The ten most hurtful things parents say to their children

The ten most hurtful sentences from parents are as follows:

1. "Why are you so stupid?"

Tell your children: You are not stupid. Who labels children as “idiots”? If you don't want your child to become a "stupid", please appreciate your child in normal times and give your thumbs up. A simple sentence may affect your child's life.

2. "It won't work if I say no."

Don't act "because I am your father/mother". "Being arbitrary" is not the best way to educate. Fear does not mean belief. Respect your child's choice, learn to discuss with your child, and listen to your child's suggestions.

3. "I don't care about you anymore, just do whatever you want."

Don't say anything without force. Stop imposing your parents’ wishes on their children and stop giving empty lectures. Respect is the best way. When criticizing a child, be careful not to hurt the child, tolerate the child's "not doing his job properly", and do not force the child to do something he doesn't like temporarily.

4. "Shut up, why are you disobedient?"

Don't blindly ask your children to obey you. Give children the right to argue and cultivate children with independent opinions. Learn to talk to your children. Silence can be more powerful when children talk back to their parents.

5. "If you get 100 points in the test, I will buy it for you..."

If you... we will..., based on the child's performance Conditions as goals and plans. The decision lies with the parents, not the children. The goals set for children should be tangible and tangible. Let the children know what makes them cute. Let the children know that learning is their own business. Don’t take the child’s scores too seriously.

6. "You are too timid, there is nothing to be afraid of."

Fear is actually a normal phenomenon in childhood. Denying the child's fear is equivalent to denying the child's self, making the child feel powerless and frustrated. When a child feels scared, it is better for parents to show timidity like the child, let the child know how normal it is to feel fear, and slowly eliminate the sense of powerlessness in the child's heart.

7. "You did something wrong again, why are you so stupid!"

"Oh, why did you..." It is easy to blurt out words full of complaints or helplessness. Allow children to make mistakes and give them opportunities to grow themselves. Children who fail need more affirmation. Educate children to relax rather than block, don’t label them randomly, and tell them to do one thing well every day.

8 "You don't have much potential at first glance. In the future..."

Set the balance of expectations. Never say to a child: You can’t do it. To be a confident parent, your child needs appreciation and desires to be affirmed. Give your child a chance to exercise and get rid of the shadow of inferiority in your child's heart.

9 "We are all children, why are you not as good as others!"

Every child has his or her own uniqueness. Children should not be educated in a unified way, but should be taught in accordance with their aptitude. Tell children that success does not depend on the size of the role. What is the key to making children excellent? Let your child learn to compete with himself and grow at his own speed.

10. "I only know how to play, but I lose energy when it comes to studying."

It is a child's nature to like to play. Let children focus on learning, let children learn in a relaxed environment, and let children play video games appropriately. Do not deprive children of their right to play and play to build their self-confidence.