How should young girls deal with the boss's pestering?

Letter from readers: Hello, doll! We are of the same age, but you are really a smart girl. I sincerely hope you are all right. About my question, let me first introduce the background. In the government unit, the male boss is very old and will retire immediately. He has a better position in the unit. Except for provoking me, he has a good reputation in our unit. I have been in this unit for half a year, and I am nearly 3 years old. I have good appearance and excellent resume. I divorced last year (I won't talk about it before and after the divorce, because the leaders don't know, and I haven't asked or talked about it). Existing boyfriend, stable relationship. Briefly describe the development process of the incident. Soon after I entered the unit, the leader began to invite me to dinner on various occasions, and also asked me to accompany him to socialize. He also showed kindness in other ways, praised me in front of people at work, and wanted to take me to make money by speculating in stocks. And so on, I shirked his invitation for various reasons, because his office was open in the work area, and the principle was not to meet him alone or accompany him to socialize alone. These were basic places to avoid suspicion. I thought that most people are rabbits who don't eat grass beside their nests. He felt bored when I refused several times on a whim. However, there was a group activity a few days ago, and there was no one around for a while. He gave me a note that said; "I always want to express an emotion that I shouldn't express. I appreciate and like you very much, especially after getting along, and I recognize your character, talent and temperament. I really want to help you in all aspects, but I don't know your feelings and thoughts. Can you get a chance to talk? Looking forward to your response. At the same time, I will fully respect your wishes and will always be kind to you no matter what. " Of course, I am well aware of my attitude towards this matter. No matter whether he really appreciates it or likes it, I stop at the working relationship with him. However, he is the boss after all, and I have concerns about how to deal with this matter. This job is stable and cost-effective. I also worked hard to get in. It is a pity to abandon it. I don't know how to reply to him so that he can respect me and not affect my work and future. I'd like to hear what the smart and keen doll has to say about this problem. For example, what should I say in my reply and how to balance the language? The attitude is clear and firm, and it doesn't hurt the gas, so it won't turn against you if you can't eat it. What should I do with all kinds of links in my work in the future? Wait a minute. Thank you, smart doll. Xiao Mu: Hello, Xiao Mu. After reading your story, I remembered an interesting past. Many years ago, I attended an endorsement activity. At that time, the person in charge of the whole media propaganda was a newspaper. Let's call him Lao W. Old W's hair has turned gray, and he has big bags under his eyes, which looks a bit like Sammo Hung. After finishing the task of the day, everyone will have a celebration dinner together. There are a dozen people on the table. There are several showgirl in their early twenties who have been running on Lao W, and their attitude is not very polite. I am two or three years older than them. I watched a group of little girls bully an old man. I felt that it was not very good, so I advised a few words. Not long after that, old W said he would invite me to dinner, thanked me, and I went. Not long after sitting down to eat, old W said a lot, such as how much resources he has and how he can help me. I began to eat by myself, and after listening for a while, I felt that my tone was wrong. Even if I did someone a small favor, I couldn't stand such a big thank you. Then I quietly turned my mobile phone over and said I was sorry to send a short message. Then I turned on one-click recording, put the back of my mobile phone on the table and asked directly: As the saying goes, if you help me like this, how can I thank you? It was the only time I saw an old man blush when he brushed the floor. He probably didn't expect me to speak so directly, and then he stammered a little, and after a long time of irrelevant words, he implicitly expressed his obscene wishes. I smiled and said that he looked at me as cool as a cucumber and didn't dare to answer the phone. I said coldly, let's eat and stop talking nonsense. Old W was afraid to speak when he saw that the limelight was wrong. After eating, I said goodbye and left. After returning home, I dumped the recording from my mobile phone into my computer and kept it on my hard disk. At that time, I thought that if he provoked me again and made me unhappy, he would be in big trouble. But after that meal, I have never seen old W again, nor have I received any phone calls and messages from him. I guess he may not have the courage to provoke me again, or he may have provoked other girls. I have met more than one of these things. In order to avoid causing unnecessary trouble, I have blurred out some details of the above story, and the story itself is true. As Yi Shu said, young girls come out to mix the society and meet men as well as men. When you look like fresh honey, you can't refuse these bees, flies and mosquitoes, which always revolve around you. I usually refuse coldly. When they think I want nothing from them and I'm not afraid of them, these people will naturally know how to stop. Later, I got along well with some of them. When I met Hala, they didn't mention it, and I didn't mention it. As for your question, personally, I suggest that the boss who handed you a note saying such a thing lure the snake out of the hole first, ask him for an interview, and then reject him after he has mastered the evidence. Otherwise, if you talk too hard when he doesn't fully express his will, he can deny it in every way later, and others may accuse you of making trouble. If I were you, I'd invite him to a tea house and invite my boyfriend, and then open two recording devices privately to ask him what he really means. After asking, you have to tell him: I originally respected you as an elder, because you look like my uncle. Although someone gossips in the office, I always thought I misunderstood you and wanted to give you a chance to explain, but I didn't expect to tell those little people who slandered you at work. It's no use crying over spilt milk. I hope you can put away your reverie, spend the time before your retirement at work, and don't make a joke for the whole life when you leave. I'm a newcomer, so it's a big deal, but you've been working hard all your life, and it's a good reputation at work. Don't capsize in the gutter before you leave. I bought this order today, so I'll just pretend that you didn't say that, and we can still be friends. If he dismisses you, you can feel at ease. If he still goes his own way, you can strike a table with him face to face and call your boyfriend out if you want to start a fight. The recording is the last killer's mace. It is only used when he pesters you afterwards. Remember not to use it at the scene. Remember, you don't have to be desperate, but you must act desperate. I always think that a goat's lust is like a ghost. If you are strong, he will be weak, and if you are weak, he will be strong. The above is my personal way of doing things, which may not necessarily apply to you. Please use it carefully according to your own situation. Ayawawa (This article Source: Netease Women's Forum)