How to get along with colleagues and leaders

For the company, the better the atmosphere among colleagues, the better everyone's mood, the higher the work efficiency and the happy leaders. The problem is that "one meter breeds a hundred kinds of people", people are very complicated, and it is only an extravagant hope to keep harmony between colleagues. So, how should colleagues handle the relationship?

First, intimate but not intimate. If you want to work in this company, you can't make a mess of your colleagues. It is necessary to maintain friendly relations. But after all, there is competition between colleagues, that is to say, there is conflict of interest, that is, we can't be "intimate." Others naturally understand your advantages and disadvantages, and even master your privacy, which may crush you at a critical time. When there is no conflict of interest, people can often call each other brothers. Once there is a conflict of interest, they may turn against each other.

Second, don't be inseparable from your colleagues. Comrades in the same trench are often easy to "share the same enemy." A person scolds the leader and complains about too much work and poor treatment, and most colleagues agree. You'd better think twice before you do anything that has a negative impact on the company, unless you don't want to work in this company anymore. The correct way is to put forward your own opinions to the leaders. If your idea is unique and feasible, it will be beneficial to the company and will have a positive effect on improving your prestige.

Third, keep your grades. You should rely on your grades to prove that you are outstanding. This is not to highlight yourself at the expense of colleagues. Stepping on others to seek their own interests will be laughed at. You really deserve the praise you deserve. You know, the next time you get promoted, your best colleagues around you may break up, so you can only have a clear conscience.

Sincere cooperation, treat each other with sincerity

Modern society emphasizes the division of labor and pays more attention to cooperation. An enterprise or group is particularly like a small society. The work of each department is relatively independent, but if you want to do everything well, you need colleagues from all departments to unite and cooperate, move towards the same goal, and form a joint force to achieve great things. How to maintain a good cooperative relationship with colleagues? My experience is eight words: sincere cooperation and sincere treatment.

In an organization, colleagues come from all corners of the country and have different personalities, interests and work styles. But there is one thing in common: they are all for a job, making money and making achievements in their personal career. As long as the basic starting point is the same, no matter how different the personality is, a wise person can seek common ground while reserving differences and tolerate each other under the principle of "business is business" on the premise of completing a good job.

If we go further, on the basis of doing a good job, we can show some sincerity, communicate more, understand more and increase our sense of identity, so that our personal feelings will continue to improve and colleagues will gradually become friends. After all, in the workplace, one more friend means one less enemy. You can use your spare time to chat with your colleagues, share your work and life experience, and find out what difficulties the other party has. You can help solve them, or you can put forward your own difficulties and see if your colleagues can help. Enhance personal feelings in communication and exchange, and naturally work more smoothly in cooperation.

Some people, who may seem difficult to get along with, have a face that keeps people away. As long as you show sincerity and communicate with them sincerely, even if you can't be friends, you will still give in to each other and complete the task together for work.

If you find that you can't communicate and cooperate well with most of your colleagues, or your colleagues stay away from you, you should look for reasons from yourself and reflect on yourself to see if your work style needs to be improved.

Sincere cooperation and honesty will not only help your work and maintain a good cooperative relationship with your colleagues, but also lay a solid foundation for your career success.

Classification of company colleagues:

1. conceited type: "talents are not met", and Laozi company is the first.

2. Leadership: provide the most unrealistic "conscience" advice.

3. Conservatives: It's none of your business. Hang high.

4. Cannon type: the ultimate office killer who dares to offend.

5. incompetence: Mr. nanguo, who is the most supportive of team work.

6. Follow-up type: the boss is a "private undercover".

7. Intimate type: an office "rare animal", a well-known and responsive new man (woman).

Note: before judging the role category of colleagues, try to understand your role category in the eyes of others.

Work is a very meaningful part of life, which provides a lot of excitement and fun for meeting challenges. For example, racking one's brains to solve difficult problems and successfully completing tasks make our personality more charming and interesting, and urge us to surpass ourselves. Studying in an affluent environment gives us a chance to prove our ability and be proud of our performance. It not only brings us self-esteem and self-confidence, but also brings us inner enrichment and satisfaction. It makes us feel that we are part of the society and fully meet the needs of the inner society.

People are group animals, and work meets the needs of human nature eager to communicate with people. Many interpersonal relationships in the workplace are very important, such as how to get along with superiors and buddies, officers and subordinates, and colleagues and colleagues.

In the golden age of life, the place where we spend the most time is the office. The place where we spend the most energy is the office. People who spend the longest time with us before the other half, even married men and women, interact the most frequently in the office and the situation changes the most.

Moreover, colleagues or partners who are closely related to us, exchange information, sometimes need cooperation, and sometimes present competing "familiar opponents" are actually quite important and influential in our personal life.

The office is the place that needs to act according to the rules most, and because interpersonal communication is the most rigid, the office is also the most prone to conflict, which will bring a lot of impact to personal emotions. But what affects the quality of office life is the interpersonal relationship in the office. There was a young man who entered the society for the first time. On the first day of work, his father gave him a sentence: "three points for doing things and seven points for being a man." At first, he didn't think so As the years passed, the first thing he said to his new colleague was his father's warning.

A group of people just become a member of the office for doing things, but what level things can be achieved depends on how much people who work together can cooperate, how to be harmonious, how to be a person and how to balance, which is very worthy of careful consideration.

There is a lot of knowledge about how to deal with superiors, how to play the role of subordinates, how to get along with colleagues and how to be a popular colleague.

Deal with superiors and play the role of subordinates.

(A) loyalty first, talent second

Kōnosuke Matsushita once said: "Loyalty is frank and sincere, not just pandering to others. A loyal person will always keep his own style and will not waver, so he will not feel guilty in his heart, and he can do his own thing well. If he is disloyal, he will feel guilty and behave unnaturally, which makes people feel untrustworthy. 」

People are the most insecure animals, especially those who are in charge are more afraid of "rats biting the bag" and put a time bomb around them. The crime of deceiving the monarch in ancient times was a narrow escape, and it is the same now. Those in power will hate traitors, and those who are loyal will be suspicious and guard against them. Therefore, between the boss and men, between officials and subordinates, loyalty is the first, but talent is the second. Many people don't understand the subtlety and think they are outstanding. As long as they do good deeds, the boss will always see that they will make a difference one day. But I forgot the most important point. Let the boss know your loyalty so that he can use you with peace of mind.

And don't look down on your boss. It is no accident that a person can hold a high position and be a boss. Even if he is really ignorant, he has his own way. Some people don't see the boss or what the boss has, so that some of his actions become the material of jokes behind him, thinking that he is unique in his narrow field, arrogant and looks down on the boss. Such arrogant jokes should be avoided by people with a little wisdom.

(2) Don't forget the existence of your boss, and let your boss know your existence.

Ordinary subordinates generally have the psychology of "being afraid of the boss", even I have it. If I don't have to, most people don't want to approach the supervisor. Maybe they are afraid of being labeled as "flattering" or "flattering", or they don't know how to deal with it.

In the workplace, people who can get the special favor of their bosses often have their special intentions in the way of inheritance, never forgetting the existence of their bosses, and showing them with warm and touching concrete actions. As a result, their boss also knows his existence, which can be proved by the following example.

Katou Kiyomasa, the minister of Toyotomi Hideyoshi, was grounded by Toyotomi Hideyoshi for his mistakes, and he was also punished for thinking behind closed doors at home. At that time, there was a great earthquake in Kyoto, and even Toyotomi Hideyoshi suffered heavy casualties. Katou Kiyomasa thought: Although your master is still angry with me, how can he not solve the crisis now? So he led his men to Kyoto to protect Toyotomi Hideyoshi. Toyotomi Hideyoshi was moved by his sincerity. Instead of being angry with him, he used him again.

(3) Advise the boss to be skillful and not embarrass him face to face.

There are two dangers in communicating with the boss. First, when you disagree with the other party, you will "argue" for your subordinates. First, when the boss's decision-making is biased and his behavior is missing, his subordinates "hit the face". Although the so-called "straight ministers" have great integrity throughout the ages, the effect of persuading superiors is doubtful and personal fate is not very good unless there are many bosses.

(D) Coping style of disagreement with superiors

The first coping style: be a nodding person and only obey the boss's command. This method is for self-protection, but if you make a wrong decision in the future, you will die together.

The second coping style: stand up and point out the boss's mistakes on the spot, not afraid of offending people, but although it is for business, it also spreads the boss's ignorance and prejudice. If you are a direct minister, will your boss become a bad king? How can he not be embarrassed?

The third way to deal with it: strictly observe etiquette, respect the boss's position and let him know that you have fully understood the background of his decision-making, so don't be selfish and euphemistically express your views, and don't mention the boss's mistakes in the explanation process to save his face.

The third is the most appropriate way to deal with the above three points, but in my workplace, my position consciously has no right to speak, so if the boss has any mistakes, he will not express them. This is the first way to protect yourself.

(5) Don't resign easily.

When there are more employment opportunities in society, changing bosses is as common as eating in another restaurant. The younger generation, in particular, advocates sensibility and leaves if they are slightly dissatisfied. Moreover, they are loyal to their friends and friends. Young people dare to jump ship, except for their impulsive personality. Youth is the biggest capital, and their social life has just begun, without too much pressure and burden.

Job-hopping often leads to impetuous habits, and it is difficult to accumulate work experience and social resources, which has a great impact on future career development. Therefore, you should think twice before looking for a job, and carefully evaluate the opportunities and costs when you leave, that is, it is difficult to get in and out of employment.

Poor pay, changing working environment, starting their own businesses and working hours are the reasons why many people want to leave their jobs, but there are many reasons why they disagree with their superiors and can't get along. Some people are excluded by their colleagues in the workplace, and the misunderstanding of their bosses often leads them to sigh. So they don't pay much attention to interpersonal communication, and they don't use personal public relations to remove obstacles. On the contrary, some people regard resignation as a means, thinking that the boss or boss can express their anger by retaining them. Unfortunately, it is often not what people want. Resignation is not a means, but it is destined to be the result.

(6) Eight-point theory-do not forget to leave room for doing things.

In the workplace, striving for performance seems to be the golden rule for office workers, but if you blindly sprint regardless of the opportunity and situation, it will sometimes bring you pressure and pain, and even cause the boss or CEO's suspicion because of its brilliance!

The 80-point theory leaves room for 20% and shows 80%. You can sprint to 20%, don't drop below 60%. In this way, bosses and officers often see you sprint up and rarely see you slide down, so they think you have never regressed. Its basic principle is: everything is enough, don't touch the highest point, and always keep two brushes in your pocket. This is another kind of "retreat" practice, taking retreat as progress.

How to be a popular colleague

The greatest pleasure in work is not money, power or status, but interacting with people. Being able to meet people, get in touch with feelings, establish friendship and share your thoughts, feelings, hopes and fears is the source of happiness, which is also the attraction of work.

But for many people, the pleasure from interpersonal relationships rarely appears at work. They are always alone and seldom communicate with others. Not only have they never been in contact with others, but they often build a heart wall to isolate themselves from others. Whether it is caused by personal feelings or the rejection of others, their private lives and career progress are overshadowed, and without the help of others, their working lives will naturally become more and more poor and lonely.

Everyone hopes that interpersonal relationships can be in a state of peace without pressure, but in reality, everyone has different desires, values and natures, so it is difficult not to conflict, especially in shopping malls such as battlefields. The so-called benign competition may turn into evil and the conflict is right.

For example, Steve is eager to contribute to his work, but it is always not his turn to do all the important work or meetings. Besides, no one has ever asked his thoughts or opinions. Although he is ambitious and eager to develop, he is always ignored. Finally, the job evaluation scale says that he is difficult to cooperate with others and never takes the initiative to help others. Obviously, no matter how hard he tries, his boss and colleagues still seem to ignore his existence. Later, Steve made a voice of dissatisfaction at a meeting, which made the relationship between him and his colleagues worse.

How to live in peace with colleagues?

(1) Establish the same feelings for others.

When you care about your colleagues, don't let them think that you look down on him. The so-called "sympathy" refers to the emotions and feelings that others can have under certain circumstances, and you can try to figure it out. So, if you were him, you would know what to strengthen and what to avoid.

Colleagues are most likely to be unreasonable and arrogant. If it happens in public again, the resentment may be quite profound. You should be tolerant, give people space and be happy. Besides, communication should be pleasant, reasoning can be clear, and words should not be emotional, otherwise it will inevitably hurt people and leave resentment.

Since the relationship between colleagues is parallel, it means that each has its own sky, and everyone is safe in his own safe space. If someone crosses the line, their relationship will soon change from peace to war.

To put it bluntly, it is nothing more than crossing the border to arrest people, seize power, interfere in other people's housework, and compete among colleagues. Some people deliberately cut in here to highlight their personal abilities and further expand their power.

Survival of the fittest, the law of the jungle, is another real scene in modern society, but this kind of person who can declare war with his colleagues at any time is definitely a hedgehog in the office. Everyone is afraid of people, and everyone is afraid of ghosts. If he can still be happy in this situation, it is Superman.

China people often say, if you are not in place, you will not seek its own government. This is a way to respect others' safe space and right to exist, and it also represents a declaration of peaceful existence. If you can do this, others will be happy and you will be happy. However, interpersonal relationships are very subtle, and the so-called "politics that does not seek oneself" also has a broad explanation. Sometimes some unintentional actions between colleagues, even actions based on goodwill, may be interpreted as "malicious start" because their positions are competing.

(2) Be careful to belittle others when showing yourself.

It is understandable to show your professional style or moral style in your work, but if it involves your own interests, you'd better cooperate first, otherwise it will be "infringement".

For example, the boss of a company saw that employees often worked overtime until late at night, and his conscience found out that he decided to discuss the payment standard of overtime pay with everyone. However, when they met, he just showed a careless attitude and looked like a loyal country. He pointed out that employees work overtime automatically and spontaneously based on their centripetal force to the company, and they don't care whether they have overtime pay. What's more, it is commendable that companies don't reduce their salaries. How can they expect other benefits? Do you think everyone shouted after the meeting?

(3) How to deal with villains

There are villains everywhere in the world, and the workplace is no exception. If such people are your subordinates, it is easy to treat them. Besides, villains are so good at flattery, so don't take the wrong medicine to offend the boss and spoof the boss unless you have to.

The most difficult villains often come from colleagues who are not directly related to you, so how to get along is a compulsory credit in the way of cooperation.

Wang Fuzhi, a university student in the late Ming and early Qing Dynasties, has the following famous sayings about villains. He said: the heart of a villain can be measured by a wise man, but can be controlled by a rigid one. Not expected, but possible; Not expected, but expected. This means that the wise can't predict the mind of the villain and the strong can't suppress it. You expected him to fail, but he did. You think he doesn't want to do anything, but he insists on doing it.

Situations like this are often unpredictable, leaving you no chance to defend normally. Of course, there is this negligence, largely because you don't know that the other person is actually a villain, so you should guard against people. The original intention of this old saying is to remind everyone to beware of invisible villains.

Little people who can't see the levee have no tricks. One is to observe what you say and what you do, but this involves the ability to recognize people. Without considerable experience or special talent, it is not easy to see through the minds of villains.

Helping others is the most enjoyable.

It is human nature to help each other. It is often beneficial to maintain friendship at work when colleagues take over each other's work when they are on vacation.

However, if you ask someone to cover for you during your vacation, you must take care of your urgent work first, instead of leaving what you can't handle behind and letting the agent worry. Over time, others will be unwilling to help you and will greatly discount your evaluation.

I remember when I was working part-time, a colleague was very enthusiastic about helping others. Others always have a mentality that it would be better to do one more thing. If it wasn't his job, he wouldn't touch it, but he always saw where he could help others, and immediately took the initiative to ask if he needed help and give it. He is always popular and respected.

Improve the sensitivity of interpersonal relationships

When you get along with others, you should learn more with an attitude of listening and observing. You should always pay attention to when it is appropriate to talk to people, when to walk away silently, when to joke and when to be serious.

Because it is often difficult to completely separate personal life from professional work, colleagues occasionally talk about family chores. You might as well listen carefully or take the initiative to care about your colleagues' recent situation. If privacy is involved in the process, you should try to avoid it and let him feel that you care, not ask him. In fact, there is no magic formula that can increase the sensitivity of interpersonal relationships. The most important thing is whether you are willing to jump out of yourself and care about others sincerely.

(6) humor.

Humor is usually an excellent way to build relationships. Everyone likes to get along with people who make themselves laugh. Therefore, humor is not only a good way to break the deadlock, but also a good way to save yourself. If you can laugh at yourself when you are depressed and upset, you will certainly reduce a lot of pressure. But it is worth noting that you should never take exposing people's scars as the theme of jokes, otherwise jokes are not only ridiculous, but also easy to hurt people and destroy the harmonious relationship between people.

There are all kinds of people around us. They are not static things, but vivid people like ourselves: people who need care, respect and love from others. If you want others to be nice to you, be nice to others first. -This is the most basic principle. In addition, here are some principles to share with you:

First, sincerity. Perhaps after seeing these two words, you will immediately send out feelings-"I am sincere to others, and I have never seen how sincere others are to me." Don't care too much about how others react to you. If you care too much, you will feel that you are tied behind your back. Just remember one thing: you have a clear conscience. And after a long time, everyone will naturally form an impression that this person is sincere and makes him feel at ease.

Second, ask if you don't understand. Stepping into a new environment, I don't understand many things. At this time, you should ask the "master" modestly. In order to avoid mistakes. In addition, you can get some "personal experience" from him by the way.

Third, don't bring personal emotions outside of business into work. On the one hand, it ensures normal work; On the other hand, others, like us, are "busy" and "noisy" every day and want to relax and be happy. Therefore, from the perspective of thinking for others, we should give others less personal emotions.

Fourth, confidence. Learn to cheer yourself up and believe in yourself. Imagine a person who doesn't even believe in himself. How can he believe in others? Understand that at work, you are the same as others, except that you may arrive here later than him. So we should learn to give ourselves courage and stand on the same level as others. In this way, you will find that you are getting closer and closer to success.

The art of getting along with colleagues

As a young white-collar worker, even if he doesn't work overtime, he can spend eight hours with a group of colleagues every day, and then problems arise: affection, friendship of friends and love of lovers, but the relationship with colleagues is very complicated. How to deal with this relationship, here are some tips for you:

1. The first step for colleagues to get along is equality. No matter you are a first-class veteran of vocational high school or a recent novice, you must absolutely abandon the unequal relationship. Arrogance or inferiority is a taboo for colleagues to get along with.

A harmonious relationship with colleagues is beneficial to your work. You might as well regard your colleagues as partners at work and friends in life. Never keep a straight face in the office, which will make people think that you are conceited and disdainful of getting along with everyone.

Faced with the same job, especially the issue of promotion and salary increase, the relationship between colleagues will become particularly fragile. At this point, you should put aside your distractions, concentrate on your work, and don't play tricks, but never give up the opportunity to compete fairly with your colleagues.

When you are struggling to get along with your boss and colleagues, I don't know that your boss or colleagues may be anxious about it. Learn to be sincere when you get along. When you encounter a problem, you should first put yourself in the other person's shoes, so that disputes can often be annihilated in the cradle.

There will be gentlemen and villains in the world, so when we say sincerity, we don't mean telling the whole story without reservation. Especially for colleagues who don't know each other very well, it's best to have some reservations and don't tell each other all your private lives.

6. Finally, I remind you that the highest level of getting along with colleagues is to always treat others as good people, but always remember that everyone can't be good people.