There will be differences in intergenerational education. What can be done to avoid them?

Nowadays, parents subconsciously think that it is good for children to grow up healthily, but they don't think that educating children is actually a discipline. The older generation even said, "That's how we all got here. Didn't you grow up like that? " With 20 years' experience, when young parents suggested it, the older generation immediately refused to say, "You don't understand, what do you know? We help you complain so much."

Conceptually, the older generation thinks they are experienced and don't need too many rules. For example, when to breast-feed and when to feed complementary food depends on your own experience, but now parents breast-feed their children strictly according to the time. In the way of education, the older generation thinks that it is enough to play whatever you want after finishing your homework, and healthy growth is important. Young parents, on the other hand, believe that they should cultivate their children's interests in all aspects from an early age and become children with all-round development in morality, intelligence, physique and beauty.

Therefore, intergenerational education has repeatedly become a hot topic, and the voice of criticism has never stopped. The current situation caused by the aging population in China. There is nothing wrong with a large number of old people staying at home for the elderly. Many young parents are at a loss because of the opening of the second child plan.

Basically, because parents' requirements for their children have gradually reached the peak, the proportion of intergenerational education is very important.

At present, there are four main types of intergenerational education: one is overindulgence.

A sentence that often hangs on my lips is "the child is still young, and it is good for grandma (grandfather) to help." Even things like eating should replace children. What children can do, the appearance of grandparents makes children's autonomy decline.

Second, excessive supervision.

No matter what children are doing, they should supervise and regularly check their behavior and daily life. This will not only lead to children's laziness, but also easily lead to contradictions, which is manifested in distrust of their parents.

Third, the punishment is too heavy.

Old people always adhere to the traditional concept of "a dutiful son is born under a stick" and want hell to pay for naughty children. This will not only make the child rebellious in the future, but also make the child autistic.

Fourth, the status quo of the family dominated by elders.

To create a harmonious environment for children's growth, democracy and harmony are indispensable. If the family only listens to grandparents, then young parents will be somewhat reluctant. This will not only lead to conflicts at home, but also be bad for children's growth.

Because of the age gap and different life concepts, the topic of intergenerational education has emerged. Nowadays, the concept of young parents is mostly superior to that of the older generation.

Because of traditional ideas, China is one of the few countries with serious intergenerational education. Overseas 18 years old is already an adult, and the independent education of parents and families makes children grow up faster.

It is inevitable that grandparents will take care of their children. Young parents are busy with life and have no more time and energy to accompany their children to grow up every day. In addition, the professional threshold of nannies is getting lower and lower now, and parents can't rest assured to give it to nannies. I can only leave the responsibility of taking care of the children to my grandparents.

However, grandparents should also pay attention when taking care of their children. Some things should be said and some things should not be said.

1. Don't scare the children that your parents don't want you and leave it to me. Because children are young and lack judgment, it is easy to think that what grandparents say is true, so even if they are joking, they will feel insecure and rely more on their parents.

2. "And grandpa (grandma), I will tell them." Sometimes an old man's unconditional love for a child will lead the child to think that what he is doing is wrong and right. It doesn't matter what I do with my grandparents anyway. Unlimited cover-up, such behavior does not love children, but will harm them.

3. We were just like you at that time ... "We couldn't eat at that time and were picky about food?" "At that time, we had a dress and several brothers and sisters took turns wearing it." In this way, children can not only work harder, but also make them unable to face their own advantages and disadvantages correctly.

What should intergenerational education do?

1. Tell the children that mom and dad just went to work.

Be very serious and make it clear to your child that mom and dad just don't want him at work, but they still love him.

2. Tell children to distinguish right from wrong

Tell children what to do and what not to do. Don't spoil blindly. Don't compare with children with adults' eyes and practices.

3. Encourage more and discover the advantages of children.

Encouragement and support will make children brave and independent, while negation and criticism will make children more timid. Encourage children to be brave and persistent. When a child makes a mistake, tell him what to do instead of criticizing or turning a blind eye.

Grandparents are good from the starting point, but too much interference will not only affect the family, produce contradictions, but also affect the child's future personality, thus affecting the child's growth.