What happens when people are too honest?

You really can't be too honest ! Honest people will really be bullied! ! This is my experience after living for 25 years. In fact, honesty and kindness are tied together in my opinion, and you will be kinder if you are honest. Won't do anything to hurt others,

When I was a child, my parents always judged whether a child was a good child by being obedient and not causing trouble!

That's what my parents do. When I was a child, I was told not to be naughty and not to get them into trouble. Don't talk nonsense when there are many people, but learn to be smart. This is what I have heard the most since I was a child. I was born in an ordinary working-class family with honest parents. I seldom speak in front of people outside our family of three. I always smile. Everyone says who you are. You have a good temper. That's very kind of you. You see, he doesn't talk much. Even at family gatherings, I will listen to other people's parity for my family of three, and friends and colleagues will chat after work. In everyone's eyes, you won't lose your temper or find fault. For everything, it is very "this is already very good, I have been satisfied."

I remember when I was a child in primary school, my academic performance was not very high as a whole, and I was not very good in my class, and I didn't have any ability at home. The teacher can't borrow any light, and he can't get any benefits. Learning also held their class back, so he looked down on me. He is always trying to find fault with me. Whatever I did, I was wrong. He always asked me to stay and look for my parents for various reasons. I look for them almost every day. The unqualified teacher also belittled my parents in front of them, and even worse, scolded me. ! God, that's immoral. In addition, my family's education is still based on beating. I am angry that I am beaten by my teacher for my poor study, and I will always be beaten. My memory of primary school is almost only playing. There is nothing to remember. Going out to play with other classmates during lunch break, being accused by classmates and standing in front of the podium to criticize. Other students brought me a few words, and I was treated unfairly and severely criticized and warned. I was particularly wronged at that time. To make matters worse, primary school went out to watch movies together. At that time, people rented more cars than schools, and there were always classmates standing, and I was the one standing, and I never found a seat. What's even more hateful is that the car shook while driving, which made me unstable and accidentally bumped into my classmate. My classmate even told me not to keep bumping into her. A look of disgust. After the activity, the teacher returned to class to summarize the performance of the activity. Let's conclude that those who perform well will get small red flowers. At that time, the basic students got the little red flowers. The girl who was hit told me that I had been hitting her on purpose because I didn't behave well. Everyone thought it was funny! What's even more funny is that such a retarded teacher actually believed it. I think this is deliberately aimed at me! Is the teacher stupid? Will my character do these things on purpose? So retarded, I don't think you will trust my friend! But the teacher really didn't give me a little red flower. Although this matter is small, I think I will remember it all my life. It really hurts my heart and makes me extremely insecure now. I always feel that I can't do it. If I speak in public, I will feel ashamed and others will look down on me. I really don't like to submit to humiliation, and sometimes I hate why my parents who love me so much are so cowardly.

When I was a child, several children at home played together. The mirror behind grandma's sofa was once again stained by other children. Grandma just casually said, look at how dirty the mirror is. Grandma just nagged before my mother heard it, and even opened her mouth in front of everyone to say who you made so dirty. Don't always touch the mirror, stay away from the mirror ... a lot of words. At that time, I was particularly wronged, too small to refute. I can only say that I didn't do it. I didn't even touch it. Although it was small, it left a deep impression on me. Why do so many people in my family talk about me the first time? How do you know I did it? I didn't grow up with my grandmother and was neglected in her family. Later, when I grew up, I asked her, but she obviously couldn't remember, so I casually said. Mom smiled. Engaged in the education industry, I now feel that we should not criticize children in front of everyone without distinguishing the facts, which is likely to hurt them unintentionally.

Later, after taking part in the work, my temper was as good as ever, and I didn't understand anything. I don't know anything when I meet the oppression of people who are not assigned to my work or leaders at work, and all I get is intensified bullying. At first, it was just a helping job, but later it became a matter of course. If you don't help, you will be bitten back. This is what I often suffer. You kindly help others to reduce the job application process, but instead of solving the problem, you are accused. But in terms of rules and regulations, it is really your fault. When people say you, you are speechless. I ate a dumb loss.

After working for two years, I am also constantly exploring and looking for a way to work hard without destroying the relationship between colleagues. More and more people feel that people are good at being bullied and cannot be too honest. If the present society is too kind, it will be excluded. So don't be used by others because of your kindness.

You can be kind, but not weak.