I got a call from the class teacher at noon.

12 noon 17 The phone rang, and the caller ID was Teacher Xie. Needless to say, the eldest daughter was in trouble again in class, otherwise the teacher could not have called to praise her at noon. What did you do? ! I feel nervous in an instant.

? I got through to the teacher's phone and said two things: the first thing, the eldest daughter went to school early and read comics-A Shuai series; The second thing, in math class, after the boys in the class folded the paper, they blew it up with the airflow and made a "bang", which disturbed the class order!

Reading comic books has been instructed by the teacher several times. In addition to not being allowed to bring books to school, she can borrow books from her classmates at school and even cancel the plan to buy books. But the problem has not been solved and the source cannot be controlled. There is no other way to solve this problem now.

Disrupting classroom discipline is also a headache. The eldest daughter, a boy, seldom plays with girls. She always fights with the boys in the class, says good things, and even takes her to apologize to her classmates, but she is completely unaware of the shame of apologizing.

Teachers want parents to discipline their children at home and talk to them at home.

After hanging up the phone, I muttered to myself and made the same mistake again. It seems that the last lesson was too light. I don't remember. The punishment should be heavier this time. The fire in my heart is burning, thinking about how to teach my children at night.

But there is a voice in my heart asking myself, is this a lesson that children will remember? Children don't make the same mistakes? The answer is no! Apart from remembering the feeling of being taught, children can't stand being taught, and they still feel that it's not their own fault. They blame themselves for being discovered carelessly and remind themselves to be careful not to be discovered next time, so they will make the same mistake.

If you don't teach, what do you take the teacher's words for? If children don't listen, even parents don't listen, teachers will be disappointed in their children. Children's education needs the combination of home and school. Parents' teachers have repeatedly mentioned that parents should control their children.

I have butterflies in my stomach, and Libra's tangled nature is exposed. It's almost two hours since the teacher called. I haven't decided how to talk to my children at night and how to educate them.

Think about the emotional management courses you took during this period. Before solving the problem, you must first accept what has happened and accept your emotions. Children are not serious in class and love to play tricks. What has happened, there is no turning back. Accept the fact that children violate classroom discipline. It is normal for me to feel angry when I hear the teacher's complaints. After accepting my anger, I feel calmer.

To accept these two facts, we must establish contact with our children. Angry parents find it difficult to communicate with their children. They are all very angry and not in the mood to hold their children. If you can't do it now, don't contact your child until you are calm. You can touch your head, pat your shoulder, beat your back, hold your hand, or rub your feet. Until I see the child's smile. When a child smiles, her heart will open and let us enter her heart.

After accepting and connecting, discuss with the child the facts that have been sent without judgment, and invite the child to find ways to let him see and feel his behavior.

Writing here, I feel that I know how to communicate with my children at night. Not getting angry is the first step. After establishing contact with my child, I will play games and role-play with her. This time, let her be a teacher, a parent, and I will be a child and feel each other's feelings.

Try this method in the evening and share it tomorrow.