Parents immigrated to the United States and were accused of being selfish and ruining their children's future.

The United States is a big immigrant country, and many families immigrate to the United States every year. Recently, someone posted that parents immigrated to the United States selfishly, which ruined their children's future. What happened? It must be a concern of many people who go abroad, so let's take a look! Welcome to reading.

Immigrating to America is ruining children's future.

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More than 90% of China people immigrate to the United States for their children, for their children to breathe clean air, for their children to enjoy equal education, and for their children to grow up in a healthy humanistic environment. ...

However, as parents of children in China, we seldom ask children whether they like the American way of life. Do you get along well with children of other nationalities? Are you discriminated against by others? ...

Recently, a 7-year-old Chinese second generation who immigrated to the United States with his parents and graduated from Ivy League University posted on the largest BBS website (Reddit.com) in the United States, saying that China's parents kept saying that "emigrating for their children is actually just for their own immigration dreams, but it ruined their children's future."

He shared the negative effects of emigration to the United States in his early years, and hoped that parents who were considering emigration would think twice and think carefully about what long-term problems their children would cause if they abandoned their background in China.

Immigration is just a "dream" of parents.

The author thinks that when most parents in China decide to bring their young children to the United States, they actually don't know exactly how much negative influence growing up in American culture (even western culture) will have on children in China, and how much influence it will have on their sense of belonging, identity, networking ability and future career development.

Many times, China parents who are eager to immigrate to the United States know nothing about the attitude and treatment of Chinese Americans in American society. They insist that China's air pollution, the great pressure of the education system, rampant regional discrimination, unhealthy customs and the general low quality of the people have created their strong yearning for the United States. Their knowledge of the United States is very limited, and they usually hear it from other China friends, the Internet, television and other channels.

But this information source is one-sided. China's parents can't hear the sufferings and unfair treatment of Chinese Americans and all kinds of discrimination in daily life. They have never been exposed to the truth of life of ABC (Chinese American) who grew up in the United States. Then, what is the basis for parents in China to blindly and persistently believe that making their children "Americanized" will definitely do more good than harm to their children in the future?

Three major obstacles cannot be broken.

The author thinks that ABC, who has never seen the United States grow up, stepped forward and told China's parents how they felt when they grew up in the United States. Because ABC can't communicate with parents in Chinese, let alone pour out their hearts, parents think their children are doing well in America.

But in fact? ABC, who grew up in the United States, generally suffers from three more intangible psychological persecutions-

1. Permanent cultural barriers

Although ABC, who grew up in the United States, is as fluent in English as white people (often better than them), it is difficult for them to integrate into the mainstream American culture because of their face of china. Most of ABC still plays with other ABC.

American culture thinks that China people are not superior to whites, and it sets many hard-to-overturn stereotypes about China people. They think that China people only work hard, have no leadership, are not good at words and have no personality charm.

On the other hand, ABC's ugly face is laughed at by China students. Many China students will laugh at ABC in the United States and why they have Chinese faces and can't speak a word of Chinese. ABC is neither welcomed by all walks of life in the United States nor accepted by China itself. In a dilemma, extremely embarrassed, no group really accepts them.

2. I can't get rid of the second-class citizen treatment all my life.

China's parents came to the United States because they thought that the United States was better than China, with more opportunities and a better life, but the consequence was that they deprived their children of the right to choose whether to live in the United States or return to China in the future. Children can only survive in a white-dominated society. Chinese Americans are generally regarded as second-class citizens, one level lower than whites (even lower than blacks).

As parents, they can say "it's a big deal to go back to China", but ABC has no choice. What their parents set for them is that they can only be second-class citizens below white people all their lives.

The older you get, the more you will feel yearning for your hometown, but ABC has no real hometown after all. China people don't admit it, and neither do Americans. They have no hometown and can't leave their own leaves. They can only submit to humiliation as second-class citizens of the United States all their lives, and they are severely suppressed and discriminated against. This is a very sad fact.

3. All kinds of occupational barriers that cannot be eliminated

The author studied in Ivy League University and worked in investment banks in new york and Hongkong. He found that emigrating to the United States in his early years lost China's culture and background, which had a great influence on his children's future career development. Agricultural Bank of China's "neither fish nor fowl" status has suffered great disadvantages in business, politics, law, entrepreneurship and even science and technology.

Because they can't be integrated into the American circle and China circle. The development of these fields depends on and is intertwined with customers, politicians and investors.

The background of ABC is not as good as that of local whites and people from China, so it will naturally encounter development bottlenecks, because they can't deeply understand the needs of customers and can't reach an agreement with customers.

Finally, I would like to say to all parents who immigrated to the United States: Don't smear the dignity and sense of belonging of children's lives for their own selfish interests and to escape the vital interests of China. Don't think that after coming to America, study is still everything. In the United States, many ABC's studies are excellent, but they just can't develop, and then parents don't understand or are unwilling to listen to their thoughts and feelings, resulting in children being lonely and having no way out of life.

Let the children be happy to be China people and grow up in China. In the future, children can come to America by themselves when they grow up. Why do you have to be so anxious to bring them to a western country that looks down on China people and let them grow up in the shadow of racial discrimination?

Parents should realize that while they are busy integrating their children into the United States, they also lose their China identity and background. This stupid choice makes it impossible for children to return to the motherland in the future. The end result is that children are strangers for life in China or the United States. No matter how well China develops in the future, children can't go back to life and enjoy the honor and dignity as China people.

The above is my ABC post reprinted from today's headlines, saying that parents' immigration to the United States is "too selfish" and ruined their children's future! Thank you for reading. Please continue to pay attention to other columns for more information.