How to send a text message to your boyfriend to find a topic

"Do you think my new skirt looks good?"

"beautiful! You did a good job. Keep moving! ..... What did you ask me just now? "

Girls who have been in love for a long time will have a common problem, how to find a little excitement in the dull and boring life that tends to be tired.

How to make a perfunctory and lazy boyfriend notice himself?

There are six sentences that can stimulate your boyfriend for one second, making him either stare at you like two bells, or smile from ear to ear, or be so nervous that his mouth is thirsty.

If you don't believe me, you can try:

Show me your mobile phone.

Wow, that girl has long legs!

You go to rest, I'll go shopping by myself!

I bought you aj new limited edition basketball shoes (grab! I gave you a red envelope)

You're amazing. Why didn't I think of that?

My period was delayed for half a month.

Of course, just saying the answer without giving a solution is hooliganism. These six sentences correspond to the needs of six kinds of boys in intimate relationships. Can you see them?

When you say "show me your mobile phone" or just pick up the other person's mobile phone, 99% of the boys will suddenly frown, showing nervousness and vigilance.

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This is really a very interesting thing.

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My best friend is a little expert in turning over mobile phones. I once advised her not to keep going through her mobile phone, even if she is a boyfriend, she should give him some space. However, she asked me, "If there is no ghost in my heart, why are you afraid of being overthrown?" "He is not ok? If I turn it over, will something happen? "

On this issue, my boyfriend and I had a deep discussion. He is a very boring person and has no ambiguous objects, but he still doesn't like me to look at his mobile phone. The explanation he gave me was "I want to be alone in front of you." I just don't want to expose all my looks to you. Doesn't mean I'll cheat. "

For example, he is fragile, for example, he haggles over every ounce and complains to his friends after quarreling with me. For another example, he ate 10 yuan's takeout, but gave me 30 yuan's fruit. These are all things he doesn't want me to know. Because he wants to be a rational, responsible, humorous and generous image in my mind.

So boys really don't like being turned over. Similarly, most boys don't like to turn over girls' mobile phones. They believe that love should be independent and appreciate each other.

Therefore, it's probably nothing if boys don't let you turn over your mobile phone. Don't scare yourself.

Why don't you think about it? If one day, your boyfriend finds you complaining to your best friend, gossiping about his predecessor, and there are some photos of G's predecessor on the online disk, what should you do?

"To set him free is to let him indulge." You must never think of that. It is human nature to yearn for freedom. Don't do anything that goes against freedom.

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No relationship can keep the freshness of being together for a long time. This loss of freshness is not a moral problem, but a physiological problem.

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But if there is no new stimulus for a long time, the relationship between two people will indeed be more dangerous. So many girls will try to rekindle their passion and interest through sexual attraction and buying some small clothes and toys.

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In fact, it is not necessarily sex that creates freshness. Especially if your boyfriend is tired after work, your "temptation" may be a kind of "pressure". Knowing each other's needs and creating freshness is the real freshness.

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Most of the topics that boys and brothers talk about are not suitable for girls. Why? Because they have similar tastes, preferences and ways of thinking. So chatting can be more relaxed and enjoyable.

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At this time, if you can tell your boyfriend some jokes that brothers can play, he will be surprised at you. For example, walking on the road and seeing a long-legged beauty is normal to be attracted. At this time, if you say, is it so beautiful? Whether she looks good or I look good, boys will be wronged and think that I just appreciate a beautiful thing. Why are you so angry?

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Actually, you don't know what you're angry about. Maybe it's jealousy+possessiveness, which makes you feel offended that your boyfriend looks at other girls. So, when you lick the screen in front of the TV and call all kinds of men's husbands, has your boyfriend ever been jealous of them?

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It is better to be generous and enjoy the beautiful girls who pass by him, and of course they can also be beautiful boys. When he can gradually accept that you are his own kind, you can unlock more novel things.

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Many girls will misunderstand love.

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Now that I'm with you, you must accompany me in whatever I like to do. Because two people are more interesting together. Nonono, the other party really doesn't think so.

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For example, shopping is the top ten torture for boys. This is because boys and girls have different living habits due to different thinking. Girls enjoy the shopping process very much, they will spend impulsively and hoard goods, and their thinking is very divergent when shopping. And boys are often, what is missing, what to buy! I won't compare prices, it's simple and rude.

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For boys, enough is good. Therefore, when a girl does something with a girl's mind, don't drag her boyfriend, let them go and let them sit and play games. Otherwise, he is absent-minded and dying, and you will be angry when you look at him. Such an interesting thing is better done by like-minded girlfriends.

The most important thing in falling in love is "comfort", which may be more important than any other feeling. To put it bluntly, "you are free to be yourself in this relationship."

Love has no fixed appearance and pattern, and no love is the best and most beautiful. Girls always have too high fantasies and expectations about love, but they ignore it. The best love is that two people can feel comfortable.

In fact, boys are more likely to be satisfied by material things than girls. Why? There are two reasons.

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First, girls themselves will have a kind of "incentive consumption" and often get something valuable. This desire is much more common in peacetime, so when it comes to material rewards, it is normal after all.

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Second, enterprising boys will secretly equate their abilities with their values. Therefore, when you give him something material, he will acquiesce that it is your affirmation to him. He provides you with high emotional value, sense of responsibility and security, so you reward him with a pair of shoes and a big red envelope to recognize his value.

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Especially for most ordinary boys, the economic pressure of falling in love and getting married makes them unable to buy what they want at will. If they are always in a state of giving, they will have some sense of loss, and it is inevitable that they will feel melancholy when they dream back at midnight. They even think that the purpose of love is to pay, sacrifice and restrain?

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Boys usually don't often express their efforts and dissatisfaction. They choose to suppress these little thoughts in their minds, accumulate and accumulate, and one day they will explode.

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So the material reward at this time is like giving him a little dew and giving him a little sweetness. Let him often experience the surprise and beauty of love. This positive emotion of giving is enough to offset the depression of giving and sacrificing for a long time.

A man is an animal with self-confidence and inferiority. As long as you keep praising him, he will be confident. If you keep scolding him, he will feel inferior. It's simple. Overconfidence and inferiority are not conducive to the stability and durability of intimate relationships.

But don't worry, most boys who have worked for several years can still keep a clear self-awareness. In other words, he knows exactly what he looks like and how much he weighs. At this time, if you punch him and put pressure on him, you will undoubtedly tell him "you can't do it" over and over again, which will make the boy very depressed and even wonder "Are you really wronged with me?" Thereby creating an escape mentality for you.

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Actually, it's not that hard to praise from the heart, is it? You just have to give him an affirmation, let him know that you need him, he has the ability to give you happiness, and his emotional needs are met a lot. But if you need him and criticize him constantly, he can't resist, and he will escape, thus becoming perfunctory and numb. At this time, you blame him again, why not treat you as well as you did at the beginning.

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Isn't it a little too cruel for him?

In fact, boys like to take responsibility, because the greater the ability, the greater the responsibility. For him, taking certain responsibilities is a thing that can reflect his ability and is also a challenging thing.

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Most boys have heroic dreams in their hearts, but they lack a little strength and courage to become heroes. At this time, they hope to show their heroic qualities in their lover.

They usually like children, too, because children can attach themselves to him and make him feel capable and authoritative.

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So when you tell him, we may have the crystallization of love. His first reaction must be surprise and surprise. However, due to practical factors, he may feel anxious and hesitant immediately. That doesn't mean he doesn't want to be responsible. On the contrary, it may be inconsistent with his expectation of future family responsibilities. )

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What girls need to do is not to suffer from the boy's reaction, "sentence him to death", openly express his concerns and solve problems with him. This is the long-term development.

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At the end of the article, I want to tell girls not to think that they are weak and insecure in their feelings. In fact, boys will feel insecure.

It's just that boys are shy when they feel insecure, because they can't express love and don't ask for love, so they become evasive, numb and indifferent. At this time, the misunderstanding of girls often makes boys more evasive.

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Therefore, if you want a long-term and happy intimate relationship, you must first learn to understand and meet your needs. When you want to take it, first think about whether you can pay the same price.

"Show me your mobile phone?"

"Show me yours first?"

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I'm Chen Yu, an emotional counselor, and I know more than you think. If you are emotionally confused, you can ask for a private letter or comment.