Do girls need to be rich?

I think it is necessary for girls to be rich, I mean materially rich. As for spiritual enrichment, there is no doubt that it is even more necessary.

I mainly talk about material enrichment.

The so-called "material enrichment of girls" means that compared with boys, parents' material supply to girls should be more refined, high-end, and frequent. To put it bluntly, it means spending more money.

This may be contrary to what many people think. Many people probably think that it is more important for both men and women to pass on a correct mentality to their children, a worldview that is light on material things and rich in spirit.

I admit that this is important, but it is not "more" important than purely material satisfaction.

Because for many materials, only if you have owned them can you be qualified to look down on them.

Jack Ma is bearish on Mercedes-Benz because he can afford it. I am also bearish on Mercedes-Benz because I can also afford a Mercedes-Benz.

But if Jack Ma is bearish on Bugatti Veyron, and I am also bearish on Bugatti Veyron, that would be my hypocrisy or pretentiousness. Because I can't afford even one tire on a Bugatti Veyron. I am not qualified to belittle Bugatti Veyron.

At most, I can only say "I can't afford a Bugatti Veyron, I accept my fate." But accepting fate does not mean being bearish.

Resigning to fate is forced, and it is an unwilling admission of defeat after being sure that you cannot have it. And being bearish is the feeling after having owned, or having the ability to own, but choosing to give up.

Just like the Nazi officer in "Schindler's List". "I forgive you" because he had the ability to kill but chose not to. On the other hand, if it was a Jewish refugee who said "I pardon you" to a Nazi officer in a concentration camp, it would be a joke.

Because under the circumstances at that time, he did not have that qualification.

The same goes for kids.

I am not saying that parents should unconditionally meet their children’s material needs. Instead, we should try our best to meet the children's material needs after balancing the parents' abilities and the reasonableness of the children's needs, rather than deliberately suppressing their material desires in order to cultivate children who are "comfortable in poverty, happy with hardship, and live a simple life."

So why do we say that girls’ material satisfaction should be more refined, high-end and frequent?

Because, although we all understand that equality between men and women is a noble ideal of mankind, we have to admit that we still live in a male-dominated society.

One of the characteristics of a patriarchal society is that women are objectified.

When a woman's material needs are not met, then if she turns to her boyfriend for help, this behavior is allowed by mainstream morality in a patriarchal society.

The reverse is not true. That's called a pretty boy.

So to put it bluntly, a girl’s material wealth is to prevent her from being affected by a man’s mobile phone, a set of jewelry, a car, or a house in the future. .

Parents’ material satisfaction for girls is precisely so that she can control her emotions more autonomously and purely in the future.

I don’t like those material things, because my dad gave me those things a long time ago. All I have to consider is pure emotion.

Material satisfaction is precisely to prevent material from affecting the purity of emotion.