I broke up and sent her a text message. She said she was sad.

It may be a very difficult and disappointing experience to hear you say that you and your ex-wife are impossible. Nevertheless, I suggest you respect her decision and consider the following points:

1. Respect her decision: Your ex-wife has expressed her decision not to resume relations with you. It is essential to respect her decision, even if you are disappointed or sad. Don't try to force her to change her mind, it will only make her more disgusted.

2. Give yourself time and space: It takes time and space to accept this decision and deal with your emotions. Give yourself some time to deal with your emotions, so that you can better deal with this situation in the next steps.

3. Communication method: If you still have questions or things to communicate with your ex-wife, try to contact her in a non-harassing and non-entangled way. Try to stay calm and rational and ask her if she has time to discuss your problems or things.

4. Self-reflection: Review your relationship with your ex-wife, consider the reasons why you broke up, and whether you can solve these problems. This can help you better understand your role and how to avoid similar problems in the next relationship.

5. Seek support: It takes time and support to deal with this emotional loss and difficulty. Consider talking to family, friends or professional counselors who can provide you with emotional support and guidance.

The most important thing to remember is that a relationship with an ex-wife needs to respect each other's wishes and decisions. Although this may be an unacceptable result, it is essential to respect her thoughts and take positive measures to deal with her feelings.