Why do you have to squat when talking to children? Because what you squat down is not the body, but the distance.

"Why do you want to squat down and talk to children? Aren't you tired? "

"Not tired"

"You are good. I can't stand it for a while. "

"It's not my fault, but I can only see the world in the eyes of children when I kneel down."

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This is a conversation between a friend and a kindergarten teacher. At that time, I was puzzled by "squatting down to see the world in the eyes of children". It was not until I became a mother that I knew that I could see a lot of things I didn't understand when I squatted down to look after my children.

For example,

When the child didn't want to wash his hair-I squatted down and found the shampoo foam in his eyes, and I also understood that the child resisted shampoo because he was afraid of spicy eyes and pain.

When the child was crying and disobedient in the car-I squatted down and saw the child's uncomfortable expression, and I also understood that the child was crying because of motion sickness.

When the child doesn't want to take a bath-I crouched down and saw the child's red skin, and I understood that the water temperature was too hot and too much skin was stabbed.

When children don't want to be picky about food-I crouched down to watch children escape without swallowing, and I also understood that people's tastes and preferences are different.

Once, when we were young, weren't we criticized for being picky about food because we didn't eat this or that? It was not until we grew up that we found that the food we wanted to eat and could eat was wider than that of our parents. The so-called parents are not picky about food, but they don't buy food they don't like. Without objective things, there would be no picky eaters.

It may be that children are unwilling to wash their hair, cry in the car and take a bath, including picky eaters. Many parents are curious, "Why do you have to kneel down and talk to your child?" This is because squatting down and talking to children has the following advantages:

1, talk face to face, and you can find more expressions.

Communicating with children is sometimes really an art. If you want to be accepted by children, then parents should find a position opposite to their children and bend over to talk to them. What's important is that this action can help us find more expressions of children, and people sometimes have the same words, but have different understandings. Take the word "stubborn" as an example. Some people think it is a derogatory term, while others think it is a commendatory term.

Therefore, the communication between people, including the communication between parents and children, is often "you say yours, I will do mine", and communication without contact is naturally inefficient. If you can communicate with your child face to face, every sentence will be as concise as possible with the change of expression, because sometimes the eyes and expressions between people are often the most beautiful.

2, squatting down to talk, is "showing good" to the baby.

Kneeling down and talking to the child face to face, in fact, the influence of details lies in the consistency of the position and angle with the child, and also lies in the concept of lowering the posture and getting along with the child on an equal footing. Only when they stand on the weighing scale with their children can they know each other's weight. The same visual dialogue also makes them know more about their children, which is equivalent to parents' "kindness" to their children and promotes communication and exchanges between parents and children.

When we talk to children at ordinary times, we might as well kneel down and communicate with them calmly, and communicate with them equally with our understanding, listening and respect. Children will also be touched in each other's shoes. The relaxed communication environment, I believe that children and parents can easily become good friends, which has a good future orientation for children's physical health, including spiritual development.

3, gentle gaze is acceptance, but also gives children a sense of security.

Face-to-face communication with children is very important, especially when children have conflicts with their parents. Whether parents frown or stare lightly, they will bring different feelings and attitudes to children. For example, if a child drops a cup, parents will frown and say to the child in a reproachful tone, "What's the matter with you? You can't even hold the cup stably ",which will be a negative feeling for children, because parents' denial and blame will deepen the self-denial in children's hearts."

If parents look at their children with gentle eyes, they will get respect and softness, which is just right, just like a breeze. I don't know if any parents have noticed that children are called "mom and dad" every time they talk to us. In addition to responding, there are also elements that children are eager to attract parents' attention.

In addition, if we observe carefully, we will also find that kindergarten teachers often kneel as high as children when talking to them, because we can see the expressions in children's eyes, get to know them better, and let children feel respected in face-to-face communication.

It is said that parents are children's first teachers. It is also necessary to take out the semi-squatting mode of communication between kindergarten teachers and children, and put down the posture as high as that of children to communicate. You will find that the original squatting world has a different taste. It is important that parents squat not on their bodies but on shortening the distance. Relocate children, including the parent-child relationship between children and parents, through close understanding and running-in.