What kind of experience is it when asked whether to buy a house?

In modern society, it seems natural for young people to buy a house. So after we come out to work and fall in love, people will ask us from time to time whether to buy a house here or there.

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I remember when I first arrived in Shenzhen, some students who stayed at home always asked me if I could save money to buy a house quickly because the salary in Shenzhen was so high. I was quite speechless at that time. After all, I just graduated. One is that my salary is very limited. The other is that I am young and don't know how to save money, let alone how to invest. So there is no such thing as a deposit, a veritable moonlight clan. House prices in Shenzhen are doubling several times every year. How dare I, as a wage earner, have such an idea?

Then marry her husband, but many people ask, have you settled in Shenzhen? Are you already looking at the house? I feel sad in my heart. I don't really need to buy a house here. I just feel that many people have tied their marriage to the house, which makes me a little sad. Some people even say that they don't even have a house yet. Where will they live after marriage? In fact, I really think I heard a joke. Did I sleep on the street before I got married?

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Last year, my best friend said she wanted to get married, and then the family asked the man to have a house. But to be honest, their wages in third-tier cities are enough to eat and wear, and it is a long-term thing to save enough down payment. Although there is a little deposit in a few years, it is still far from it. My best friend's husband said that every day when people ask me when to buy a house and get married, I feel that my life is very timid and I don't even want to get married, but I can't be a hooligan all my life. How can I give my good friends a good life?

Finally, the two paid the down payment together. The money for decoration was borrowed from my parents, and I bought a small apartment to temporarily cope with my marriage. However, for people, after seeing others' achievements, they will inexplicably set a new goal for others. Just like after they got married, this small apartment was a bit crowded. Others asked when they would change their big families. My best friend's husband said that from the initial disgust to the current numbness. When someone asks, you ask. If he says a few words casually in the future, he will regard himself as a question-and-answer machine and repeat this answer several times. I will let go.

Personally, buying a house is unnecessary unless I really want to settle down here. If you don't live here and go home, you don't have to think about the house at all. So when people ask me, I feel a little helpless and even a little annoyed. What does it matter whether I buy a house or not? Sometimes it's okay to chat. If a friend who sells a house or insurance asks, there will be a malicious feeling. Generally, I seem to be disgusted, so I can only make a few perfunctory remarks and end the topic in a hurry.