Daughter, forgive us. What about "mom, we paid back the eight-year 500 thousand bride price you asked for"

what can I do? They are the parents who gave birth to you and raised you. What can children do with their biological parents? Live a good life and don't pass this pain on to the next generation, which will affect the lives of family members and children.

First, parents' concept of "son preference" has seriously affected their daughters' happiness. It was a very happy thing to get married with my boyfriend who talked for 8 years. However, my parents asked my boyfriend for a bride price of 500 thousand to pay the down payment for my brother's house. Many people oppose their parents' demands but can't beat them. My boyfriend borrowed money to get married, and all his savings for many years were given to his parents-in-law.

Since then, Lin Li has never been home. She knows that her parents' younger brother is the first, and she is just a foil to her younger brother! Many years later, her parents went to lin li and lin li to apologize and beg for forgiveness, but lin li couldn't forgive her, because she and her boyfriend fought for the bride price of 500,000 that year for eight years before they bought their own house and got their own real home. They never wanted children, but now they can't get pregnant. She can't forgive her parents in her heart.

If parents don't want 500 thousand bride price, they won't be so tired, and they can buy a house and have children with confidence, but the foreign debt is too heavy for their boyfriend to breathe and dare not have children.

The idea that parents prefer sons to daughters has seriously affected Lin Li's life and happiness. She could have chosen the life she wanted, but her future was buried by her brother's future.

Second, it can't be solved. We can only settle for so many years. Parents feel that they are old and think of their sorry daughter, but why didn't they think of their daughter at the first time? Just like in Ode to Joy, Fan's mother thinks that it is a waste of money for Fan to buy new clothes and rent a house. It is not a waste of money to give the money earned to her son. What logic is this?

We're all adults. My younger brother wants to buy a house, so he can buy a house through his own efforts. Why does he have to use his sister's bride price money to buy a house? Sister's bride price money should belong to her sister, not her brother. As parents, you should not let your daughter pay for your son's life. You don't ask for a bowl of water to be flat, but it's almost the same!

What can a daughter do? With such parents, she can only bear it. She can't resist or change. Parents should stop being hard on her and ask her forgiveness. It doesn't matter whether she forgives or not. Be nice to her and stop bullying her.

Stay for the rest of your life. Contact more when you are happy. If you are unhappy, contact less. Everyone is an adult, there is no need to pretend, and there is no need to hold a deep hatred. The most important thing is to live a good present and a good future.

Third, how to get rid of the pain brought by family background. People can never get rid of the shadow of family background. You can see an 80-year-old man at the age of five and the family injuries he suffered when he was a child. Some people really spend their whole lives healing the harm of being born in a family.

It's really hard to heal the scars of family background. What we can do is to alleviate the pain. All we can do is stop hurting. Don't transfer the mother's preference to her daughter and son, and don't transfer the father's abuse to her children, let alone the inferiority complex to her children, or affect family relations.

It's really hard to get rid of the pain of being born in a family. We may not be able to get rid of it, but we can stay away from it, stay away from our family, stay away from the pain, rebuild our souls and save ourselves.