A colleague I’ve known for a month resigned not long ago and asked me to borrow 500. Can I borrow it?

From Super Sister’s point of view, what is your relationship with the resigned colleague who you have known for a month? What is the use of 500 yuan for him? You should think carefully about whether to borrow it or not!

1. Although your colleague has only been with you for a short time, you are very close to each other and can talk well. You have a better understanding of the other person’s character. He is not the kind of person who talks a lot. He came to solve an urgent need. I think you should borrow it. Saving people in danger and doing everything possible for your friends, this is a true friend!

2. If your former colleague is the kind of person who often borrows money and is just a fair-weather friend with you, then he will definitely not lend you this money. Although 500 yuan is not much, it is the income of your labor. Why let it be beaten by a meat bag and never come back? Don't lend money to such a colleague, no matter how nice the reasons are. It doesn't matter even if you lose this friend. Because if the money is lent out, the relationship will become tense if you ask him to repay the money. It is also a good thing to break up with such a friend early. However, people nowadays are unpredictable, knowing people and faces but not their hearts.

A person who often comes to my teahouse to play cards begins to seem grand, generous, and generous. My husband has known him for a year, and his friends around him also have good comments about him. He is such a friend. , one day three years ago, he said that his wallet was stolen out of town and he could not get it back. He asked my husband to transfer some money to him. At first, he asked for 10,000 yuan, and then he asked me to transfer as much as he wanted. At that time, my husband had 4,600 yuan in his coin purse and gave it to him. Now that the situation has passed, is it trustworthy for me to still warn my husband at that time? My husband still thinks I am nosy.

He said he would give me a week, but he found various reasons to delay the payment. He didn’t even say he wouldn’t pay it back, he just delayed it. Three years later, the other party has now blocked my husband’s phone number and never shows up again. .

Although 500 yuan is not much, when borrowing money, you must be prepared that the money may not be returned. If you can have this mentality, you can borrow no matter how much money you have.

Answer: After working with my colleagues for a month, I can basically understand them. Once I get to know them, I can know their conduct, words and deeds.

If your colleague is decent, kind-hearted, treats you well, and helps you, then 500 yuan is not too much, just lend it to him!

If your co-worker is treacherous, always willing to take a dime, loves to laugh at jokes, gossips, and makes sarcastic remarks to you, such a person will not be able to borrow money at all.

I am very happy to answer your question! I have a variety of tastes in life. You ask a colleague who you have known for a month who resigned not long ago and wants to borrow 500 from you. Can he borrow it? I think you can consider two aspects whether to borrow or not:

1. First of all, how is the colleague like? . If your colleague is a good person, values ??integrity, and does what he says, you can still lend him money even if he has resigned. If a colleague has a bad character and is always dishonest in what he says, then don't lend him money.

2. Secondly, are you willing to lend him money? If your heart is willing, you can borrow it. If you just feel embarrassed not to borrow it, then you don’t have to.

I once had a colleague with whom I worked for a year. Later, she switched jobs to another company and borrowed 200 yuan from me for urgent needs, promising to pay it back in a month. But three months passed and she didn't even mention it. I called to talk about this, and she said, "What's the big deal with this small amount of money?" I thought she would repay the money voluntarily, but I didn't expect that a few days later, she blocked me and couldn't get through to the phone.

Therefore, I suggest that you think carefully whether you want to borrow or not. Don't wait until you borrow money and fail to repay it, which will hurt each other's harmony. If you don't want to borrow it, just refuse it politely and say that you have difficulties too.

I hope my answer can help you, thank you!

Once you fall into the trap, you will be as deep as the sea. From now on, you will be a passerby. Xiaohu advises you not to get on the pirate ship. Be careful when borrowing money. , it is best to keep your pocket tightly closed, and it is most secure to hold money in your own hands. In the situation you encountered, my suggestion is not to borrow money. I have suffered many losses from borrowing money, and in the end I never returned. From then on, I put away my kindness and compassion. , will not lend money easily. Xiaohu will talk about his thoughts below, and it won’t be too late for you to make a decision after reading it. Refuse to lend money to people you don’t know well. Reproduce personal borrowing experience and teach by example.

Xiaohu used to be such a simple and kind-hearted girl. She did good deeds out of compassion, but in the end she received such a response. It was really sad. In fact, what I care about is not the money. If you really don't have the money, you can tell me and you don't need it. What I care about most is the people's hearts. In today's society, there are many people who are unpredictable, selfish, dishonest, and vain. When I borrow money, I will say nice things to you and make promises, so that when I pay you back, I will be like a gentleman. It's easy to borrow money, but it's hard to pay it back. What you lend out is feelings, and when you take it back, you're an enemy. I advise everyone to be cautious when borrowing money!

Some people borrow money just by asking, maybe they are in trouble.

But there are some people around us who borrow money, the kind who borrow money to act like rogues, and the kind who borrow money without paying it back. You can ask him for it. If he says he has no money, then it won’t hinder his big fish. The meaty ones are eating. This issue needs to be looked at from many aspects.

Lending is a matter of affection; not lending is a duty.

For this question, Kui Kui @Kui Kui sister vlog gives you the following suggestions:

The word colleague, as the name suggests, means acting in the same way, working together, and taking charge. People who share the same thing and the same thing. Later, it refers to people working in the same unit and the same things.

Once you leave your job, you can no longer be considered a colleague.

1. You must consider your own factors.

1. How much money do you have and the impact that lending this money will have on your life? If the impact is not big, you can borrow it. If not, you can not borrow it.

I have a friend who is a rich second generation. His father is engaged in the real estate business. He works in the company just to kill time. The family is not short of money at all. One day he told me : "Kui Kui, my colleague resigned. Before he left, he lent me a few hundred yuan and he still hasn't paid it back?" I said, "Then you want it from him?" He said, "It will hurt your feelings. Why don't you make friends with me?" It's easy, I don't need a few hundred, so let's borrow it first so that we can see if this friend is worth keeping."

My father was different when he was a child. He lived on a monthly salary of more than 2,000 yuan and took care of his sick mother. His father worked in construction.

One day I asked him: Yuanyuan, if a colleague who resigned asked you to borrow a few hundred yuan, would you lend him a loan? He said: "Can I support myself? How can I have spare money to lend to others?"

Whether to borrow money or not, you have to act according to your ability!

2. How deep is the relationship between you and your colleagues? It’s better to know people’s faces but not their hearts. It’s better to be careful.

The questioner mentioned that they only knew each other for a month and were just colleagues, and this colleague is currently resigned. The vague part is: the questioner did not mention this colleague’s usual situation (is he nice to you? What do other colleagues think of him?)

I used to run a store and do business. There was a chemical factory near us. There was a customer, about 40 years old, who drank potatoes at my house for nearly a month. Drinking powder and beer, it was the same every day. Then I didn’t come for nearly a week. Suddenly one day I came and asked my husband to borrow 20 yuan. My husband thought at that time that he was a regular customer and everyone knew where his home was. I lent it to him. He said he would deliver it to us in a few days, but later he passed by our door several times without delivering it. And until we closed down the business, we didn't even wait for Big Brother to pay back the money. Money is a trivial matter, and this person's credibility was greatly compromised. It really feels like a knife has been dug into my heart. He looks honest and honest, and his age is also mature. I sincerely sigh: I know people, but I don’t know their hearts!

3. You should communicate more with your family and ask for their opinions. (To prevent my wife from scolding me later when I have trouble getting the debt)

My husband has a good friend who lent the money without thinking about it or discussing it with his wife. If the money doesn't come back, the person who borrowed the money has run away and is no longer in his hometown. His mobile phone number has also been changed, and his head is pounding. His wife will say to him: "I didn't even know when you borrowed money from abroad, but now you want to If you don’t get the money back, don’t get it back.”

I borrowed money out of kindness, but I didn’t expect that it caused a rift in the family, and I asked for several days off from work. It was really a waste of money and people...

4 , You should communicate more with colleagues and ask for their opinions.

Maybe he borrowed it from all his colleagues, and it depends on which one of you lends it, who is willing to be taken advantage of? Communicate with colleagues in a timely manner to avoid pitfalls.

Recently, my colleague Xiao Wang resigned. More than ten people in one department of the company received the message that Xiao Wang borrowed money. Xiao Yuan is a smart guy and directly sent the message to our work group to ask for our opinions. We discovered that each of us received the same loan information.

Then we discussed that we should just pretend we didn’t receive the message from him, and sending the loan information in groups didn’t look like there was any difficulty, but more like a lie.

2. You must consider your former colleague’s own factors.

1. How do you like your former colleague to behave? The attitude and reasons for borrowing money, and abide by the principle of helping the urgent but not the poor!

Ask him if there is anything urgent that he needs to borrow the money for.

I have a junior high school classmate who is flexible and wanders around all year round and rarely comes home. The reason why he lent us money was that his mother was sick and needed money urgently. No matter how bastard his son is, he won't use his mother's illness as an excuse to borrow money.

A man who attaches great importance to rituals came to my house that night to borrow money and brought food and drinks. He explained the reason for the situation and said that if we wanted to use it, we could ask him to take it back at any time. I lent it to him for nearly a year. At that time, my father said that he wanted to build a house. I didn’t want to use any other money, so I asked my husband to ask for it from his classmates. I asked for it that night and gave it to him the next day. This is A young man with very good character.

No matter who you are lending money to, you must remember: helping people in need does not help the poor.

2. Some people borrow money for gambling. You won't get this kind of money back if you lend it out!

Gambling is scarier than drug abuse.

A piece of news in 2014 was that a former eye factory owner with tens of millions of assets lost everything due to gambling losses for the first time, and was cheated for the second time due to gambling. In anger, he stabbed someone with a kitchen knife. Ended up in jail.

With everyone in, it is impossible to pay back the money.

3. Some people borrow money for stock trading.

In the early stages of stock trading, you can make a small profit. However, investing is risky!

A friend of mine has a bloody experience: During the stock trading period, he tossed and turned every night and couldn't sleep. He stared at his mobile phone all day long, and his income dropped by -2.6%. I guess A-shares are in trouble again.

In order not to lose money, I sold the house I paid a down payment for and realized it, and went to my relatives and friends to raise money, just to make a comeback.

The reality is always cruel and unsatisfactory. In the end, he had a hard time, and the losses outweighed the gains. He also owed a lot of debt and was forcibly liquidated.

Forget about paying back the money, he can’t even open the pot himself.

4. Some people borrow money to pay off debts.

Someone borrowed your money in order to repay another friend's money. The practice of tearing down the east wall to pay for the west wall should never be condoned.

Then I watched him call other buddies to borrow money. He called three times, and finally one of them lent him money. It was said that it was transferred to him through WeChat, and the money was transferred to him after a while. Returned.

This kind of person will lend you money and you won’t know how to pay it back if you don’t ask for it. If you ask for it, he will still be angry, and he will never be friends again.

5. If you don’t have any old friends around you, your credibility must be questionable.

He asked you to borrow money after knowing him for only a month. Doesn’t he have any old friends around him? A person who can't even get along with old friends is so bad at dealing with others.

This is an example that happened around us. I used to run a restaurant and met a young man. He took some of his classmates and buddies to our place for dinner. Over time, we felt that this young man had a pretty good character. , Later, one of his classmates borrowed money from us, saying it was 3,000 and promised to pay it back to us in a week. I thought how long we had known each other, but my husband said, this is the classmate of that young man. Looking at his face, he You have to lend it to him!

Then we lent it to him. When it came time to repay the money, the little brother didn’t even answer the phone. My husband realized something was wrong, so he quickly called the young man and asked him about his classmate. Regarding the situation, the young man said: "Why didn't you ask me before you lent it to him? He borrowed money from several people and hasn't paid it back, and mine was just about to come over."

Within a few minutes, the young man came over in person to apologize and said: "Sister, don't worry, I'll help you get the money!" He also said that he had borrowed all my classmates, and he started to attack my friends again. What a fuck!

After a week of struggle, I got it.

A person, if one person says he is bad, is not really bad. When everyone says he is bad, do you still believe that he is innocent?

3. What should you do in your workplace life:

Xiao Li from my company, when he first came to the company, even went to the last meal alone. Later, Xiao Li Li kept up with his colleagues and blended in with them. He was talking and laughing. I was really happy for him!

Xiao Wang, an employee of the company, is really worthy of praise for actively helping his colleagues. When his colleague’s computer was broken, he went to fix it. When his colleague’s things were not found, he helped to find them. Whenever there were difficulties, he helped Seeing him... his colleagues gave him the nickname "Living Lei Feng".

When my colleague Xiao Li was having dinner with several colleagues, he talked about Xiao Yuan in the company, saying that she was really a bad person. She took snacks from her colleagues and threw the banana peels she ate into the garbage of the colleagues next to her. In the bucket...

As a result, this matter reached Xiao Yuan's ears, and Xiao Yuan rushed to Xiao Li and grabbed him randomly, which had a very bad impact!

Doing more and talking less is the standard duty that most people in today's society should follow. Too many words will lead to mistakes, and diseases come from the mouth.

Let me tell you a celebrity story!

Li Guang was called "Flying General" by his enemies. Sima Qian wrote a biography for him and praised him highly. But he is actually a man of few words and has a bit of a stutter when speaking. Sima Qian said of him: "The peaches and plums do not speak, but they make their own mistakes." In the eyes of the ancients, speaking less is a kind of education!

During the reign of Emperor Xuanzong of the Tang Dynasty, two generals under An Sishun had conflicts and did not speak to each other. Later, when An Lushan rebelled, another general was promoted to Shuofang Jiedu to lead the army to resist. , and the other one became his subordinate.

When he led his troops to battle, his subordinates said to Jiedushi: "I have offended you before, and I will be at your mercy in the future, but please let my wife and children go." ... Before his subordinates could finish speaking, Jiedushi hugged his subordinates and said: "The country is in crisis and the people are suffering. Talents like you are needed!" How can we care about grudges at this time? The two men worked together and made outstanding achievements in quelling the rebellion.

This spirit is worth learning.

To sum up:

It does not mean that money cannot be borrowed from abroad, and that it is not necessary to help the poor, but this is the principle. Poor people must be hateful. If you borrow from the right person, everything will be fine; if you borrow from the wrong person, you'll be scolded by your wife if you ask for money.

When you get along with your colleagues, you should help each other, talk less, do more, perform their duties, just be colleagues, and do not let your personal feelings get involved in your work!

Okay, that’s all the answers to today’s questions, I hope it can help you!

This money cannot be borrowed

The reason is: you and he have just known each other for a month, and there is a lack of understanding and trust between each other. He just borrowed money from you. I think this person still lacks some personality. If we are tight on money, if we want to borrow money, we will first ask our parents, children, and sisters to borrow money, or people who know us better. It will be difficult for us to ask for money, and we will not ask for it unless we have to. Everyone has his own personality and self-esteem, and no one will trample on them.

You have only been in contact with your ex-colleague for a month, and you probably don’t know much about his character. But from the one month of contact, do you feel that this person is honest and reliable? Borrow if it feels reliable.

Does this former colleague have a good reason to borrow money? If you are sick and need medicine or need it urgently at home, then borrow it! 500 yuan is not much, so you should be mentally prepared in advance to say, "If a meat bun beats a dog, you will never come back"!

Do you have "surplus food" at home? If there is one, borrow it; if you yourself are "eating one meal but not finishing one", then don't borrow it.

If you want to borrow it, be happy with it. If you don’t want to borrow it, make it clear that you have difficulties too. Don’t let the mere 500 yuan hurt your friendship.

No borrowing! No matter what the reason is, just listen. 1. Don’t pay too much attention to the relationship of 500 yuan

No matter whether it is a current colleague or a former colleague, even your friends, except for students, anyone who borrows 500 yuan from you is not a good person. Plan to pay it back.

500 yuan is really not much under today's prices. For an adult who works normally, 500 yuan can't solve any problem. The only explanation is that he doesn't plan to pay it back, and you don't either. Maybe I spent 500 yuan with him.

Think about it from another angle. Everyone has friends and relatives around them. If a person's credit value in other people's hearts is not worth 500, and he wants to come to you to open up a new battlefield, then this person's character That's enough.

On the other hand, if two people want to borrow 500 yuan, they are letting others despise themselves and deliberately lowering their weight in the hearts of others. A friendship of 500 yuan is really not worth it. It's worth your attention. 2. Borrow the money only if you are not short of it

A colleague who has known you for a month has resigned. You have very little interaction with him, and there is a high probability that there will be less and less in the future.

If you don’t care about 500 yuan at all, and in your previous interactions, you think this person is okay and worthy of a close relationship, then treat it as charity and donate it to "Shui Di Chou" and don't go there again. Think about this.

Don’t mind if you don’t return it, just treat it as a surprise if you return it. 3. Borrowing money is an art

Borrowing money is actually very particular. What kind of people can be borrowed and what kind of relationships cannot be borrowed. If you borrow less money from some people, others will only think that you are nothing more than that. , Borrowing too much money from some people will only make things difficult for the other party.

For example, if you only need to borrow 500, it is best to borrow 2,000. If you need 200,000, you only need to borrow 100,000, and borrow the rest from other people.

Therefore, when borrowing money, you must be careful about who should borrow and who can borrow.

Don’t think that borrowing money means you are poor. Borrowing money is sometimes a means of improving relationships.

When someone invests a lot in you, you are no longer just an acquaintance in their heart.

Let me share my true story.

In 2005, one year after I graduated, my salary was 1,200. A colleague from a different position in the same factory whom I had just met for a month borrowed 600 yuan from me, claiming that his child was sick and that he would be repaid by salary next month.

I was young at the time and thought he was really anxious. I only had 200 on hand, so I temporarily borrowed 400 from another good classmate!

I went to the bank to withdraw money to my classmate the next day. , and this colleague who borrowed money stopped approaching me after borrowing the money, and it felt like he had disappeared.

He didn’t repay the money in the second month, and he didn’t repay the money in the third month. I called and said he would pay it back next month. I realized there was something wrong with borrowing money, and started asking other old colleagues about his behavior. I didn’t ask. It doesn't matter, I'll be shocked when I ask.

This guy has borrowed money from almost everyone. He is a gambler and his salary is gone every month.

I was young and energetic at the time, and I was unwilling to do so. On the second day of my fourth month of expenses, I blocked him once at the door of his community.

After being blocked, he still cried and said he had no money. I didn't tolerate him, so I reported to him the salary of more than 1,000 yuan that I learned from the personnel. When he saw my aggressive look, he knew that he couldn't get better today, so he put the only money in his pocket. The remaining 200 yuan was given to me!

The two of us had a falling out, and I didn’t ask for the remaining 400 yuan. I ignored him when I saw him later. To this day, he still looks apologetic every time he sees me, and I tell him what is he trying to do! Carrying a lifelong burden for 400 yuan!

Let me tell you from my own experience that you must be principled when borrowing money. You don't want to help the poor, let alone borrow money from a gambler! There is definitely a problem with borrowing money from a friend you have just met, because it means that everyone around him has borrowed all before it is your turn. In this case, you must not borrow!

A colleague who I have known for a month has resigned not long ago. Can I borrow 500 yuan? Can I borrow it?

Hello, I am Shanghai Yinyin. Let me answer this question.

1. Colleague interactions The interactions between colleagues can be close, casual or distant.

If you work in the same office and have regular work contacts, this relationship can be classified as close.

If you do not work in the same office and are just a nodding colleague, you will be classified as distant or average type.

2. Should a resigning colleague lend him or her 500 yuan? (1) From my personal point of view, if this colleague had a close relationship in the past, I would not hesitate to lend it to him no matter what the circumstances.

When I lent it to him, I was already mentally prepared that the 500 yuan was for him. In other words, if he doesn't return it to you, there will be no worries. (2) If this colleague is a distant or ordinary type

Consider two aspects

A. If you have financial ability and are very loose, you can consider lending it to him.

Because most people usually have a good reputation, he can borrow money from an old colleague with whom he is not very close, and he may really encounter difficulties. Therefore, you should lend it to him and be mentally prepared to give it to him. The result is that there will be no entanglements and worries. B. If you are financially strapped, and if he doesn't return the 500 yuan to you, you will be entangled and troubled, then don't borrow it.

The above are personal opinions for reference only.