Is unrequited love a disease?

"When those red berries come in spring, they flush on your southern branches. For me, take a hug home as a symbol of our love. " This ancient poem expressing lovesickness is beautiful and warm. However, the "unrequited love" that often appears in life is not so romantic. Because unrequited love or unrequited love is just wishful thinking! Most of them meet their favorite people by chance in their daily activities, fall in love at first sight and miss each other very much, but the other party doesn't know it. That is a fantasy of my own, which is the so-called "unrequited love"; Although others know it, they are "intentionally or unintentionally", which is called "feeling unrequited love"

Whether the former or the latter, through psychological counseling, after a period of adjustment, most will return to normal mentality; A few people have excessive unrequited love, long-term obsession, emotional loss of control, pessimism and disappointment, which not only affects their study and work, but also may damage their physical and mental health. This kind of unrequited love belongs to a morbid state, which mostly occurs in people who are introverted, taciturn and not good at communicating with others, and needs the intervention of psychologists.

It is particularly noteworthy that there is a kind of unrequited love that is a mental illness caused by love delusion. These patients all have different degrees of mental disorders. Their starting point for treating the "Mr. Right" is entirely based on pathological reasoning, with confused thinking, full of fantasy and upside down logic. The most common examples, such as being looked at by the opposite sex on the road or in public places, or being touched by the arm and trampled on the foot, feel that the other party is interested in themselves; At some parties, because an actor bows and smiles at everyone after the performance, he (she) thinks he (she) is winking at himself, thus launching a love offensive. Moreover, this kind of absurd thinking and reasoning in the eyes of ordinary people is often not easy to recover naturally. Even if the "Mr. Right" clearly told me that "I already have friends of the opposite sex" and "I don't love you", the patient was still unwilling and still thought that the other party's saying that he didn't love me was actually a test for me, which intensified the pursuit of the other party and even led to deviant behavior.

Secret love is a painful self-torture. People should patiently guide with a cordial and caring attitude, encourage patients to face reality, try their best to shift their attention to work and study, and quickly get rid of the trouble of unrequited love. However, for patients with unrequited love and delusion, general psychological counseling is powerless and needs the joint diagnosis and treatment of psychologists and psychiatrists.