"Implicit bullying" in kindergarten: teachers don't beat or scold, and children have hardships.

School bullying is a terrible word. In the eyes of many parents, school bullying frequently occurs in primary schools and junior high schools, so this stage is also an important period for families to educate their children against bullying.

But you know what? Now the situation in school bullying is getting younger and younger, and even many children are treated unfairly in kindergartens.

What is even more heartbreaking is that some seemingly harmless "hidden bullying" has caused children to suffer deeply, and parents feel helpless.

Teachers don't beat and scold, but children have well-meaning words. Parents should not ignore these "hidden bullying"

I chatted with my colleagues the other day. My colleague's son is in the middle class in kindergarten. When talking about the children's performance in school, my colleague admitted that this kindergarten was very disappointing, and she was considering changing schools for her children.

It turns out that my colleague's son is a naughty boy in the class. Many times, teachers need more patience when they sleep and eat. Over time, the child became the most troublesome one in the class.

Although the teachers in this class don't beat and scold the children, they are often cynical. The attitude towards the son of a colleague is obviously different from that of other children. After a long time, many students in the class imitated the teacher's attitude. When a classmate is mentioned, everyone has a bad impression.

Colleagues admit that although it is true that his son is naughty, the attitude of teachers and classmates towards his son makes him very uncomfortable. Children who grow up in this environment will inevitably be troubled by self-confidence and self-esteem.

The experience of colleagues is not uncommon in real life, which is also a "hidden bullying" staged by many kindergartens.

The following kinds of hidden bullying are often staged in kindergartens, so parents should pay attention:

1. The teacher's abandonment makes the child "invisible"

In kindergarten, two or three teachers usually have to take care of thirty or forty children. If some of these children are demanding and stubborn, teachers will feel very tired and helpless.

As teachers, they can neither punish nor scold children, so in order to take care of large groups, many teachers will choose to give up such children directly, as long as they are not out of line, they will muddle along.

However, this approach often leads to children's needs not being met. Teachers' indifference and abandonment will make them "invisible people" in the class. With the development of children's minds, they will also show great resistance to teachers and kindergartens.

2. Teachers' unintentional "language violence"

Verbal violence is not only accusations, but also inappropriate jokes and casual taunts.

When the naughty children in the class suddenly stand out, the teacher may casually say: even one classmate can do this, but other children can't?

Seeing the obese children in the class at work, the teacher may make a joke: Little Fatty is really diligent today!

Although these words are not malicious, they will label the children, and what the teacher says and does will affect the students in the class. Children will soon remember these nicknames and enlarge them infinitely.

3. Habitually dominated by classmates

When children get along, we will find that some children with strong personality will habitually dominate and guide others, while the dominated children will compromise because of their personality even if they don't want to.

In fact, this kind of disregard for the wishes of others is also a hidden campus bullying. Over time, the dominated children will lose self-confidence, and their personality will become passive to Nuo Nuo, afraid to express themselves.

What should parents do if their children are bullied on campus?

First of all, parents should teach their children to bravely say no to school bullying. The prerequisite for children to refuse is to let them know which behaviors belong to school bullying.

Parents can tell their children the scope of bullying through some picture book stories, and help them identify invisible bullying by communicating with their children about the school.

Secondly, when children are bullied on campus, parents should not just teach them how to fight back, but should communicate with teachers in time, meet with parents when necessary, and make their position clear with practical actions to let children know that they are their strong backing.

Finally, parents should not ignore school bullying's psychological harm to their children. Regardless of whether the problem is solved temporarily or not, parents should pay attention to their children's psychological changes and actively channel their negative emotions.

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