Self-discipline is a lie

How many times have you heard "self-control = success" since childhood? These words are pure and lovely.

Then you expect to pin everything on willpower. As long as you can change, you will succeed.

Wake up, it's no use telling you the truth.

It may force you to recognize the reality. If you can understand this article, you will get a qualitative change.

First of all, you must admit the fact that human beings can never control their desires (even monks), let alone in the age of entertainment to death.

You may say, have self-control, endure and persist.

Yeah, it's not right either.

Three months after you uninstalled Tik Tok, you installed it again. These three months make you feel that you have defeated yourself, but in fact, it has not changed your life, but made you feel uncomfortable for three months.

You forced yourself to get up early for three months, and in the fourth month, 1 day, you chose to stay up late. These three months have given you the illusion of overcoming yourself, but in fact, it has not changed your life, but made you uncomfortable for three months.

What's more, most people don't last three months.

For example, you are reading an article. After reading this article, do you remember it the next day?

Intermittent complacency, continuous mixed eating and waiting for death, behind this joke, isn't it just exposing people's weaknesses?

Is it so hard to face up to your weaknesses? Drinking chicken soup is very comfortable, but is it effective?

Then why can some people "self-discipline and succeed"?

Li Ka-shing can get up at 5 o'clock every day to watch the news. It's amazing. This is anti-human.

People in the northern part of the Qing Dynasty became masters of learning. Many people use holidays to practice, learn skills and participate in projects. It's too difficult.

Why can the boss work and study with chicken blood every day? He must have strong willpower!

No, these people don't just live by willpower. If you only rely on willpower, they are also very cute.

If Li Ka-shing doesn't get up early to watch the news, he won't know what happened in the world last night, and he won't make the right decision. His tens of billions of assets may face losses. If you were him, you might wake up at 4 o'clock and go to sleep at 10, and you can't sleep all the time.

Some people in northern Qing became masters of learning, and some people made clear their future industries very early and planned step by step early. For the future layout, if you have a clear+promising+feasible career plan. If you know to go step by step, at least your annual salary is 1.5 million, then you will not be idle during the holidays. You have taken action, and at the same time you are looking forward to the future, so that you will not be idle.

If your boss doesn't work hard, he will probably be disqualified as a partner this year, and he will probably lose his life with an annual salary of one million. It is likely to reduce the quality of life of his family, and it is likely that he will not realize his long-planned idea of buying a villa on the island.

You will find that this group of people have a very clear goal, which is worth achieving and can be achieved in his mind.

So it is obvious that+valuable+realizable, the three are indispensable.

Therefore, we will be full of motivation and hope, will not be disturbed by the temptation of the low end, and will always look forward. Many times, our persistence seems to be a joke.

That's because our goal is missing:

Clear, valuable and achievable, one of the three.

For example: I didn't study hard in high school. Senior three sleeps 4 hours a day. Can I go to 985? (Lack of realizability) How many days do you think you can sleep for 4 hours if you fail many courses in senior three? You doubt your goal, and you feel bad, so how determined can you be to stick to it?

This fragile persistence is broken at the touch of a finger, and I give up after several failed exams.

It's a waste of time every day. I absolutely can't brush a short video for another day! (Not clear enough), you have no plans for textual research, for improving your business ability and for reading 100. If you insist on not brushing Tik Tok, you will be empty, and the pain caused by boredom will be made up by short videos. You can't escape.

The girl who has a secret crush went to 985, should we also step up from college to undergraduate? (lack of value)

Obviously, a girl you like, this condition is not worth your great efforts in your subconscious.

Remember to make your goals clear, valuable and achievable.

Perseverance alone is not enough.