16 years old, senior one, it is difficult to talk to children. What should children do if they resist oil and salt?

What should children do if they resist oil and salt?

First, respect children.

Parents should not always stare at their children's shortcomings, and should not always "other people's children are good." When in contact with children, parents should try their best to tap the advantages of children and encourage them to reduce their resistance to parents.

Second, the topic should avoid learning.

When communicating with adolescent children, parents should not always focus on academic performance, which will only make children more stressed and doubt the motivation of parents to communicate. When communicating, parents can start with family affairs and stabilize their children's emotions before getting down to business.

Third, empathy.

It is normal for adolescent children to rebel, and their parents came from that era, so in the face of children's inexplicable behavior, we might as well put ourselves in their shoes and think about why children are like this. With empathy, you will understand the child and find the crux of the problem.

Fourth, don't spoil children.

Some parents spoil their children from childhood and give them whatever they want. No matter what happens, parents always follow their children's temperament, which leads to their self-centered thinking from an early age. They take it for granted that adults listen to themselves, and parents ask some things that children don't want, which will lead to children's resistance. Therefore, parents and other elders should not spoil their children.

Fifth, lower your posture and talk on an equal footing.

Some parents often discipline their children in an authoritative way, speak in a commanding tone, ask their children to obey themselves and impose their will on them. A gentle child will obey the authority of his parents. Children with strong personality will be rebellious, and with the awakening of children's self-awareness, the rebellious psychology is getting heavier and heavier. Therefore, parents should put down their bodies, make friends with their children and talk on an equal footing. In this way, children will tell their parents what they are talking about.

Sixth, parents and children should communicate more.

Although adolescent children have a strong sense of independence, they also need the care of their parents. If there is a lack of communication between children and parents, children will feel that parents don't understand themselves, while parents think that children are becoming more and more disobedient, and the gap between the two generations is growing, and gradually children will have rebellious psychology.

Seven, allow children to make mistakes.

Teenagers are the time to form their own opinions, so many parents can let their children make their own decisions. Although children will make mistakes, please ask parents to allow their children to make some small mistakes.

What are the reasons why children resist oil and salt?

First, parents' mistakes in understanding.

Some parents lack common psychological knowledge, are eager to achieve success in their children's education, and adopt simple and rude methods, often ignoring their children's self-esteem and psychological endurance.

Second, parents are influenced by traditional ideas.

Parents lack democratic awareness of their children's education, and always think that their children are immature and must obey themselves absolutely, and they cannot have their own opinions, otherwise they will be "disobedient" and "antagonistic". Therefore, children will not or rarely take their parents as confidence words, and are afraid of being blamed by their parents after doing something wrong. After many middle school students think that they have done something wrong, what they dislike most is their parents' accusations, and the reason for their disgust is their parents' bullying and stubbornness.

Third, parents and children lack two-way communication.

As children grow up, their sense of independence becomes stronger and stronger, which requires them to have their own way of doing things and do not want to be controlled too much. Some parents do everything for their children's protection, so that children's desire for independence and parents' improper kindness and care will lead to ideological conflicts and contradictions.

Fourth, enhance self-significance.

Adolescent children are in a transitional period and their sense of independence is increasing day by day. They are eager to be supervised by adults. They object to treating themselves as "children" and demand to become adults. In order to show that they are "different", they tend to be critical of everything. It is precisely because they feel or worry that the outside world ignores their independent existence that they have the feeling of using various means and methods to establish "self" and oppose the outside world.