Parenting Collection: Why don't children want to go to kindergarten?

It is suggested to find the reasons from two aspects: (1) Children are unsociable; (2) There are some factors that make children unwilling to go to kindergartens. The latter depends on whether you understand or not. There are many reasons why children don't fit in, so we should find out the corrective and educational measures according to the reasons. If the child lives alone for a long time, his parents are not sociable, rarely contact with the outside world, and are not used to interacting with strangers, forming a child's withdrawn character. Then, parents should try their best to keep up with the children around them in terms of their clothes, speech, manners and living habits, so as to reduce the discomfort caused by their uniqueness. Children can be appropriately encouraged to invite some small guests to their homes, and parents should warmly entertain them and set an example for their children. When you arrive at the kindergarten in the morning, you can invite your neighbors to go, buy new toys and play with friends, so that children can gradually get used to and adapt to the collective life. If children are very active at home, but quietly in the group, it is mostly because children often hear the praise of their parents at home, and feel that they are not as good as their peers in the group, thus losing self-confidence and flinching whenever something happens. Adults should cooperate with teachers, discover and use a child's strengths, and let him show it in the group. When he is praised by his teachers and peers, he will be confident and get along well with his peers. If children get along with their peers because they don't want to suffer, then parents should be strict with their children and create conditions for them to play with their peers, which will help them get along with their partners in harmony and establish friendship.

For young children, kindergarten is a psychological battlefield full of strange environment. Because the biggest "separation anxiety" in a child's life is produced in kindergarten.

Some children don't want to go to kindergarten, always crying or even refusing to eat. Parents are afraid of wronged their children. As a result, he was sent to stop, fishing for three days and drying the net for two days, and the child could not adapt to the collective life for a long time.

In this case, you can solve the problem by doing the following:

1, you must stick to it every day and be firm. We should say "It's time to go to kindergarten tomorrow" instead of "How about going to kindergarten tomorrow?" Don't trick children, and don't promise unreasonable demands, even if children cry every day.

2. Send the child to the class and turn around immediately. The teachers in the class have a way to comfort the children. Don't look back with tears, this kind of anxiety will infect the child and make him feel more afraid and lonely. In fact, it will be fine for the child to cry for a few days.

3. If possible, you can pick up the children earlier in the first few days, so as not to increase the loneliness and homesickness of the children when there are only 1-2 people left.

4. If your child is timid and introverted, you can introduce the child's personality characteristics to the teacher first, and let the teacher introduce a lively and outgoing child to play together, so that the child will adapt more easily.

5. Ask the teacher about the child's performance in one day. Any slight progress should be praised, which is a kind of spiritual comfort for the child.

6. After taking home from the kindergarten, talk to the children about the life in the kindergarten, let him perform the children's songs and dances learned in the kindergarten, and guide the children's good memories of the life in the park from the front.

7. Remember not to send the nursery to the nursery as a threat to the child, which will deepen his dislike of the nursery.

Kindergarten still has a lingering fear for every child, just because it is a completely strange place and there are no relatives. Mommy cried wildly when she left, and fell to the ground helplessly. This horrible memory, for children, has a feeling of being torn and cut off. Therefore, how to make children go to kindergarten happily is a very important and necessary difficulty for parents. Parenting education in this period has a great influence on children's spiritual and psychological development, representing another change and transformation of life.

Practical article: Duoduo fell in love with kindergarten in this way.

When I sent Duo Duo to kindergarten in the morning, I still saw that many children still had resistance to kindergarten and felt distressed loudly. I also heard many parents talk about children's enrollment. Many people say that they cried for half a month when they first entered kindergarten. It seems that Duoduo has adapted to the kindergarten in just five days, which is relatively fast. This is what I did to dispel a lot of rejection of kindergarten and guide him to have a good impression of going to school.

1 indifference method

When I said I wouldn't go to kindergarten, I avoided the topic of going or not and gave the answer. Instead, I said, "I want to share toys with children and help organize things;" A good boy listens to his parents at home and his teachers at school. "

2 Comparative method

At first, if Duoduo didn't want to go to school, he would say something like "Kindergarten is not fun, I don't like going". I knew Toto wanted to play at home again. So I made a comparison between home and kindergarten: although there are many toys at home, you are the only one to play with, and my father has to go to work and my mother has to do housework, so I can't always play with you. But there are many children your age playing together in kindergarten, and the teacher keeps teaching you to play new games.

3 communication methods

Next, I put forward a lot of teachers who don't like kindergarten. First of all, I carefully asked Duoduo why he didn't like teachers. The day after I got the answer, I talked to my teacher. Because this problem needs to be solved by both sides, I euphemistically told the teacher that I am afraid of kindergarten and teachers, and then put forward many aspects of my personality so that teachers can understand. At the same time, for a particularly fierce teacher, many parents also mentioned that children cry when they see this teacher, so we also talked to the person in charge of the school "secretly". As a result, the principal said that the teacher has such a good personality, but if she has a good heart, talk to her. Then I told Toto about the situation, and what the teacher did wrong would be changed, just as Toto would make mistakes.

4 reasoning method

Many people are timid and afraid of strangers, especially men. They were unfamiliar with the teacher at first, so they were afraid to see other children being told by the teacher. They told me that they were afraid that the teacher would swear. I enlighten many people: teachers don't swear for no reason, just like at home. If they don't do anything wrong, their mothers won't get angry. Sometimes they won't listen, and they will get angry if they are too naughty. Teachers are like their mothers. If you behave well, they will praise you and say you are great. If you do something wrong, of course the teacher will say you. As long as you correct it, the teacher will be happy again

5 praise method

Although Duoduo didn't want to go to school at first, he still learned something at school. When he comes home, when he is playing or doing something, he will talk to himself about kindergarten or sing songs taught by the teacher. When I was cooking, he danced outside alone, washing his hands and singing "Hand Wash Song". At this time, I will praise him with a little exaggeration. Let him know the sense of accomplishment in kindergarten.

6 education law

Many people like to sing children's songs, and they can sing dozens of songs. Among them, there is a> lyric that the sun shines in the sky, flowers smile at me, and birds say: early and early! Why are you carrying a small schoolbag? I go to school, I am not late every day, I love studying and working, and I want to make contributions to the people when I grow up. I will analyze the lyrics sentence by sentence and let him know why I go to school and why. Besides, Toto also likes watching TV> I brought that book. There is one book & gt, so I asked Duoduo to read it to me. When I got to the point, I paused and read that sentence to a lot.

For example: "School begins! School begins! Hurry up, don't be late! "

"I love school!"

"It seems quite fun!"

"That's great! You can go to school with your good friends. "

"Give us a class tomorrow, will you?"

This trick really works. Up to now, I wake up every day urging me, "Mom, I'm going to kindergarten. Hurry up, I don't want to be late." At the same time, I often say, "I will go to kindergarten from Monday to Friday, so I will study hard and learn knowledge seriously." What is even more shocking is that I had a high fever two days ago and cried for me to take it to kindergarten. He kept clamoring to go in, and as a result, many class teachers did ideological work for him. But before going to bed at night, he repeatedly said, "I'm going to kindergarten tomorrow!" " "

The method is not suitable for every child, but I think most children who don't want to go to kindergarten may have the same reason. Find the right way to guide them, and I believe your children will like school soon!

Let the baby fall in love with kindergarten, these practices are also very clever!

Establish good interpersonal and social relations.

In fact, it is not difficult to help children who want to go to kindergarten. As long as they use their brains a little, they can cope.

The following strategies and methods can be used for parents' reference: First, find friends for children, children of the same age or one or two years older.

Take time out every day to let children get along with children of similar age in the neighborhood, so as to establish good interpersonal and social relations. In the future, when they go to kindergarten, they can go to school with their peers, so that they will not feel lonely and unaccompanied; The second is to develop children's normal work and rest habits.

Go to bed early and get up early, have two meals regularly and take a nap at noon; Third, often take children to outdoor sports and games to cultivate good living habits; The fourth is to complete the training of children's urination.

Let children learn to take care of themselves and increase their self-confidence; The fifth is to cultivate children's interest in reading. Provide children with some simple cards and pictures to cultivate their reading habits. When you are not in kindergarten, you should first form the habit of living regularly and spontaneously, so that you can adapt to group life in the future, and you will not be ill-adapted because of changes in life.

Reduce setbacks and enhance self-confidence

Secondly, the cultivation of good habits must be accumulated bit by bit. Therefore, parents must spend time and energy to cultivate their children's good living habits, encourage their children to know more about other children and establish friends and peers. The ultimate goal of cultivating children's normal work and rest and training children to urinate and defecate is to adapt children to group life. If children do not develop these habits, it is easy to be frustrated in group life and reduce their self-esteem. Secondly, it will increase the troubles of kindergarten teachers, be easily laughed at by students, cause great harm to children's young minds, lose confidence and shrink back, dare not try and take risks easily, and lack enterprising spirit.

Therefore, before children go to kindergarten, they must learn to go to the toilet by themselves.

For example, when my son was four years old, I asked him to start a small kindergarten class. I remember taking my son to school on the first day. As soon as I entered the school gate, my son immediately let go of my hand and greeted the children everywhere happily. I am having a swell time. The next day, the class officially started. My son stood in the alley waiting for the doll car in kindergarten uniform, watching him look forward to and be happy, without any fear of going to school. Kindergarten has become the happiest thing for children every day.

Most children nowadays are only children. If possible, it is best to send them to a nursery or kindergarten and let them live a collective life. Children of the same age have a natural affinity with each other, and soon they will live together in harmony and happiness. Parents don't have to worry too much about the inadaptability of going to nursery and kindergarten soon.