An essay on ordinary things in ordinary families

Shortly after I failed in the college entrance examination, someone introduced me to someone. I still want to repeat it, but I'm reluctant. But my mother agreed when she saw that the girl was half a head taller than me. People say the top of the tree is big, but I am the shortest of the brothers. I think it's not bad to find a woman taller than me as a wife. Later, I agreed.

It's winter vacation and Chinese New Year. Mother said, "Give gifts to my in-laws." At that time, I was studying again and gave my father-in-law a gift for the first time. I'm confused and excited. Mother has prepared four gifts, alcohol and tobacco, live chicken and two dahongfish. At that time, his fiancee had already worked as a salesperson in the supply and marketing cooperative. I was so happy that I tied cigarettes, wine and chicken to my bike. There are many husbands every year, and it is not easy to buy red fish on the street because there is no stock. Not only did my family buy it, but the two dahongfish are also about the same size. I didn't even buy three or four pieces of small pillars two years older than me. I was envious when I saw my big ruby. Being envied is a kind of enjoyment. Mother put two dahongfish in a bag. I said, "It's hanging at the back of the car and in the middle." Actually, I just want to show off and let more people know that my husband has a big ruby. Mom didn't say anything, so I put willow branches through my cheeks and pinned two red fish to the back of my bike. That day, the weather was fine and there was no wind, which was much warmer than the next day. I stepped on the pedal of my bike happily, lifted my right leg gently and rode away. All the way to Chaoyang and Luge, the bike was driving on the path leading to Zhangjia, and two big red fish jumped around behind the bike, like two burning flames. My heart is warm and happy. It's almost time to go to my husband's house. I turned around and looked back. I don't know when the two rubies on the bicycle frame disappeared. The road to my husband's house is winding. I must have knocked it down. I immediately panicked and hurried home to find fish, but after crossing a ditch and a hurdle, where was the fish? There were many pedestrians on the road, so I asked them one by one and didn't get any clues. The joy of leaving my father-in-law suddenly vanished.

When I arrived at my husband's house, I was afraid to unload my present on my bike. Sitting on her husband's stool, silent and motionless. My grandfather asked me, "How old is your father this year?" I only know that my father-in-law is older than my father, but I don't know how old my father is. Father-in-law asks again: "How many acres of responsibility farmland does your family have?" I have to work in the fields every year when I am busy with farming, but I don't know how many acres of farmland I have. When his fiancee was present, she seemed unhappy and walked out of the room. I always want to throw fish on the road, so I follow my fiancee closely. When I saw no one around, I said, "I lost two dahongfish bought by my mother on the road." The fiancee was surprised and didn't speak. I don't know what to do, but I hate my carelessness. At this time, my father-in-law came over and called me to the table to drink and eat. I was anxious, grabbed my fiancee's hand and said, "Sister, I beg you!" " "The fiancee was surprised at first, and then smiled and said," Go and have a drink with my dad. "You look fine. Later, my parents-in-law knew that the two dahongfish I gave them for the New Year were lost on the road, and they didn't say anything, just sipped their mouths and smiled.

Hey! Is it because I call my fiancee "big sister"? My marriage was arranged by a matchmaker, but I think I also called one.

Second, make ketchup in summer

Make ketchup and save it for winter.

At that time, the family was poor, and there was no heater or electric blanket. In winter, the bed is as cold as iron, so I lick my feet with a salt water bottle. In summer, you don't have to soak your feet in a salt bottle, just put the ketchup in the salt bottle.

One summer, the tomatoes in the street were rotten and cheap. It is not a myth that ten dollars is in a snakeskin bag. After work that day, I spent ten yuan on a bag of tomatoes in snakeskin bags. At that time, my girlfriend spent the summer in my house (summer is also called June), and when she saw me dragging a snakeskin bag of tomatoes, she looked surprised and puzzled. I said; "Make ketchup if you can't finish it." My girlfriend still keeps her eyes open and doesn't believe me. I picked some tomatoes with big skin and thin red skin, washed them with clear water and put them in the shade. When the water on the tomatoes dried up, I began to make ketchup. Tomatoes without skin are not only beautiful, but also delicious. I will peel the tomatoes one by one. The skins of tomatoes were peeled off, so I diced them with a knife and stuffed them into salt water bottles. The salt bottle is small, so you can't be anxious to stuff tomatoes into it. You have to be patient and send it in bit by bit, just like I used slow fire when chasing my girlfriend.

The salt bottle was full of ketchup, so I went to the drugstore and asked for some more. I remember that time I made three bottles of ketchup, and I said to my girlfriend, "Boil the ketchup." I said, raw ketchup is perishable, but cooked ketchup is not. I tied three salt water bottles together and stood in the pot. Without air in the sky, people can't live. If there is air in the bottle and tomato sauce is oxidized by air, it won't last long. I put a hollow rubber band in the middle of each bottle stopper. When the water temperature rises, the air in the bottle will come out through this hollow rubber band. When the water boiled and the tomatoes were ripe, I immediately tore off the hollow rubber band on the cork and sealed the bottle again. In this way, tomato sauce can be preserved until winter, even after the New Year.

Winter has arrived, and my girlfriend has become my wife. Maybe she has forgotten my ketchup in summer. But at that time, she was pregnant and had a serious pregnancy reaction. Everything she eats is troublesome and her cheeks are red. I look distressed, but I don't know what to do. She vomited again that day, and her stomach was empty, but she didn't want to eat anything. Suddenly I remembered three bottles of ketchup made in summer, so I said to my wife, "Do you want ketchup?" When the wife heard this, her eyes lit up and she immediately came to her senses and said, "I just want to eat ketchup, hurry!" " "I took out a bottle and poured ketchup into a bowl. The wife was impatient and said, "I'll try first." I scooped a spoonful with a spoon and sent it to my mouth. I know that tomatoes mixed with sugar are the best, so I said to my wife, "put some sugar." The wife said without looking up, "No, it doesn't matter." "I ate half a bottle in one breath. I planted flowers with my heart, but I planted willows unintentionally. I didn't expect my ketchup to come in handy.

Nowadays, out-of-season vegetables can be seen everywhere. Who needs ketchup? But my wife can't forget the ketchup I made that summer.

Third, separation from parents.

Shortly after marriage, one day my mother said, "Let's split up." From now on, I will no longer eat in the same pot with my mother, but start a new stove by myself. I know this is the truth, but I always feel that it is not a taste. After the separation, my mother gave me rice and flour and asked the village cadres to give me a piece of land planted by my mother. I looked at the brand-new pots and pans my mother bought me, and my daughter-in-law was at a loss.

What shall we have for our first meal? I asked my daughter-in-law, who asked me. I said to my daughter-in-law, "Let's go to the restaurant." The daughter-in-law is happy. But my mother came with a small bamboo basket, which contained a washed dish, a piece of tofu just bought and two tender onions. Mother threw the basket on the ground and said, "Do it yourself." And left. The daughter-in-law was dumbfounded and took a knife to cut vegetables. Did we cook or burn wood at that time? My daughter-in-law said to me, "Come and pull weeds by the haystack." The rice has been harvested and the straw is piled in the yard. I went and soon brought back a handful of grass. At this time, the daughter-in-law cuts vegetables and tofu. Daughter-in-law said, "You make a fire and I'll cook." Usually, my daughter-in-law has a glib tongue and a smart mind. I agreed, so I stuffed straw into the stove pit. I can't make a fire. There is a lot of straw in the hole, but the fire has gone out and it is still smoking. My daughter-in-law was coughing, so I closed my mouth and ran outside the boiler room to get some air. I took a few breaths outside and went into the pot house to light the fire. My daughter-in-law looked into the kitchen and found a lot of grass and ash in it. She scolded me: "can't you put this grass in evenly?" With that, he scraped the dust off the bottom of the stove with a wooden stick. There was a gap in the stove before the fire roared. Under the action of fire, the iron pot was steaming, and the daughter-in-law kept her hands and feet. She was afraid that the food would be burnt, so she turned it over with a shovel and added water to the pot from time to time.

The fire went out and the first meal after our separation was finally ready. Daughter-in-law puts vegetables and tofu on the table. I held a bowl and chopsticks, but I didn't eat them. My heart vibrated. I used to eat at the same table with my parents, brothers and sisters. It was very noisy and lively. But after separation, I felt lost, helpless and a little shy when I saw my daughter-in-law face to face. My daughter-in-law saw that I didn't eat, so she put a chopsticks dish in my bowl. I ate it, and my heart tightened. I said to my daughter-in-law, "Ah! You forgot to put salt in this dish. " The daughter-in-law didn't believe it and said, "I'll try." That's true. Daughter-in-law said: "When cooking, I seem to put salt. Why is it not salty at all? " I said, "You forgot the oil, too." We all eat rapeseed oil. Usually, my mother floats on it, whether it is cooking soup or cooking, which is very eye-catching. But the bean curd fried by my daughter-in-law doesn't even have a little oil star. The daughter-in-law also forgot to put rapeseed oil in the dish, sighing and saying, "Forget it, forget it all!" " "I smiled at my wife. At this time, my mother came in from the outside and brought us a dish she had cooked. Mother said, "You will never cook until you leave home. "My daughter-in-law and I agreed.

After separation, my daughter-in-law and I lost our dependence and expectation, so we cooked in person, and gradually everything was easy. However, sometimes my daughter-in-law and I will go to my mother's house for dinner. My daughter-in-law and I have delicious food, and we will also send one to our parents. Separation, no distraction.

Fourth, auspicious words for the Spring Festival.

I remember one year when I was still in Suzhou, I took a bus to visit Qian Jie, and bamboo forests came into view from time to time. We also have bamboo there, but it can only be seen in my parents' country.

The Spring Festival is coming, and my wife said, "Go and buy a cash cow." All I know is that in ancient times, bamboo was crackled on festivals or festivals, thinking that it could drive Shan Gui away. But where did bamboo become a cash cow? Well, my wife wants good luck, so I have to go shopping to buy it. But I found that there were several places where bamboo could not be seen. My wife asked me to do it in the country. The county is far from the countryside. My hometown is twenty or thirty miles away, so it is obviously not appropriate to transport bamboo by CMB. It is even worse to let my father, who is too old and thin, send it. I will go back to my hometown by bike. Bamboo is here, in my wife's words, a cash cow has entered the house. My wife is in high spirits, holding peanuts and ginkgo which have been dyed into several bright colors, holding the leaves of the cash cow one by one, and the cash cow bends over with laughter for a while.

When I was a child in the country, my parents also asked me to buy bamboo on the street in the town. I just put the bamboo I bought back into the hole in the millstone. At that time, the millstone was used by ancestors to grind flour or porridge, right in the middle of the yard. It's the New Year, so I don't push the mill. When I have time, I use it to poke bamboo. Now I am in the city and live in a tube-shaped apartment. Where are the cash cows planted? I laugh at my wife for being tacky and even superstitious. But when I went to the balcony and opened the window, I saw many people's cash cows tied to the railings in security window, and some were poked on the lawn of the community. When the wind blows, it wobbles and crackles, just like firecrackers. Tujili, I didn't expect the cash cow to become the new year scene in the community.

I can't eat jiaozi without vinegar. Today is New Year's Eve, and it is also New Year's Eve. Nothing my wife says will make me jealous. Su Dongpo in the Northern Song Dynasty wrote a poem, "The laity in Longqiu is also pitiful, talking about sleepless nights. Suddenly I heard lion roars, and the staff fell into my palm. " Because jealous women are as noisy as lions, and lions in the zoo are jealous every day to help digestion, people call jealousy between men and women in love life jealousy. During the Chinese New Year, I invited Jiaozi to have a New Year's Eve dinner. My wife didn't make me jealous, and she said it was good luck. But unpleasant things will happen. When the wife lifted the lid, a hot air came to my face. The wife exclaimed, "Ah! Earned! " A little excited, a little excited. I'm confused. I stepped forward to probe, and saw that several jiaozi had their skins broken in the boiling water pot, and jiaozi had all entered the soup. My wife gave me a bowl of jiaozi first. As soon as I reached for it, I heard a bang, and a porcelain bowl on the stove fell to the ground and broke into pieces. My daughter is dumbfounded, and I don't know what to do. I think my wife must have accidentally touched the bowl. At this time, my wife's face was like a blooming spring flower with bright red light. My wife said, "Peace through the years." You look great. No wonder, my wife was laid off from the factory and had nothing to do for a while, so she set up a stall on the pedestrian street to sell fruit. It's hard to get up early and be greedy for the dark, but it's hard to walk in the wind and rain. Unlike white-collar workers in enterprises or civil servants in institutions, they won't get sunburned every day when the wind blows, and they have a comfortable working environment and stable salary. Sometimes when the market is bad, it is common for a wife to be busy for nothing or accompany money. Jiaozi earned it. His wife hopes that her fruit business will make more money in the coming year, and even sees big ingots every day. What about me? Living in a foreign country and working as a teacher in a private school for several years, it is inevitable to care about each other. I remember one night in the past, when I was sleeping soundly, my cell phone rang. It's my wife. I felt ominous and asked, "What's the matter?" The wife said flatly, "I can't sleep." Then he told me to wear more clothes in case I catch a cold. I said it's warm here. My wife also told me not to have breakfast, because I was very busy in class. I said that the school regularly has three meals a day, and I lost a meal. My wife was worried and asked my parents to buy me a drink and not to get drunk. I told you I don't drink, so don't worry. My wife put the phone down safely, but I didn't sleep all night.

Now it's the Spring Festival, and my wife is praying that I am alone, healthy and safe, and that nothing will happen.

5. Send money to parents during the New Year.

The winter vacation will begin that year, but there are still many days before the Spring Festival.

When I went back to my hometown to have lunch with my mother, I remembered that I came in such a hurry that I didn't bring anything, even the antihypertensive drugs that my mother often took because of high blood pressure. Before I left, I took out 200 yuan from my wallet and gave it to my mother. She didn't say anything. When my mother was seventy years old, she and her father opened an agency shop at home. Business is good, income is good, and I don't have to pay for the usual expenses. I was anxious and said, "Mom, this is the money I gave you for the Spring Festival." Mom said, "It's still far from the Spring Festival." Mom, don't. I said, "If I make up lessons for students in winter vacation, I won't come back before the Spring Festival." Mother had no choice but to accept this 200 yuan.

I have four sisters, two in the countryside and two in the city. On the 26th of the twelfth lunar month, several people agreed to visit my mother, and I followed. Several sisters bought many Chinese New Year gifts for their mother, and each gave 500 yuan before they left. I won't go home empty-handed with you this time. After eating and drinking enough, several sisters gave the money for the New Year. I took out 300 yuan from the side. But my mother doesn't want it. My mother said, "Didn't you give me lucky money?" Several sisters were surprised by my filial piety and said to me, "I gave it, so forget it this time." But I think: Now the price is so high, 200 yuan really can't buy anything, and I feel poor and too little. I used my quick wits to tell a lie: "I gave you the money for the New Year, and this time I gave it to Zhu Hua (my wife's name). If you don't pick it up, consider your daughter-in-law an outsider. " Several sisters listened to the truth and persuaded their mother to accept the 300 yuan.

Later, an old aunt saw me and praised me for being filial. Some monks are puzzled and feel that there is still a distance from my dutiful son. It turned out that my mother took the 200 yuan I gave her in advance that day and showed it off to everyone. She was happy all day.

Some people say that one person's disaster is carried by two people, and the disaster is reduced by half; If one person's happiness is divided equally between two people, it becomes the happiness of two people. If you give your parents a year or even a lifetime of filial piety separately, parents may have more satisfaction and happiness earlier. You see, those things in ordinary families are also extremely ordinary, but we can always feel the sweetness and happiness of affection and love everywhere.