I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years, and now she says that I am training her to grow up and be strong like her father and brother, instead of loving her like a lover.

Brother: You know, most girls judge things according to their inner feelings. Not cold logical reasoning! One thing, she will tell her right or wrong by intuition. Even if she deviates from the right, her feelings have the upper hand, and at the same time she succumbs to her own feelings and ignores objective practices!

Especially with boyfriends. When she is sad, the first thing she needs is not that you objectively analyze her problems in front of her, and then tell her what to do, or even point out her mistakes, so that she will be even more unhappy. All she needs at the moment is a warm hug and a few thoughtful words with you. At this time, she is like a wounded rabbit. You need to care about her, be gentle with her, and let her not panic or be afraid. You can also be humorous, distract her, make her smile and stabilize her mood. This is a wise move.

Your personalities are very different, so it is inevitable that you will disagree sometimes. Any couple will meet you, won't they? You think this is comforting her, but she doesn't think so. Oh, hehe. Then your efforts will have little effect. I'm not saying what you did was wrong, but it didn't work for her. It is better to do it from another angle. When she is sad, try to distract her, take her to do what she likes, comfort her constantly, tell her that nothing will happen, everything will be fine, and speak more optimistic words. In fact, it's all nonsense, but it works for girls, and the essence of the words is nothing. What matters is your tone. You can hold her tightly, which will make her feel safe. I've tried it before and it works well! Sissy. . . In front of her boyfriend, she doesn't need and instinctively won't show strength. She will be weak and cry. Why? Because she expects you to comfort her and give her a sense of security. Isn't that what girls need? She will be satisfied. This has nothing to do with age. Even if you are much younger than her, if you can do this well, she will still rely on you. No matter how big and strong a girl is, sometimes she will be like a child in front of her boyfriend. When she is happy, she will be spoiled. When she is sad, please give her strength instead of being strong by herself.

After that, when she comes to her senses, you can tell her how to handle things implicitly with a smile, and at the same time, don't be too straightforward. I suggest you intersperse a few jokes in your speech so that she can accept it with a happy mind. Once she accepts it, she will naturally do it, so you don't have to worry about the implementation process anymore, do you?

There is nothing wrong with being mature and rational. On the contrary, it is a charm in the eyes of girls, but more often, you don't need to play the role of father and brother, but you are in the same position as her. Feel her happiness and pain with your heart, crazy, romantic, emotional and infatuated. Have you been together for three years? After a long time, you may gradually feel dull. If you can find the feeling from the beginning, I believe she will be pleasantly surprised and will gradually change her mind!

Give an idea according to your account. If there are other situations, you can also add explanations, and everyone will find a way for you!

Love is hard or dull. I hope your feelings will get better and better and cherish each other. Love needs to be managed with care, even if it is destiny takes a hand. If you don't care and don't pay (pay attention to skills), your fate will slip away quietly! . .