The cruelest way to have a cold war with your husband (three ways to break the deadlock in the cold war between husband and wife)

Dan is crying in my studio. She wiped her tears with a tissue and her delicate makeup.

Dan is a beauty. In her forties, she is still fair and beautiful and slim. She walks more swaying. Her family is rich and well fed, but now, she is crying her eyes out, with no love on her face.

I quickly asked, what's the matter? Tell me in detail.

Adan said that she quarreled with her husband and was silent for more than a month. She seriously suspected that her husband didn't love him, and she began to sob again before she finished speaking.

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Adan and her husband were childhood friends. They began to fall in love in junior high school and got married after graduating from marathon. Honey mixed with oil after marriage is recognized as a model sweet couple in our circle. To tell the truth, we don't want these two couples to come to most parties. They are too good at spreading dog food.

However, in the last two or three years, the two men have frequently had conflicts. When there is a contradiction, the cold war begins, ranging from two or three days to half a month. I haven't spoken for a month this time. It seems that the situation is very serious.

I made Dan a cup of coffee and asked why we were fighting. Dan said it was nothing. I went to the beauty salon and charged ten thousand cards. When I came back, I told him that he called me stupid and cheated on me again. I wouldn't let him talk, so we quarreled. After the quarrel, he ignored me for over a month.

I pushed the coffee cup to Dan. "He ignored you, you can ignore him. Why not speak first? "

Adan was stupefied: "Why did I speak first? He used to speak first every time he quarreled. "

"But now people don't want to speak first. You can speak first. "

"Why do you want me to speak first? He just doesn't love me. "

"Even if I don't love you, what can you do?"

Dan was stunned. It was obvious that he hadn't thought about it, and his face was blank.

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I laughed. Husband and wife had a cold war. Who spoke first? Most female compatriots will think: of course, the husband spoke first, after all, it is a big man. Husband and wife have no night enmity, I think everyone knows. Even if a woman is wrong, just say a few soft words. After all, she still has to live, and no one is young.

The premise of this statement is that men are atmospheric men, but in real life, men have atmospheric places, but also stingy places. Men are not much more angry than women when they are arguing about right and wrong. In men's words: it's not my fault, why should I admit my mistake first? Am I still used to your temper?

Second, this assertion is actually a false assertion. Since men and women are equal, there is no need to adopt double standards on this issue. Male compatriots have no reason to speak first. Besides, after the quarrel, everyone will feel wronged. Female compatriots feel that they need to be coaxed. In fact, men are the same. They also feel wronged and need to be coaxed.

Third, men will get used to women and bow their heads first for two reasons. I'm a man, and I don't care about you. Second, you are my wife, and my wife needs to be coaxed. When a man feels tired, when his marriage enters a period of fatigue, there is no feeling of being coaxed, and there is no feeling of being coaxed. The quarrelling man didn't speak first, but he really didn't want to talk. He thinks he has nothing to say and may quarrel with you. But at this time, women are still waiting for men to coax them. The more I wait, the more I get angry, the more I think, the more I think and the more I doubt, which leads to a deeper misunderstanding.

The couple had a cold war. Who should speak? This problem is actually not a problem. If you think this cold war is unbearable, you can say it. Why do you have to hold your mouth? To save face? For self-esteem In the final analysis, this is selfish. I have to hold each other down to calm down.

Dan is even sadder. "Let me speak, but I can't stick a hot face on a cold ass. He doesn't spoil me. Why should I spoil him? "

Dan has a point, so let's put ourselves in his shoes. Is the other person clutching his tongue thinking, why should I stick my hot face on my cold ass? Then the countermeasures are coming.

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The first trick: break the deadlock in the cold war and let your face heat up first. After the quarrel between husband and wife, after the cold war, the face naturally looks bad. But after a night, please don't keep a straight face This is a step for yourself and each other. If you feel that you can't put your face down, it's a good choice to shift your target, such as watching funny TV dramas and jokes, and your face will relax. Male compatriots will naturally find a topic to talk about when they see you in high spirits, and this matter will be over.

The second move: If the first move doesn't work, the second move is necessary. I don't even say anything first, so let the action tell him that you are not angry, and he can come to coax. How to tell? Like getting up early to make breakfast for him. If you are not used to cooking breakfast, you can buy it. Breakfast is fine, and dinner is fine. Cook some dishes he likes. I don't mean to catch a person's stomach first. If these conditions are not met, you should never cook, and anything else can be done as long as you show concern. If a person is not wood, he will receive it.

The third move, when the second move fails, you can come to the third move. I have seen such a post, what should my daughter-in-law do if she is angry? Someone made a move and took it directly into the bedroom and put it down. In fact, this method is also suitable for boys. Try to separate others, create a space for two people to be alone, dress up carefully, present the sexiest side, and deliberately switch in front of him. Touch him intentionally or unintentionally. Men are basically good at this, and he will receive information soon.

Of course, there is a fourth measure, such as the cold war, which has been deadlocked for a long time and even become accustomed to it. You can use the feelings of some parties and some people. In front of outsiders, the deadlock is easy to break, and I am embarrassed to be unhappy when I go home.

There are also the fifth, sixth and seventh tricks ... life lies in continuous creation, and smart female compatriots will definitely find something suitable for them.

Dan said, why am I so wronged? In this way, we have fallen into a misunderstanding of thinking. If the other person doesn't care about me, why bother? Remember that these thoughts are for yourself, to make yourself better, to control your emotions, to control your temper, and to make your married life better.

One more question. During the cold war, some female compatriots would repeatedly think about whether the other person loved me or not. This question will haunt you for a long time. Actually, it's totally unnecessary. Only women regard love as a lifelong career and an eternal topic. Men don't usually. If a married man always thinks about whether he loves or not, he is usually not far from cheating. Their thinking is very straight, and married men rarely consider this issue, which is a good thing, indicating that they are satisfied with the status quo.

In addition, there is another situation. If the cold war is over and everything has been tried, the other party is still lukewarm and indifferent, okay. This kind of man can be said to be not your man. He is cold and violent to you and has ulterior motives. You should take actions, such as financial independence and clear property. ...

Dan finished his coffee and left silently.

In a few days, come over in high spirits. Ask her if the problem is solved. She proudly said that it was solved. In the middle of the night, I sneaked into his bed naked ... as a result, he was surprised and happy. After the warmth, he told her that due to the epidemic, the company's operation was very tight and the funds were tight. He also told her that he had read many negative reports from beauty salons, fearing that she would be cheated. So she proposed to cut down on beauty expenses and buy a mask to apply at home, but no one applied it. Her husband offered to help her apply well, I ate another dog food.