Why do some parents often sneer at their children?

Because they want to motivate their children, make them work harder, or take it out on them when they are unhappy.

When parents are cynical about their children, they are actually subconsciously trying to weaken their children's ability to gradually become independent, thus ensuring the close relationship between themselves and their children. Children who grew up in the background of only child in China may bear more expectations from their parents than children from families with many children. The higher parents' expectations of their children, the greater the pressure.

Parents' fears will be stronger: first, the less they have, the more afraid they are of losing. For this only child, one day when he grows up, his parents will return to the empty nest state. For parents who have been taking care of their children for decades, the older their children are, the closer they are to "unemployment".

In order to resist the sense of uselessness that no one takes care of them, parents may unconsciously belittle their children's ability and restrict their independence, thus ensuring that their children will always live under their own care, which also ensures their sense of value. Secondly, some pressures in parents' work and life will make parents have a strong desire to be competitive enough.

When their own lives are frustrated, they will instinctively pin their expectations on their children, hoping that their children will be more capable so that they don't have to repeat the difficulties they feel. In fact, this is that they project their weak parts to their children. They worry that the lack of children's ability actually comes from their disapproval. In this way, when they blame their children for not being good enough, the children will bear the "bad" part, so that parents don't have to face their own bad parts.

In this case, the child actually becomes a scapegoat in the family, taking the responsibility of "bad" for the whole family and making others better, especially unhealthy narcissistic parents, who often compensate their fragile narcissism in this way, so parents often sneer at their children.