As a human being, don’t be too generous and learn to be stingy.

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One autumn of grass and trees, one lifetime.

In a moment, it will be a hundred years.

Adults, put away your generosity, keep your kindness, and take care of yourself, which is more important than anything else.

If you always expect others, you are bound to be disappointed. You must understand that in this life, people are all making their own transitions. If you don’t expect anything from anyone, you will be far less disappointed.

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The more generous you are, the more you will hurt yourself.

Zhuo Wenjun, a talented woman in the Han Dynasty, had a well-off family, outstanding appearance, and was well-read in poetry and books. She fell in love with the impoverished Sima Xiangru at a glance, and ran to his hometown with him regardless.

When her husband was in poverty, she pawned her jewelry, sold the family's cars and horses, and opened a small restaurant. Zhuo Wenjun, who was originally a lady, became a clerk and was willing to be mediocre.

The story of selling wine in a danglong has been passed down to this day.

Unfortunately, after Sima Xiangru became prosperous, he fell in love with the life of feasting and feasting, and fell in love with a Maoling woman. His wife, who was a mess, had long been forgotten by him.

Zhuo Wenjun expressed his emotion in "The Song of the White Head": "It's miserable again and again, and you don't need to cry when you get married. I wish to have the person of my heart, and we will never be apart..."

Poverty alleviation-style marriage seems to be free from secular prejudice, but it cannot escape the helplessness of "passionate people are always hurt by ruthless people".

Your kindness to others is often taken for granted.

For example, as a parent, you help your children selflessly and give all your money to your children. Excessive pampering causes children to become gnawing elders. When parents grow old and have no way to support their children, family conflicts will intensify, and the feelings between the two generations turn into hatred.

Things that are too easy to obtain will not be cherished; selfless help can move yourself, but cannot move others.

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Only by learning to be stingy will you live a better life.

From a certain perspective, "simple and plain" is stingy. Reduce living expenses to the limit and avoid socializing easily.

Zuckerberg, who is dubbed the "Second Gates", although very rich, lives a low-key and simple life. In many social activities, he wears ordinary T-shirts and jeans. The car for transportation is also cheap, and I often go to some fast food restaurants to eat.

Rich man Li Ka-shing often eats in the canteen with his employees, and also takes the lead in launching the "Operation CD-ROM" to not leave a grain of rice in his rice bowl.

What do people need in this life? Is it a luxurious house, a luxurious car, or traveling every day? Or wearing a necklace worth tens of thousands of dollars around your neck?

Whether your life is good or not is related to money, but it cannot be controlled by money.

A friend of mine worked as a real estate agent in Changsha ten years ago and made millions in one or two years. Later, he started his own business, hoping to "get rich quickly", but ended up losing all his money.

In order to pay off the debt, he and his wife went to Shenzhen to work. I've been going around for many years with no improvement.

Last year, he and his wife returned to Changsha, opened an online live broadcast room, and started a new round of entrepreneurship.

A friend said that when I was working in Shenzhen, although my income was not high, by living frugally, I not only paid off my debts, but also had a balance of more than 100,000 yuan.

I finally understand that money is made by digging it out.

No matter how great a person is in making money, if he does not learn to be stingy, he will still be poor in the end. Rich people know how to "increase revenue and reduce expenditure". Treat the passbook as a lake, making money is the source of running water, and spending money is the outlet. The water outlet is very small. The more running water there is, the larger the number on the passbook will be.

Here, I suggest you put away these types of financial generosity: don’t be generous to your children, force them to study hard so that they can fly alone; reduce social interaction, and don’t waste time on eating and drinking. At the dinner party; when helping others, we must pay attention to "teaching people to fish is worse than teaching people to fish." Good deeds cannot only rely on money and materials, but also require "ambition"; refuse to help villains, no matter how pitiful they are.

Only by holding on to your money bag and your passion will your life really get better.

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In life, being generous is of no use, only being stingy is useful.

There is this passage in "Jane Eyre": "Love is a game. You must always be equal and evenly matched with the other party, so that you can depend on each other for a long time. Because too strong an opponent makes people tired. "An opponent that is too weak is boring."

In fact, when people mix in society, dealing with anyone is a game, whether it is an open fight or a secret fight.

When people interact with each other, kindness needs to be limited. When you are overflowing with emotions, others will only accept your kindness as a matter of course and then bully you.

When people compete with others, if you don’t fight for anything but give everything up to others, others will think you are stupid. If you get benefits, they will still laugh at you. If you give in over and over again, you will be cornered or near a cliff.

For people to love each other, it is best to be of the same family and have the same views. Your grievances cannot exchange for true love, it will only humble yourself into dust and become dust on the soles of others' feet.

From now on, be a stingy person. Generosity is your pattern and a strong aura, but it does not need to be proven with money or feelings; stinginess means putting down your dignity and living a good life.

In this life, no one really feels the same way as you. Your happy life needs to be understood by yourself.

From now on, be your truest self, eat when you are hungry, sleep when you are tired, and be free.

Author: Buyi coarse food.

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