How to kiss up in the workplace?

In the workplace, it is an indispensable and good way to compliment each other with language if you want to close the distance between people. Because everyone has vanity and likes to listen to other people's compliments, but to varying degrees. Especially when dealing with the boss, it can be said that people have mastered your career destiny. If you don't respect others, it's only a matter of time before I give you a pair of little shoes to wear.

Therefore, in addition to doing your job well, you should always praise your boss. To put it mildly, you should learn to kiss up. Flattery is also a science. You can't shoot if you want. Maybe it will be shot on the horse's leg, which is not worth the loss. So, how can we shoot it to achieve our goal and make each other happy?

First, sincerely praise. If the praise is groundless, the other party will not only have a good impression on you, but also think you are glib and hypocritical, and will hate you instead. For example, you obviously have buck teeth, but you should praise her for her beautiful smile. Obviously, her parents are just like Xifeng, so you have to praise her for looking like Fan Bingbing. Isn't this obvious irony? I still remember seeing such a sentence before, how to praise a girl: if a girl looks good, praise her directly; If she doesn't look good, praise her for being cute; If she is not cute, praise her temperament; If she has no temperament, praise her for her talent; If she has no talent, praise her for being brave. It takes a lot of courage to live well in this world, because there is nothing. Many people find it uncomfortable to please others; Asking people questions will make you look stupid. Actually, you don't have to think so. Only by making others comfortable, taking advantage of others and making others feel that they have meat to eat and wine to drink with you will others be willing to cooperate with you. Don't eat meat and chew bones there by yourself, and don't even leave any soup for others. Such a person who works for him is stupid. In the workplace, consultation is a flattery artifact. The best way is to humbly ask the leaders what they are good at and familiar with, which is still difficult. This can give the leader a good sense of pleasure as a teacher. At the same time, it will also make the leaders think that you are a modest and studious guy and worth cultivating. For us, we can brainstorm and learn new things. I might as well study for ten years if I listen to you.

Second, specifically, it is necessary to have substance in words. In the communication with leaders or colleagues, even if the other party has only a little advantage, you can hold a magnifying glass, enlarge it many times, choose the right time and give strong praise. Because everyone wants to be recognized and their differences can be discovered by others. For example, a girl has a mole on her forehead. At this time, you can praise her like this: a painting stained with blood is not as good as a little cinnabar on your forehead. In the workplace, the main job of a leader is to make decisions. A new decision will often encounter a lot of resistance and opposition when it is implemented. At this time, you need to study the decision of the leader deeply, find its bright spot quickly, respond positively and support unconditionally. This will make the leader feel that you are his confidant, and you understand his good intentions, thus promoting you, constantly adding burdens to you and making you rise.

Third, it varies from person to person. Saying different things to different people is different. Because everyone's personality, environment and life experience are different. The slogan of the seven wolves is very good: men, more than one side. In fact, women have more than one side. If you are chatting with an old leader who is about to retire, you can talk to him about some of his past events and boast about his glorious history. Then pretend to worship and say: damn, you are great. If he is a young leader, say he is young and promising. He climbed to such a high position at such a young age and had a bright future. If she is a female executive, her strong dedication to her work can be praised. Women don't let men, win glory for women and so on.

Fourth, we should be able to solve problems for leaders. Gold is not enough, no one is perfect. Everyone will make mistakes of one kind or another. Especially for leaders, the more things to deal with, the more likely they are to make mistakes. After a leader makes a wrong decision, as a subordinate, he must not shirk his responsibility. At this time, you can take the initiative to stand up, agree with the correctness of the leader's decision, and admit that you misunderstood the leader's intention during the implementation process. It's not the decision-making fault, it's the execution fault. Only in this way can the pressure on the leader be relieved and the leader feel that you are helping him.

There is a cold joke that fully illustrates the importance of solving problems for leaders: a county magistrate accidentally farted during a meeting, and everyone around him couldn't help laughing. Because of his face, the county magistrate said to his secretary, "Be careful in the future!" The secretary quickly argued, "I didn't put it there!" " "Soon, the secretary was removed. The reason is: "if you can't afford something big, why do you need it?" "Praise is a positive language, which can make people have positive emotions and change negative mentality. There is a saying in Sun Tzu's Art of War: the place of life and death, the way of survival, can not be ignored.

In the workplace, flattery can make your boss like you, make your colleagues respect you, make your opponents appreciate you, and make yourself invincible. Many people will hate flatterers and think flattery is despicable. It is even more disgusting to see other people's flattering posture and the appearance of a slave. But leaders are also ordinary people, and they also have their own secular desires, and they like to crowding round. Therefore, more praise and compliments can make the relationship between superiors and subordinates stronger. Of course, flattery cannot be done in a day. It takes a long time to observe and understand the leaders and deeply study human nature in order to leave no trace.