What does a man tell you that you are his soul mate?

Everyone often hears the word "soul mate". I have seen many men clamoring for a soul mate every day. What is a soul mate?

I interviewed several men and found that the soul mate in men's eyes is really not that complicated, a person who can understand his heart and fill his garden.

Self-esteem, so that they don't have too many external rules for soul mates, as Liao Yimei often said in Soft: "Everyone is lonely. In everyone's life, it is not uncommon to meet the tolerance of love and temperature, but the novelty is to meet mastery. " The law of a man's "soul mate" is simply combed as "meeting a woman who knows herself". The boy's emotional absorption, in addition to sexual digestion and desire to maintain, also includes the kind of mutual trust and understanding between their brothers, and becomes his "soul mate". Because there is no gender difference between men and women, it is naturally easier to grasp, just like women and women in the middle, it is easier to understand each other from one eye.

Some women don't understand the practical value of providing men with mentality, and they are very "working", so men can't stipulate her on the human body. In this way, the only thing that she can make men want to stay is "sex". This is a little harmful. If a man doesn't help his girlfriend in the human body, sex alone really can't last long. Therefore, if you need to be his soul mate and be more attractive to him, you must also master a lot of male consciousness. Why didn't he want you to pay, but he spent a lot of money when his brother was in trouble?

Because his brother knows him better and understands him better, he usually wants to help him more, but you are just a pillow person he worships with some compound interest investment projects and practical value. Give an account to the family and let others know that he has a girlfriend (wife) who looks normal. So, girls, if you can understand men, you will also get great benefits. The better you know him, the more he loves you. As long as you master the rules of men, you can communicate with men calmly, so that you can experience communication and make men love you and spoil you more.

To communicate with men, one must rely on stubbornness and the other on mastery. "Stick to your face" can be simply translated as boasting that a person is knowledgeable. This compliment is not a perfunctory compliment, but a compliment to the other party's approval. "Mastering" means controlling one's psychological state, mastering the difference between men and women, and choosing to master non-violent communication when one's state is not good.

For example, if you see a man who is worried and indifferent to you, don't panic because the other person is indifferent to you, and then pester the other person to "care about him". Many times, your "concern" has always made the other person feel very responsible. You can say, "because you have encountered many things at present, I believe you can solve them well." If you need to share resources with me, I am always there. " . To understand a man, the word "understanding" is not a simple grasp and mastery, but you really step into the other person's heart and master what he really wants to do.

Practical Value If a woman figures out how to nourish a man's self-esteem and make full use of his practical value here, then he will never leave you in this life! When a man takes off his mask and shows his sensitive side, he thinks of the other person's comfort, not scolding. At this time, you should constantly agree with his practical value.

Many girls have a very big misunderstanding that as long as I am excellent, I can get a beautiful love. They patronize perfectionists and forget to be men's "soul mates". Excellence in the eyes of most people is the feeling of the general public, which is mainly manifested in today's high academic qualifications, high positions, considerable dominance, and having a house and a car. Substantial Excellence is mainly manifested in high emotional intelligence, high ideological awareness, good communication, humor and self-confidence. That's excellent compared with appearance, and the essence of a woman looks particularly precious.

If your mandatory norms are rich and excellent, there are undoubtedly many people who pursue you, but they love your excellent norms, which is hard to say. If you have excellent material and rich absorption, many people will pursue you, and many people will be absorbed by your charm because they love you. It can be seen that two aspects of Excellence are not enough, and we must achieve Excellence in all aspects.

From the point of time efficiency and difficulty, it is time-consuming and hard to make yourself more and more mandatory. If you use a good allocation of funds to make yourself better and better, two years have passed, but the other person already has someone you like, and you are getting old. On one level, it is not easy to be a woman who understands him. If you can grasp him better, you can also spend this life well.

In the matter of soul mates, there is often a misunderstanding, that is, two people feel similar in many ways to be considered soul mates, but sometimes disagreement is another kind of fit. Consistency does harm whether two people are attracted to each other and can get together. But what really determines how well and how long they run below is not how consistent they are, but how complementary they are. True soul mates can usually complement each other when they disagree.

When I do information consultation, I often hear people asking for help say, "He doesn't understand me. I enjoyed it with him, but I didn't get an approved reply. For so many years, there has been a half-joking name on the Internet called "Straight Male Cancer". It's a girl's ridicule, saying that steel straight men are completely different people with different brain capacities. I told him how I felt, but he didn't understand and I didn't want to say it. What is the misunderstanding behind this? -"He should care about you. If he doesn't understand, then he is not a bosom friend. Everyone expects the other person to care too much about you, so they will be chilling.

I really want to hear him say, "I know you, just like you." In that way, I feel, ah, I finally found someone like me in the vast sea of people. But you have to understand that a good marriage doesn't have to find exactly the same person.

But a harmonious marriage doesn't have to be consistent. Consistency is the greatest ideal: I am one with you, and there is no difference. But what if the two don't agree? In marriage, there is also a harmonious structure called complementarity. In my consulting experience, this structure is often ignored by others. And it usually helps marriage more. What is complementarity? Literally, it means to cooperate with each other and learn from each other. Let me give you two examples to help you understand this definition. First imagine an interface: back-to-back combat.

Two people face opposite directions, but the house faces different directions. Every direction has its own shortcomings, that is, the back. And this short board is just made up by the other side in detail, which will produce 1 1 > 2 combat capability. In the second example, imagine an initial sale. Two people, one producing food and the other producing clothes and trousers, do different jobs. But social economics tells us that according to the exchange, both people can live a happy life without worry about food and clothing. The similarity between these two examples is that "inconsistency" shows them resources. Because they don't agree, the two people are more cooperative with each other. If two people handle the same post or engage in the same kind of manufacturing, it is incomplete and limited for their whole elite team. Did you get a look at him? They may not agree.

At first glance, this is contrary to everyone's judgment. Because consistency is the starting point for everyone to attract. When some people are in the same situation as you, you can feel that you are not so lonely. Everyone has a deep sense of powerlessness and is afraid of being treated as an orc. Imagine that you go to a remote area alone, and when you are helpless, you meet someone: we are fellow villagers and classmates. We have similar preferences in finding topics, the same language, the same friends and opponents. That kind of person feels particularly happy. You can feel that you won't be lonely anymore. Some people are just like you. The happiness you know best in marriage is that you have given this person your unique position. He told you he was the same. You immediately feel that someone has seen you and that "this person cares about you".

But if we pay too much attention to consistency, the bad reaction is that we will eventually expect destruction. Because of this world, no one will fully understand you. Men and women, physically and sexually, can't have the same profound feelings after all, not to mention their natural development environment, educational experience and personality characteristics, which are different anyway.

If you feel that you have met a soul mate in a million, he is exactly like you, and every little experience has a deep affection for each other, it must be an illusion. As everyone said before, with a passionate past, you can find more and more different fields. If you pursue perfection and consistency too much, you will feel that "we are different, which is very bad." Nowadays, people often use a word called three views disagreement. This term actually leads to a bad suggestion.