How can you remember so many ceremonies in rural funerals?

It is too complicated. I don't know how to remember. Perhaps only after personal experience can we know some general processes. Some things are also what the old man tells the younger generation to do. Everyone is right to study.

Some time ago, my 62-year-old father-in-law suddenly had a myocardial infarction. He had been in good health, but suddenly he left. It's hard to accept this reality.

When I received the news, I was driving to the county to buy food, and I was going to give my children a full moon wine. Who knew this would happen? The bus arrived at the county seat immediately, so I turned around and went home, and then I took my wife to my parents-in-law's house.

At home, my father-in-law lay upright in his bedroom, covered with a shroud, covered with a piece of money paper on his head and tied with straw on his feet. Then his children and son-in-law stood by. Sometimes their relatives would burn some paper and light a lamp at the bedside, but the lamp wouldn't go out, and incense and candles were also lit, keeping him in a constant state and keeping vigil at night.

The next day, I hired a master to shave my father-in-law's head. After shaving, I had to throw away the knife. After scrubbing with a towel, I also emptied the water in the basin beside the bed. In the process, I saw my father-in-law's face and found that he had changed a lot before his death. I don't know much about it. I suddenly thought of a photo taken by my wife with her mobile phone last year, and I had mixed feelings when I thought of the scene where he chatted with me before his death.

My father-in-law suddenly left, only to find that my ID card and bank card were misplaced. I searched for them for a long time and finally found them in a crack in a carton. At the same time, I also found an iou. People owe my father-in-law 30 thousand quick money.

When I decided to paint my father-in-law, I also felt sad. I don't like taking pictures because I left so suddenly. Only some photos were taken when he was in his forties, and they were not very clear, and the results were not good after being developed. My wife said that she took a photo of my father-in-law last year and finally took it as a portrait. When I saw this photo, I saw the scene of my father-in-law chatting with me before.

The next afternoon, I was going to carry my father-in-law to the ancestral temple, and then all my relatives were covered with a piece of white cloth. When they are carried out, they must kneel. There is no etiquette on the road except heavy rain and wet shoes. When they entered the coffin of the ancestral temple, they had to kneel down again. Anyway, they are kneeling on the hard floor, and their knees are particularly painful.

After that, some etiquette is done according to what the old man told us, including eating and vigil. On the day of burial, there will be more etiquette. We knelt down several times, then stood up and knelt down again and asked the villagers to carry the coffin out of the ancestral temple. Others followed, each with two or three bamboo pieces in his hand and a piece of paper at the end. When the coffin got on the tractor, he knelt down, and then the woman couldn't keep up.

There are many manners behind. In fact, I always follow other people's instructions. Anyway, I just kneel down repeatedly. I really don't know why. When I come back, I have to ask my father-in-law to help us choose white cloth. I didn't know this etiquette at that time, so I went to that place for dinner alone. I was hurried home by a phone call, and then I knelt down again. Anyway, I can't remember how many times I knelt.

Funeral etiquette in rural areas seems complicated, but every place has a set of relatively fixed procedures, and there are generally familiar people to arrange these complicated affairs. Moreover, every family has people who are proficient in this matter, and at the same time, they will deliberately train successors in this field. This is also a cultural heritage. In fact, as long as you have enough contact once or twice, you can remember the general process, and other details only need familiar people to contact. Basically can be integrated. "Nothing is difficult in the world. ″

I was indifferent to this aspect before, but since my parents died, I have experienced it myself and am basically familiar with it. Last time, when a relative of my family died, I took the position of governor. If you don't understand anything, you can ask your elders and get used to it.

Although the present funeral etiquette is greatly simplified compared with the past, many young people still know nothing about it. Some of them can't even kowtow to the funeral, let alone "walk" and "call". Basically, it is varied and varied, almost generous.

Funeral etiquette can be summarized as follows:

First, the funeral. Including bathing the deceased, dressing the deceased with a shroud, writing that it is forbidden to burn money for the deceased, putting the deceased in a coffin, offering sacrifices, and lighting an ever-burning lamp. Build a shed of filial piety.

Second, mourning. Make a list of mourners and send them to relatives and friends. It can neither be omitted nor repeated.

Third, stop the coffin. Please ask the Taoist priest to do something during the coffin stop. Filial piety, mourning cloth, and filial piety are all exquisite. In our local area, we also write an axe (holding a bucket), which is called a ritual and a spirit removal.

Fourth, the funeral. Please ask Mr. Feng Shui to find the cemetery, drill wells, carry coffins and backfill.

It's basically just a few programs. The villagers plan to write a manuscript about local funeral etiquette in the future as a record of cultural inheritance for readers, so please look forward to the follow-up.

When we hold a funeral here, it usually takes three days, from death to funeral. Generally speaking, manners are not excessive. After the death of the old man at home, we will inform the close family members and then ask other people in the village to come and help. The first thing to do is to plan the grave. Most people will build their own graves before they die, and build a small house with bricks in the ground, which is also commonly known as the Yin House, with cement slabs at the door. Wait until someone digs the pyramid-shaped mound and lifts the board. When everyone goes to work, give out a pack of cigarettes. There are also cigarettes and tea in their workplace. They need a big pot at home. Two days ago, they cooked noodles, and then cauldron dishes. On the third day of the funeral, they ate rice and pot-stewed vegetables at noon. The food this day is much better than the previous two days. When they went to the funeral, they posted a piece of white paper at the door, which said who should do what, and it was already divided. Generally speaking, we do it here in a simple way. There are not so many rules, and we will ask the respected elders in the village to take charge. He knows what the rules are. Now there are people who specialize in funeral services. They provide one-stop service. As long as they pay, they will arrange something.

My father-in-law died when I first got married, and I have forgotten. But I'm still impressed by the complexity of the funeral. Just two days ago, my husband's uncle just died. My mother-in-law is similar. I went to help for more than a week. The old people in the village should be invited to the abbot, and people should be invited to recite the scriptures. Please invite the chef to prepare the banquet. We buy whatever the old people in the village say. His family also had it calculated. His family held a funeral at midnight. Many ceremonies were sent to the city as crematoriums in the city. There will be sorrows and sorrows along the way. Then in a small auditorium, I will listen to the arrangement of the staff and make a farewell ceremony. As long as an old man dies in our village. You will play funeral music on the country radio station.

Let me try this problem. Practice makes perfect. White things are no better than red things. If you don't do complicated ceremonies, you will be laughed at for small things, and if you don't do them, you will add your fists.

The emphasis here is on burial, which is different in ten miles, but it can't be changed without burial, and etiquette is indispensable.

After my ancestors died, I asked the manager first, but the victim wouldn't let me go. The manager is here. Please, sir, wait until the time is right, and then send a funeral message to some chefs. The funeral is mainly about the death of a man looking for his uncle's house and the death of a woman looking for her mother's house. This is holding incense, and people who hold incense dare not wake up. The nephew took a lantern and looked after his uncle. If the arrangement of lanterns is not good, Qi Long comes from her family, and she can't handle the quarrel well.

In addition to etiquette, because I am a husband, the funeral manager in the village is the outer circle, and the etiquette in the inner circle is mine. I have to be careful in everything I do, so I don't worry about being laughed at. Relatives should pay tribute to their filial piety. If they are not laughed at, friends don't kowtow, but burn incense to worship. Three buckles and nine worships can wake you up with incense on your face.

In a word, white things are complicated, and there is nothing wrong with the list of burial dates. Just like the list of dates, there is also pressure. If the father doesn't do it, neither will the mother. Father died, so did mother. Father is not alone, mother is not sad. There are too many, so I won't go into details here.

I am a farmer. I am in the countryside. I know the customs in the countryside.

China is an ancient civilization with a history of 5,000 years. Funeral etiquette is also a unique culture in China. It not only shows the ancient people's thought of ruling the world with filial piety, but also shows people's awe of life.

In rural areas, when the old man is dying, children should stay in front of the bed, which is called the last filial piety. After the old man died, the children would burst into tears, which showed their sadness and told their neighbors that their old man died and everyone came to help. The next step is to cut the old man's hair, wash his body and let him walk clean. Then put a shroud on the old man. Shrouds include winter clothes and summer clothes, which is to hope that the elderly will not be cold and heated in another world. It's called death.

The so-called shroud is actually Hanfu. After the Qing dynasty entered the customs, it was cruel to shave and change clothes, and Hanfu became a forbidden thing. In order to show that Han people don't forget their roots, they should wear Hanfu after death. This tradition has been passed down to the present. Cover the old man's face, of course. It is said that Han people feel ashamed to go underground to worship their ancestors because they have shaved their hair and changed their clothes.

Then, the person in charge sent someone to the relatives' home to report the funeral, and the relatives would come to see the old man for the last time that day. After the relatives come, the old man will be buried. Children will put sheets, quilts and pillows in the coffin. Then, everyone carried the old man into the coffin. People usually put copper coins in coffins and let the old people spend money in another world. Finally, a carpenter nailed the coffin with a four-inch nail, which meant farewell and never seeing the old man again. At this time, the more painful the child cries, the greater the filial piety.

The average family has a mourning hall for four or five days, with tributes on the table and constant incense. At the same time, the quilts used by the old people will be distributed to their sons, which means that they will be handed down from generation to generation and their children will prosper.

Before the funeral, helping the trade union take the old man's old clothes to the street and light them. This is called burning the head. At present, there is generally no epitaph, but a piece of red cloth 30 cm wide and 1 m long should be attached to the coffin, with the old man's name and date of birth written on it, which is called a mirror. The coffin was carried by twelve young people, eight with big heads and four with small heads. Grandchildren walked in front with banners, and their children were covered with hemp and Dai Xiao, holding coffins and crying all the way.

After the coffin reaches the ground, the old man and daughter will give everyone who carries the coffin a cigarette to show their gratitude. Then, everyone put the coffin in the grave together. The eldest son should hold a handful of soil, put it in his skirt, walk around the tomb and slowly sprinkle it into the tomb. This is called a funeral. After sealing the soil, you have to whip it when you go home. Don't bring bad luck home. The old man died only three years ago, and couplets are not allowed to be posted during the New Year.

With the development of society, many funeral ceremonies have been greatly simplified. As long as you are filial to the elderly before you die, you don't have to haggle over etiquette after you die.

Every family has white things, which is hard to avoid! Some manners and taboos should also be noted! There is a respected elder at home, you can ask him to take charge of the arrangement!

We are all buried here! Burning paper costs three catties and six taels. How many green lines do you need for an age? Cockcomb pillow made of tea, face cloth, quilt, etc! These are just like many young people don't know!

However, on that day, people in their own families will leave those directors alone and leave everything to the person in charge! Then the person in charge will assign things to the people who help, such as: smokers will smoke, towels will be delivered, food buyers will buy food, cooks will cook, and so on! As long as something goes wrong here, the whole group will help!

All etiquette issues are under the command of the elderly! There is usually more than one person here, there are several people! They will always accompany them to finish the white thing!

Thank you for inviting me to answer this question.

These rural elders, these elderly rural farmers, they also know the process of rural funeral, and they know it very well.

To make matters worse, for example, you don't know, right? You can hire a Taoist priest. His appearance fee is one day in 400 yuan. After this day, he will take away all these things that your family needs.

When to do something, when to do something, what to pay attention to, what to prepare, who to contact, and who is corresponding in the timetable of sacrificing seven? When, who and what? What is the purpose of doing this? If you have this watch at hand, you won't forget it in the future.

For example, alas, when are the top seven? When is Erqi? When is the third issue? When is 4: 07? When is five seven? When is six seven? When is 7 o'clock sharp? When is the anniversary of a year? He will tell you what to do at different times.

Because these are his occupations, that's what he does. His host does these important things, but these things are well-behaved. According to his respect for the deceased, he also recorded a yearning for the deceased by future generations, or a kind of mourning. He will tell you in detail, well, he will explain everything in the middle, write it down on paper and tell you everything.

This white color appears in the countryside. It doesn't matter. The key is that as long as you can understand a person, after you find a person, he will spread these things out for you, give you some points and help you understand, so you don't have to worry about not remembering anything.

This article was originally written in "The Entrepreneurial Pit of Agriculture, Countryside and Farmers". Survival is the first priority in starting a business for agriculture, countryside and farmers. If you can't live, don't talk about dreams and feelings.

Short stories, big lessons, less detours and no into the pit are our original intentions.

Funeral, in the present countryside. As long as it is an old man who died, it is generally handled as a funeral. It is understandable to make a fuss. It is not easy for an old man to live all his life, and it is also a relief for future generations to do a good job of funeral. I hope that the deceased will have a spirit in heaven and can bless the younger generation. But if the deceased is young, even accidental casualties, or suicide and so on. Of course, family members will be very sad, but neighbors will also feel taboo. Usually buried within three days. In addition, children and people in poor health generally avoid doing business outside. It is generally impossible to go to Zufen Mountain, in some remote and quiet places with few people.

First of all, the elderly are sick and have to leave, and ordinary children will accompany life and change. If they are seriously ill in the hospital. Will also be taken home. Then when the old man dies, he will burn three Jin of paper money as a toll. All the lights in the house should be turned on. Then set off firecrackers. Family, you should start to take care of the aftermath. At this time, I will inform my uncles and brothers at home. If a woman dies, a son must go to her mother's house and tell her uncle, cousin and so on. Then I called the feng shui master to come and choose the place and date. Usually four or five or six days. Of course, I watched it for several days and left it at home 13 days. Usually died in the first month. The funeral will be held in the fifth day. So as not to bring bad luck to others. Therefore, everyone who comes to help should give a red envelope and a red cloth.

In this way, the old man began to scrub and put on the shroud. Prepare to enter the coffin. Coffins are usually placed on both sides of the mourning hall. Of course, I put them in the middle of the city. In our hometown, there are men left and women right on both sides. Enter the coffin, but don't cover it all. Stop good relatives and friends from coming to see. Then, Taoist priests and big monks are invited to open the platform to do Dojo and recite scriptures. It usually starts three nights before the funeral, and after the opening ceremony, the soul will be called out of the room and called to the hall to listen to the scriptures. If you die outside, you have to get it back. But usually it's dead outside It will be put outside. At home, all kinds of ceremonies and ceremonies will be prepared, and the chef will start cooking hard. Many people eat it every day. Until the night before the funeral, we will invite relatives and friends in the village to have a meal, which is equivalent to a banquet. The host in the hall will jump over the ceremony. Then there will be a memorial service, a family memorial service and a ceremony to comfort the ancestors. In the evening, we will sing ancient painting operas and set off firecrackers and fireworks. Wait a minute.

On the morning of the funeral, the coffin will be sealed and the children will cry. Then the funeral. Take the coffin table out of the door and park it on the path at home. Now the children are kneeling beside the coffin to welcome relatives and friends from all directions. The main relatives brought bands and wreaths. This will be a difficult day to help, especially the chef. It's noon, so arrange dinner. There are rules in this sitting position. On the left side of the hall, the bride's family sat there, and on the right, her husband Huang Yang, who was carrying the coffin, sat there. Then the other one was made by Feng Shui master Fu Daoshi and monk. When the dutiful sons stand and eat, the master will kneel in the middle of the door with the dutiful sons, make a speech and read a eulogy. Then my uncle will put in a good word After eating, I began to prepare for going up the mountain. The coffins are all tied and fixed, and there are photos of the coffin of the dutiful son at home, which have been knocked off. Kneel in front of the coffin and open the sacrifice. Then I went to the coffin and knelt down to the grave. The bands on the road, dragon lanterns and lion dances. All kinds of excitement. When the grave coffin landed, friends from all walks of life dispersed. My son went to the pit to scrape mud three times. Put the coffin down. Then the feng shui master will straighten the compass. You can seal the soil. At this time, it is necessary to burn deeds, dry sesame seeds, paper money, and kill cocks. Finally, build a grave. A person's life will come to an end.

When the children come home, they will burn the paper house to him at night. Then, the liquidation expenses and other things, if there is property, will be clearly divided at night.

Every time these things happen, there is a person in charge here to guide them from death to burial. Let's talk about the funeral. /kloc-we have a funeral at 0/2. We should salute first, and then eat. There are several kinds of gifts. Say one more time, that is, you have to bow 24 times, that is, from the middle, then the four corners, and then at