This is why your confession was rejected

This is why your confession was rejected

No more nonsense, let’s get straight to the topic.

1. It is easy to worry about gains and losses

Some brothers are very emotionally unstable when getting along with girls. The other party will interpret too much into the girl’s words if they give you a look or a bad tone of voice. manner.

Let’s look at a scene. If a girl replies late, the boy will feel that the other party is angry with him or has offended her in some way. This emotion directly affects his behavior, such as treating girls. Bombarding with messages and even asking girls what they mean are all signs of immaturity.

Learn to be measured, understand girls' emotions, and interact actively when girls are willing to chat with you. If girls don't chat with you, just do their own thing, read more, and exercise more.

2. Flatter girls

Many brothers don’t know what to say when they first start chatting with girls, and they try their best to flatter girls. I use flattery instead of praise. Let's see if you have ever said these words, "I think you are really pretty." "Wow, your voice is so nice." "I feel like you can do everything."

I think I only need to coax girls. Be happy and the other person will like you. In fact, this kind of behavior is disgusted by girls. If you say these things to a girl when you first meet her, then I'm sorry, brother, I'll give you a good guy card.

3. Love to explain

Why do brothers need to explain to girls? It is because they are afraid that girls will misunderstand you and that they will be unhappy, so they keep explaining their behavior.

Just like when some brothers are chatting with a girl, after saying a sentence, the girl does not reply for a long time, then the boy will send a new message at this time. His additional message was actually an explanation, because he was afraid that the girl would ignore him, so he took this action to smooth over what he said before.

But in fact, girls may not care at all, they are just busy with something. Have you ever seen a boss explain something to his employees? Although one is about work and the other is about emotions, the truth is actually the same.

4. Excessive self-deprecation

Appropriate self-deprecation can arouse girls' emotions and create a relaxed chat atmosphere, but excessive self-deprecation means inferiority complex to please. Boy: "I try my best every day in the office, and my boss even praises me during meetings." (There is no problem with this kind of self-deprecation, because it is a joke.)

Boy : "You are very capable at work, unlike me, who just fishes in the office every day. I want to be like you." (Then this is using a way of belittling yourself to elevate the other person.)

What girls like People who are better than themselves naturally desire to be led by boys. If you are too self-deprecating, a girl will feel that you are not good enough for her and will eventually ignore you.

5. Immersive self-pleasure

Many straight men will not end the topic in time when they are in contact with each other. The chat is about the most common things between two people. The roles are reversed. Girls will not keep talking about outfits and makeup with you, because they also know that boys are not interested in this, so don’t keep chatting on the same topic until the end. Retreat in time when both parties are in a good mood.

6. The sense of need is too strong

So what is the sense of need? Simply put, it means that you need her and pay special attention to her every move. Many brothers send each other messages on time every day and want to know what girls are doing all the time. If a girl doesn’t reply to a message, she will look through the other person’s circle of friends and keep looking for details.

If the girl responds a little better, just keep chatting with her and don't care whether the girl is tired and wants to sleep. These are all signs of too strong a sense of need.

You and the girl are just in the stage of being ordinary friends. Exposing your neediness too early will not only fail to make the other party know how much you like her, but will also make her think that you are too purposeful and do not want to be with you. There is too much contact.

How many of the above 6 behaviors do you have? If you have them, change them, if not, encourage them. If you stay away from these 6 behaviors, you will be attractive to the people you like.