Why do girls issue good people cards?

The last thing a man wants to hear is probably: "You are a good man, but …" The good man card has now become something that many men can't avoid. But some people wonder why I always get a good friend card.

A brother asked me if I really liked a girl. When I first met her, I often contacted, called and texted, and had a good chat. Later, I seemed to think that I was interested in her, and I became cold.

I leave messages in her space every day, such as good morning, good night at night, holidays, weather changes and so on. She only replies occasionally. And texting, good morning and good evening every day, almost the same content, rarely reply. Few people answer the phone …

Until some time ago, she contacted me. She said she wanted to go out to play and relax, so I helped her design several detailed tourist routes. She also said to let me play together! Once asked me to help her plan her future, whether to pursue further studies or work. I gave advice, which seems to have helped a little. The result now is the result of my suggestion!

Then one day she said she was bored, had tea together, and then went. After tea, we eat and watch movies together. This is the second time we have met! I gave her two books that day and she liked them very much. She's good at talking, and she's happy to watch the movie The Journey to the West. Later, she called and texted for a few days, which was quite good.

One day, she asked me to accompany her to see the new store. Busy at work, just say I'll leave work early to accompany you. I wonder if I'm angry this time! Then she suddenly turned cold and ignored me ... I didn't contact her for three days. Today, I wrapped a bunch of lilies to find her. She likes lilies, used her favorite blue wrapping paper and bought the blue vase and photo album she always wanted.

Go to the door of her community, she will come down only after death, and then finally meet, without flowers or things, and talk a lot, she accepted! Then he said he wouldn't let me go to her and contact her again! Very decisive ...

What should I do? I really like her and have persisted for so long. I really don't want to give up. If I can, I will marry her and treat her well for life!

Next, let's analyze this story together.

When I saw this article, I found it very interesting at first. Obviously, this is the voice of most men. Why am I dissatisfied with her? Is there anything I haven't done well enough?

In fact, many men are very good to each other at the beginning of their love with girls, which is great. As a result, the other party felt uncomfortable and backfired. The final result can be imagined.

The above is a typical example: not building enough attraction, providing too much availability (you are my master, you can get me at any time, I am ready for you at any time), exposing your sense of need and putting yourself in a very passive position. The more so, the more disgusted girls are.

A girl is like a small potted plant you cultivated. Too much water for a boy will only make her wither earlier.

At first, because the freshness was still maintained, but after a while, the freshness faded, and boys needed to get along with her in a different way, instead of always doing it in the past. Leave messages in each other's space every day, and send messages on holidays or weather changes. I really don't understand. Are you the reception desk?

Do you have the necessity and obligation to do so? This is also a basic mistake made by many men. From my point of view, I sympathize with that girl. You can put yourself in others' shoes. Suppose Xifeng leaves messages in your space every day and sends you messages every morning and evening. She's fine. She greets you every time the weather changes and festivals. Will you be happy or bored?

When a girl needs to go out to play, the boy volunteered to help her arrange it. Still the same question: Is it necessary and obligatory for you to do so? Why don't you arrange a trip for your parents?

On the second date, everything seemed fine to the boy, but later she said that she was not with her because of the boy's work, which made her very angry. There are two things to understand here:

The first is that she is angry not because of that time, but because she doesn't like you at all. Suppose the boy she likes stood her up, do you think she would treat her in the same way? Obviously different.

The second is a theory: the result of the last interaction has nothing to do with the next interaction. She won't take it to heart, because she was so kind to the last time. The good result of the last contact may be because of the environment or her mood at that time, and it is impossible for boys to give her the same mood again.

The boy did what you thought was right: bought a bunch of flowers and ran downstairs to wait for her. Bian Xiao thinks she is very kind to you. If it were me, I would never let you have a chance to meet, or even directly block you. The reason is simple, you are threatening her! When you do these things, have you ever thought about her feelings and what people around her think of her? You do all these things from your starting point, but you ignore the social pressure she is under!

All kinds of behaviors made by boys only accelerate the withering of your love flower. Many men selfishly think that giving a woman what he thinks she needs is enough, but have you ever really thought about what she needs? As an important factor in getting along with each other in sexual relations, this is the sorrow of many men.

Therefore, there is a simple truth: gender equality. Unilateral efforts are hard to achieve results. Don't believe that sincerity. I wish I could touch her. Finally, I can only touch myself and receive a good friend card.