Tell me about my husband going out to take care of his mother-in-law

You said yourself you couldn't hold on. What else can you do?

Or lie down completely and do nothing. Adults and children spend a day together.

Either stick to your teeth, your baby will grow up day by day, and your mother-in-law will get old one day, then you will be liberated.

Or simply be a shameless, heartless person and leave, and whoever loves it will do whatever it takes.

Which way do you think you can accept?

Choose appointment, and then suffer;

Choose to fight, and then endure;

Choose to escape, that's quite enough. ...

There is no pain you can't eat, only happiness you can't enjoy.

Ah! Hello, filial daughter-in-law and loving mother! What a person does is a heart. Or willing or unwilling, or unwilling, or formal. I'd love to.

When I say heart, I mean our brain. If you do something unwilling, forced and formal, then you must be very tired, or very tired. I ran out of brains because I didn't want to do it. Very willing to do or very willing to do is different. The first brain is not tired, and because I am willing to do it, I feel very comfortable, so my body will not feel tired.

Dear friends, you should be willing or very willing to work in your family or society. Because in Tianfa, no matter who makes money, those who don't make money have merit. If you don't want to do it, just do it. That's equivalent to not doing it. If you are tired, there will be no good news, and maybe there will be trouble. If you pretend to be smart or really stupid, you will suffer a big loss. It's all about the heart. Feel the world. Then, we have done everything and are tired. Why not put our hearts there? So most people do stupid things.

Thank you for your question:

The main contradiction that will affect China's sustained prosperity and development in the future: raising children to prevent old age. Because, if you care too much about the elderly, you will certainly seize the public resources in assisting the birth of babies. If you focus on assisting the birth of a baby, you may neglect your elders. If children and old people ignore them, you will ruin your future and become a substantial unfilial son.

Life is endowed with the natural material combination form of reproductive ability+growth cycle+a little damage self-healing function. When the living matter is created by nature, the growth trajectory of life is not locked. The real growth of every natural life requires independent adaptation after birth, in addition to the basic growth form, physical characteristics and nutrient supply channels. Natural generation, mutual growth and mutual restriction. Mr. Shui nourishes everything, and then uses the "natural ecological food chain" to prevent the disorderly reproduction of natural life. Plants absorb trace minerals dissolved in water from soil and combine with "photosynthesis" to realize life autotrophy; Animals cannot make their own food, but must eat plants directly or indirectly; Microorganisms are parasites. They either help animals and plants or break down their remains for a living. Therefore, natural living things and abiotic things realize orderly circulation in the form of "ecological food chain".

Humans are the smartest advanced mammals in the natural life system. In the natural life system, only human beings have evolved systematic and abstract social civilization achievements, only human beings have the ability to transform the natural material combination form through large-scale similar division of labor and cooperation, and only human beings can improve their food supply structure by domesticating and sowing plants and taming captive animals ..... However, human social survival has not broken through the shackles of natural "survival food chain", and modern human babies cannot grow from birth to adulthood without eating material nutrition and supplying spiritual nourishment.

When I was born, I didn't know who I was, whether I could support myself or who my partner was&; Who is the enemy? When he grows up, he can make all kinds of production tools, grow food, raise animals and process daily necessities. Food is good at exploring the natural universe, and human babies are the most plastic in the center of natural life system. However, there is a huge natural defect in the growth and development of human babies-slow growth and development.

The journey of human life is a typical complete parabola, and there is no unified alternate boundary for individual life. People gradually acquire basic social viability after birth, and in middle age, modern people live independently at the age of 25 -60. Labor has the strongest creative ability, and then individual productive labor and survival adaptability gradually decline and die. However, since auxiliary power machinery began to assist the productive labor of human society in the18th century, in order to meet the needs of operating auxiliary power machinery for productive labor, the managers of human society have strictly divided human beings into minors aged 0- 15, adults aged 0-5-60/70 and elderly people aged over 60/70.

Modern national laws clearly stipulate that minors must receive compulsory education at school, adults must participate in social production and division of labor to support themselves and their children+the elderly, and the elderly can receive pensions when they retire, which is limited to professional workers who pay endowment insurance. Minors study, adults work, and the elderly rest ... This seemingly harmonious modern social governance structure is in jeopardy. Because-

First, minors who only study and don't work for a long time will become the net consumption of the family.

Kindergarten is three years, primary school is six years, middle school is six years, and college is four years to help children learn and grow to 19, 2020 1 1 month. According to the seventh national census, the average years of education of China 15 and above have reached 9.9 1 year. Therefore, excluding students who have not graduated and the elderly, the average years of education of young people under 30 must have exceeded 15 years (3 years of preschool education, 9 years of compulsory education and 3 years of high school or vocational high school education), which means that children will not be able to have a long-term education.

Giving birth to a child before the emergence of agricultural society and auxiliary power machinery and the popularization of basic compulsory education is equivalent to improving labor productivity. Raising children to the age of 6-7 can help parents deal with daily family affairs. Therefore, at that time, whoever has more children-who has strong labor productivity and who has more children-can occupy a relatively dominant position in the neighborhood relationship, which means that many people are light.

Sending children to school requires spending time with them to learn cultural knowledge, spending money on comprehensive learning resources, and worrying about what to learn when sending children to school ... popularizing basic compulsory education to make children more systematic &; Fully understanding the channel of comprehensive civilization achievements of human society opens a channel of wisdom for every child to grow into a better self. However, the systematic cultivation of children makes the birth of population a net consumption of family daily life. According to network data, modern urban families need at least 500,000 comprehensive resources to train a college graduate.

Second, old-age retirement increases the support burden of middle-aged people.

Humans improve the food supply structure by taming sowing plants and taming captive animals, and improve labor efficiency and utilization efficiency of natural resources by creating productive labor tools. However, the ability of nature to provide food for natural life cannot be infinitely enlarged. For example, how much grain can be produced in an acre of land, how many cows-how many sheep-how many pigs can be fed in an acre of land, and how many people can be fed in an acre of land. So the media said that the birth rate fell below 1%, five young people had to feed 1 old people, and the population of China was "under pressure at both ends".

According to the data of China Statistical Yearbook 20021,in 2020, the national birth rate was 8.52‰ 1950, with a total population of about 550 million and newborn children 14 1900, with a birth rate of about 25.8 ‰. The most difficult natural disaster in three years was 196 1, with a total population of about 650 million and 9.49 million newborn children. The birth rate was 14.6‰, which fell below 10‰ for the first time, setting a record low in the history of new China. It is no exaggeration to say that China has become the country with the most serious population and fertility problems in the world.

"Jiangshan belongs to the people and the people belong to Jiangshan." Man is the original creator and loyal user of all the achievements of human social civilization and consumption wealth. The change of population and age structure will not only indirectly affect the consumption demand and consumption wealth of human social civilization, but also directly determine the labor productivity and consumption wealth of human social civilization. Many elderly people who have reached retirement age are still in good health, and a few elderly people are even better than most otaku. In modern towns, there are not a few old people who have retired for more than 20 years and are still strong. Therefore, after retirement, many old people leisurely receive pensions that are much higher than the basic salary of local professional labor, while young people who participate in professional work are not as paid as pensions. It is reported on the Internet that Lenovo executives receive tens of millions of pensions every year. This is not a case.

When the population base remains unchanged, the creative ability of productive labor is certain, and the overall money supply of the country is also certain. Therefore, the more retired people, the more social consumption wealth cakes shared by retired people, and the greater the production and labor pressure of middle-aged people. At the same time, it will further weaken the comprehensive ability of young people to raise children. Moreover, the complete retirement of some healthy old people is also a huge waste of human resources in society as a whole.

Third, adults focus on their own professional work and take care of their families, forming a "zero-sum game" relationship.

Can't take care of children in the environment of operating auxiliary power machinery and engaging in professional production labor; Operating the auxiliary power machine for a long time, no time to take care of the children; After the auxiliary power replaces some productive labor in human society, it is impossible to exchange the consumption wealth of raising children in human society without operating the auxiliary power machinery ..... Although the auxiliary power machinery reduces the burden of human productive labor and broadens the field of human development and utilization of natural resources. However, the attached power machines are owned by very few people, who have an absolute dominant position in the distribution of productive labor value in human society. Therefore, most young professionals who have just entered the society can only sell their bodies and free living time. Taking part in professional productive labor and having children has become a "zero-sum game" in young people's life time.

Companionship is the best love for children, the best childhood gift for children, and the best education for children ... The longer you spend with children, the closer your child's growth character will be. Some people say: "The family is like a photocopier. Parents are originals and children are photocopies." The most basic ability of a person's life is to imitate and learn. What kind of family does a child grow up in, and what will it grow up in a high probability. However, how much time can young parents who are busy making money to support their families spend comfortably with their children? How many young parents who are busy enjoying themselves are willing to accompany their children to learn and grow for a long time?

Accumulate soil into mountains, drop by drop into the ocean, accumulate goodness into virtue, leap forward, not ten steps; It takes time and practice for children to learn any human social etiquette and civilized wisdom. Therefore, the education to help children learn and grow is the most complicated one in the process of labor practice in human society, which requires time, energy and financial resources. Therefore, family education is very important, and it is more important to ensure that families have the time and ability to educate their children.

The continuation of human life is like an endless river. Children live in the upper reaches, middle-aged people live in the middle reaches, and old people sit down and swim. The upstream water is abundant, which can irrigate more natural creatures, the middle reaches can be connected with rivers, and the downstream can smoothly enter the sea. Therefore, the main contradiction that will affect China's sustainable prosperity and development in the future is "having fewer children and providing for the aged", because over-caring for the elderly will definitely seize the investment of public resources in assisting the birth of babies, and if the focus is on assisting the birth of babies, the elderly may be ignored.

Ask your lover for help

Let the mother-in-law take care of herself. Children are important.

Divorce, just take care of the children [I want to be quiet] [I want to be quiet] [I want to be quiet]

With money but no money, it is very important to do many things with a spiritual attitude and concept! One thing, you feel very painful and meaningless, but you will be very painful and have no motivation and strength to persist in fatigue!

The reality is there, but you can't change it, so you may have inappropriate mental complaints, or even say that your heart has been hit a thousand times! How many times can you suppress patience? How long has it been? So, please change your understanding of the spiritual level!

Serving mother-in-law can be painful or happy for a daughter-in-law! First of all, the old man is not disabled, nor is he sick in bed? You didn't say, let's look at the best situation. You know filial piety is a virtue. You can also try to treat her like a child.

And your own children, perhaps young, should work hard to feel and appreciate that this is your choice and your hope! Not only that, she is the hope of your man's family. He works hard outside, and he must miss his children and mother all the year round!

How great is your task and what are you doing every day? For children, you are a good mother and a great mother! To my mother-in-law, you are a good daughter-in-law, and people can see what you have done! To my husband, you are a good wife, and he can work with peace of mind! For this whole family, you are three generations of heroes!

Think about your mission, your love (children), your lover, your duty, is your life really so painful? Maybe tired, but it's all worth it!

Find a reliable nanny. Don't burn yourself out. Steady yourself.

Hire a nanny. Take care of yourself, don't wear yourself out, spend more money when you are tired, and it is you who feel uncomfortable. The point is that if the child is young, he needs a mother.

You can communicate with your husband, hire a live-in nanny, and get through the difficulties first. Don't break your body, too.