What should I do if I can't talk at ordinary times and am always disliked?

Everyone should have this experience in life. When chatting with some people, the few words of the other person make people feel particularly comfortable, such as spring breeze and unfinished business. And some people are right, just making people feel uncomfortable. The reason for this difference is that the former has mastered the skills of talking and communicating with people, while the latter has not. Admittedly, personality is an influential factor, but I think speaking skills can be acquired through deliberate practice.

So what if you can't talk? I'll give you three suggestions today.

First of all, be honest with others.

Sincerity is the premise of interpersonal communication. If you treat others, others will treat you. Even if you don't have any communication skills, as long as you show sincerity, don't cheat, treat different people equally, be polite and humble to company leaders and cleaning aunts, and match your words with your deeds, I don't think anyone will particularly dislike you.

Second, pay attention to your way of speaking and learn to put yourself in the other's shoes.

Many people don't like what they say, and attitude has a lot to do with tone. Some people are bad-tempered, impatient and often hurt others without knowing it. Others are shouting that small things like sesame seeds and mung beans seem to be surprises, and they get bored unconsciously. Therefore, when people communicate with others, they must pay attention to their own way of speaking, and try their best to be calm in tone and moderate in volume, so that people can hear clearly without feeling harsh. No matter what they say, they must control their attitude and try to be gentle with others. Besides, when talking with people, you should learn to put yourself in the other person's shoes, think about whether your expression can be accepted by the other person, what kind of dialogue the other person wants, and so on. , can reduce a lot of unnecessary contradictions.

Third, the logic is clear and the words and deeds are measured.

Speak methodically and logically, so that the other party can quickly understand what you want to express in communication. On the contrary, if a question is unclear for a long time, people may have no patience to continue listening. You might as well use words like "first, then, then" in chat to help you clear your mind and help the other person digest and understand. In conversation, you should know what you can say and what you can't say, have a good sense of proportion, resolutely say what you shouldn't say, and pay attention to the timing and occasion of speaking.