The taboo of marrying your daughter back to her family.

In the tradition of China, the married daughter is very particular about going back to her family. Although many people don't pay much attention to these aspects now, we can also learn about the taboos about married daughters returning to their parents' homes and how long they can return to their parents' homes after marriage! I hope it will help everyone.

What are the taboos for married daughters to return to their parents' homes?

1, don't touch the pot and spoon when you go home.

In the street, we often hear words like "touching a spoon won't kill my father-in-law, my mother-in-law" and "lifting a pillar of fire won't kill my father-in-law and my son-in-law". Although these words are feudal and superstitious and have no scientific basis, they are easy to form curses because they have been circulated among the people for a long time. Even if you know it is false, hearing it often will have a bad influence on your heart. Therefore, when the bride goes back to her family, she should follow these customs and try not to touch these taboo things.

2. It is not appropriate to go back to your mother's house on the day of sacrifice.

In Henan area, because women don't sacrifice stoves, there is also a custom that they should not go back to their parents' home on the day of sacrifice. Generally speaking, the bride should not stay at her parents' home for too long. First, it is about the mistakes of the husband's family. Second, it is a mistake to her parents' family. The married daughter is a guest, and it is inevitable to take it seriously. Many old customs are gradually forgotten today, so it is enough to know some old customs of going back to your mother's house.

3, avoid the first day of the first month.

The first day of the first month is the first day of the new year, which is the first day of the new year. New Year's Day is a holiday for family reunion. According to traditional customs, many places prohibit married daughters from returning to their parents' homes on the first day of the New Year's Day. Because in the concept of people in these areas, married daughters are like spilled water, and they need to get together with their in-laws during the New Year. If you go back to your parents' home for the New Year, it will lead to the situation that your husband's family can't get together.

A married daughter can't sleep in the same bed with her husband when she goes back to her parents' home.

5. You can't sweep the floor in your mother's house during the New Year.

6. Go back to your mother-in-law's house before lighting at night during the New Year or the 15th, and don't look at her lights.

7. The married daughter lives in her family for a long time, which is not good for her brother's fortune.

8. If you go out on your wedding day, you can't look back. Looking back means that you will come back after you have a bad life at your husband's house.

9. You can't sit at your mother's house, or go back to your mother's house months ago, which will bring bad luck. ?

How long can I go back to my parents' home after marriage?

According to the custom of marriage in China, after three days of marriage, the bride and groom should go back to their parents' home together, which is also called "going back to their parents' home". It is an essential etiquette to go back to the door.

Going back to the door means that the daughter and son-in-law go back to their daughter's house to recognize the door and worship their relatives. The time to return to China varies from place to place. In ancient times, it was the third, sixth or seventh, eighth and ninth day of marriage, and there were also full moons to visit relatives in their hometowns. There was a custom of Huimen in the Spring and Autumn Period, which has been inherited by later generations. Because the "double door" is the double door of the newlyweds, it is called "double door", which means auspicious in pairs. When returning to the door, the old custom stipulates that the bride should go ahead, and when returning to the man's house, the groom should go ahead, because this return to the door is the first time for the daughter to return to her family after her wedding, and some of them are also called "decapitation". After crossing the "Second Gate", it is generally not allowed to spend the night at Yue's house, and you must return to the man's house on the same day, because in the old society, it was a custom not to leave the house for one month after the wedding.

Huimen is the first time for her daughter to go home after marriage, and it is also the first time for her new son-in-law to officially visit her parents-in-law's house, so the woman's house is more grand in reception. At the banquet, the groom sits first, accompanied by the close relatives and friends of the woman's family. There is no limit on the number of days of residence when you return home. The woman's family often entertains guests and friends during her daughter-in-law's "going out of the province to return home".

After one month of marriage, the bride will go back to her family's "home" for an unlimited number of days.

What does the bride wear when she goes home?

Every place has different customs and different clothes. But on the whole, there are still some similarities. First of all, it needs to be new, and the color is mainly festive. For example, big red, because this kind of pure big red clothes can't be worn at ordinary times, we can't waste our clothes once, so in order to wear them at ordinary times, we should pay attention to the choice of colors, such as light pink, pink, pink purple, or deeper red, such as rust red and deep red. Anyway, just focus on this bright color.

However, to avoid these colors of black, white, gray and blue, after all, it does not look festive. In some places, you can't wear big red clothes when you get married, but now it's not so particular.

For the style of clothes, you can choose clothes and trousers, or small skirts and dresses. The long skirt looks very elegant, the small skirt looks sedate and dignified, and the dress looks fresh and bright, all of which are the best clothes to wear when returning home. But it should be noted that the skirt can reach the knee length, not too short. You can also choose to wear cheongsam. Clothing should also be selected according to the temperature throughout the year. You can choose a small sweater and skirt in spring and autumn, a dress in summer and a beautiful down jacket in winter. for reference only