How can we make people confident?

Some wrong thinking cognition will limit your change and deepen your bad feelings.

So some basic cognitive adjustments, you'd better consciously adjust and change, and form a habit.

For example:

1. Don't be afraid of what others say.

People who feel inferior and shy are most afraid of being talked about by others.

I'm afraid I've done something wrong. I can't afford a little comment. They are most afraid of being denied by others. So when I get along with people, I always feel a trembling feeling.

However, the more you are afraid and shrink yourself, the easier it is for others to give negative comments and then form a vicious circle.

In fact, it is normal to be commented. We don't have to take these words to heart, as long as our cognition of ourselves is correct and our self-doubt is not affected by others' evaluation.

Sometimes some negative comments may even become the motivation to inspire us to do great things.

Turn grief into strength, learn to encourage ourselves, don't take external factors too seriously, and go on the road easily, so we can easily show our abilities.

2. Always practice with confidence.

American psychologist william james once came to a conclusion: If you want to be what kind of person, use that attitude to realize yourself.

This means that if you want to be confident, you must operate with confidence for a period of time. Usually walk with your head down, now hold your head up and hold your chest high; Usually whisper, now do it loudly and boldly.

Keep living with a new attitude and form habits, so that you can bring thinking through your behavior and then change your mind.

Find a new posture that makes you feel comfortable in private and keep practicing. Then you can talk more in the range of acquaintances, then practice in situations where there are more acquaintances than strangers, and then gradually develop into situations where there are more strangers and fewer acquaintances, step by step, and gradually increase your psychological resistance to shyness.

Every time you go to a new occasion, make preparations in advance, imagine what you may encounter, enhance your confidence, and you will be full of courage.

3. Learn self-suggestion method

When you go to a strange place, give yourself positive psychological hints, treat the other person as an acquaintance, or even a person who is "not as good as yourself", and your shyness will be relieved a lot.

When you dare to say the first sentence, you can say the second and third sentences.

As long as you don't worry too much about other people's reactions, you can definitely speak your own words fluently.

Say "no" to shyness bravely and overcome it in practice, and you will get rid of shyness and become a natural and graceful person. In the long run, you won't worry about being in a strange place.

Besides, you should consciously improve your self-confidence in your daily life and even in private.

The external law of enhancing confidence

In addition to internal cultivation, it is also important to strengthen and exercise external behavior.

In order to make yourself more confident, there are some things you must do.