A fascinating conversation

Soothe children's emotions and say these 8 sentences more:

1. "I understand you, I know you are very sad. Children are often incoherent and incoherent. Because he can't understand his inner emotions and can't accept his parents, it is the key to help him accept them. The acceptance of his parents made him see his own shortcomings; His parents' understanding allowed him to sort out his inner emotions.

2. "What do you want, tell me?" From the perspective of children's psychology, asking children's inner needs is to meet their needs. Because the child's wish is very simple, the parents listened and realized half. The remaining half, you can think about whether there is a substitute.

3. "Mom is very tired now, can I have a rest?" When you are tired, tell your child that mom and dad will be tired, too. "After playing with toys all afternoon, you will feel sleepy." Mom will feel sleepy after working all day. Mom lets you rest, and you should let mom rest. "In this way, children will be more responsible and proud to take care of their mothers. When mother wakes up, her mind becomes cloudy and sunny, so she can take better care of her children.

4. "Don't worry, some parents are talking about children's developmental psychology: children discover themselves through their parents, and every reaction is contributing to their courage. A child with strong action may not be afraid of anything, but his parents must have taught him a long time ago: don't be afraid to have mom and dad behind you to protect your safety.

5. "Mom and Dad give you two choices, and you make a decision. Choice is an attempt to establish a world view: what do I need? What am I suitable for? What is my relationship with the outside world? Children's choices contain huge information. And children are also digesting this information in repeated choices. Parents' initiative to provide options is a kind of help: let children not choose too far, and at the same time think for themselves and draw conclusions.

6. "I want to discuss one thing, baby, can I?" In children's childhood, they poured strong feelings into their possessions. Whether he needs this thing or not, he wants to prove that "this thing belongs to me". Therefore, parents must consult their children before using their personal belongings. Otherwise, the child is likely to explode on the spot, or hold his breath and secretly hold a grudge.

7. "Mom and Dad have limited abilities and can only do so much. Parents don't have to satisfy their children too much. Just need to satisfy him within the scope of ability; It's beyond your ability. Make it clear. Allow children's disappointment, encourage children to "turn disappointment into motivation" and let children grow up in the real world. Make progress, be confident and healthy.

8. "Son, Mom and Dad love you very much." Children's developmental psychology believes that children will be influenced by external evaluation to some extent during their growth. They care about what others think of him, which determines what they think of themselves. However, external influences do not always affect children deeply. Because it is always parents who have the deepest influence on children.

Therefore, even if the child does something wrong, parents should tell the child that no matter what you do wrong, screw up or play a prank, their love for you will not disappear. In this way, even if the child encounters great difficulties, he can hold the psychological defense line. Let's pay attention to children's psychology together and help children's psychological healthy growth.