and sad old "leftover man" in that special era (I don't know what his situation is today, I wish him happiness).

For a long time in the past, if some people lived in the shadow because of certain taboos, whether for political reasons or cultural reasons, then the real progress of social civilization lies in the desalination or even complete breakthrough of these taboos.

201April 26th, 6.

What is the first consideration in the marriage between our city and people in the first year? This house stinks for sure.

This stink is not fart and shit, but body odor. The name "body odor" is also a vocabulary that frogs didn't know until they went to college. Our city is simple, just one word: "smelly". There is also a saying that "the bone veins are not clean."

As we all know, in our country, this is the first priority of marriage.

If you watch or find someone waiting for a word, you should first visit your intimate friend and secretly ask if this family stinks. The more arduous and meticulous work is to trace back three generations, even five generations and six generations, and turn the family's marriage history upside down. There are only dozens of families in remote rural areas, and everyone knows something, such as who this family married in a previous life, whose girl her grandmother was, whose girl her grandmother was, and so on. Generally speaking, it is "the water in whose spring". Only when the theory of roots and veins is clear can we entrust the matchmaker to propose marriage.

This work is meticulous and sloppy, because once there is a mistake, "a mouse excrement spoils a pot of soup", the whole family will be wronged, and everyone will be considered "unclean". Not only men can't find wives, but women can't get married. The last resort can only be to marry from other places and marry to other places. There are even tragedies in which big men can't find partners and big women can't get married.

Therefore, this matter is only a little smaller than the big thing. The importance, complexity and seriousness of its textual research are even worse than the trivial textual research of historians today. The reason for this conclusion is that it is necessary to research not only his (her) grandmother and her grandmother's grandmother, but also which generation of women "loosened their trouser pockets" and "took" ignorant and traceable foreign men, leading to the spread of fallacies and heresies.

I remember my mother once said that when my second brother was looking for his second sister-in-law, he once asked someone to propose marriage, but the woman's family refused. Once yisow got off the production team (second brother is a commune cadre) and was arranged to live in yisow's house. In the evening, the second brother deliberately left his shirt on the kang where his mother-in-law lived. Soon, the bride's family agreed to the marriage.

When the frog reached the age of looking for an object, his mother repeatedly told him: Be sure to find out the bone vein! I replied: where do you go to inquire about bone veins? And now girls wear all kinds of creams, and they can't smell them at all. Mother showed a helpless and worried look. But don't forget to introduce the experience: smelly sweat, oily face.

Because the "bone vein" is related to the future, when frogs are young, they can always hear the voices of adults lying together. The most talked about is whose "bone pulse" is wrong, whose "bone pulse" is wrong because of which generation has a problem, and so on.

The frog heard a joke: a family member has a bad smell, and it is "very smelly". When digging sand, no one in a bunker area worked with him. He had to open a bunker himself. But because of the stink, even the people who carry sand are unwilling to go. But someone has to go. So the sand carrier drove the donkey into the bunker and refused to come down. After the sand digger filled the basket, the donkey turned and ran out of the sandpit. The conclusion is "smelly animals can't stand it!"

The most common story is that someone works with a person with a bad smell, or works in a room, and soon he will have a headache, brain swelling, jealousy and nausea, and then vomit. Such things will spread to nearby villages like the wind.

What if a smelly man marries an odorless man? Sounds like: bad things! Divorce in rural areas is very difficult. Just make do. The solution is to put smelly clothes in boiling water and smell them while cooking, even if they are nauseous and vomiting, until they are "smoked" by the stench and get used to it. If they smell it again, they won't feel smelly and disgusting We call nausea "dampness".

The frog heard a story of "unclear bone pulse" with his own ears. In other words, in the last few generations of the family, men went out to pull camels and were not at home all the year round. Once, a foreigner who was doing business came, and after a long time, he "drilled and raped" the woman. Later, the family's "bone pulse" went wrong.

Finally, the narrator said: "That blind (ha) goods!" Show all kinds of indignation.

Later, after reading Mr. Chen Yinque's "Hu Wen and Hu Smell", I realized that at least in the Tang Dynasty, people already knew about "Hu Smell" and it also appeared in history books. At that time, people had already paid attention to and rejected it.

Recently, I browsed online and saw that body odor is taboo in marriage in many parts of the country, and some scholars have specially studied it. Only then do we know that this taboo does not only exist in our city.