Is it really because you are so poor that even your relatives don’t look down on you?

If you are poor, your discerning relatives may look down on you!

But if you are poor and short-minded, all your relatives will look down on you!

My wife’s uncle is from a rural area, and his family only has a shed and two daughters. He only went out to work after three strokes a day. If he had any money at home, he would buy things and eat and drink. I raise a few sheep, and I am considered the thinnest in the village. Others say that the sheep will suffer for raising other sheep!

His wife never works or cooks for him. She stays in bed all day long, and the two little girls eat whatever they pick up, and the other children eat candies along with them.

The only time his wife is diligent is when her relatives from the mountains come. They take out the better food and supplies from his house and give them a bunch more before leaving.

These are not the reasons why I think he is short of ambition, at least he has his own land to plant and sheep to raise.

What happened later changed my view.

His little daughter had a nosebleed and a high fever for unknown reasons. Her wife put her little daughter on the bed and ignored her. Two days later, he came to my father-in-law and said he was afraid of her daughter. My father-in-law quickly arranged for someone to be sent to the hospital for examination, and the result was found to be leukemia.

When they hear that they are sick, their first reaction is how much it will cost. After hearing that it would cost hundreds of thousands, both of them took it upon themselves to take the child home and fend for themselves.

It pissed my father-in-law off to death. After calling me, I immediately mobilized my relatives and friends to look for relevant information. I also wrote to the local government and the Red Cross.

In the end, by mobilizing many people, more than 200,000 yuan was collected for her daughter’s treatment.

And in the process, the only thing they did was to keep her daughter alive.

I heard that there were more than 200,000 yuan. He called me privately and said that he wanted to withdraw all the money. I asked him what he was doing, but he didn’t say anything. In the end, the money was put into government trust. According to her daughter, she would allocate as much as she needed for treatment, and allocate as much living expenses to her every month.

He took his daughter to Chongqing for chemotherapy. With our publicity, people came to the hospital to see them from time to time and gave them gifts and money. But one day, he called me and I almost wanted to give up. He said: "The man who came yesterday was stupid. He originally gave me two thousand, but I told him that he gave me another three thousand before she had eaten dinner. How stupid!" My heart broke when I heard what he said, but looking at his daughter who didn't understand anything, I still tried to help him.

Later, his daughter’s condition stabilized. He took his daughter home. The government provided subsistence allowances for his whole family, and the children paid nothing for schooling. The remaining balance from the hospital was also given to him to renovate his house. His house has changed.

The most recent contact was one day after the Mid-Autumn Festival. He called me and asked me why I didn’t call him to greet him during the Mid-Autumn Festival. At that time, I wanted to curse. I was too busy at home during the Mid-Autumn Festival to call you. Why should I call you to greet you? I didn’t even drink the water at your house when I helped you. Now that your conditions have improved slightly, you want to gain my favor (respect)? I was too speechless.

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It is normal in real life for people to be looked down upon when they are poor. The most hateful thing is that you try your best to help him when he is poor. When he is a little better than you, he starts to slowly alienate you. , indifferent to you, or even exclude you. I used to have a friend who I treated as a brother. He started doing MLM in 2009 and didn’t come out until 2012. During the MLM period, he tried every means to get me involved. I knew he was doing MLM and I didn’t go. He came out at the end of 2012. At that time, it can be said that his family was heavily in debt, which was basically the debt of his brothers and sisters and bank loans. During those years, he kept bragging in front of me about how much money they made. He really regarded me as his best friend and wanted to make me rich. After he came out, he was embarrassed to ask me to borrow money. I knew his difficulties, so I took the initiative to lend him 5,000. In the next few years, he started a small business to pay off part of the debt. In 2016, he came to me and I ran a breakfast restaurant in Chengdu. , he also wanted to do this business, but he said he had no money to invest, so I encouraged him to do it, and I said I would try my best to help. As a result, he found a store with a good location. The investment required about 60,000 to 70,000 yuan, and he only had 30,000 yuan in hand. Ten thousand yuan, but he didn’t dare to take over the store for fear that he would have no money to run it later. I said I would borrow 20,000 yuan first and then if it was not enough, he would borrow another 20,000 yuan to renovate the store and buy machinery, etc., but the money was not enough, so I transferred another 5,000 yuan to him. Business was not good in the first year and I didn’t want to do it anymore.

Another friend and I encouraged him to persist. We knew that if he persisted in this position, he would do big business in the future (new high-rise community). Later, my business got better and better day by day, I paid back the money I owed, and I had hundreds of thousands on hand. On the contrary, my business got worse and worse day by day, and I had no choice but to close down. Since then, he has slowly distanced himself from me. He feels superior in front of me. He never talks about how I helped and encouraged him. He always brags about his good vision and craftsmanship in crowded situations. Tell me, do I still need to continue to be a friend like this?

I will not look down on the poor. I have also had this kind of time. When I was very poor, I also had friends who were in bad circumstances. However, I particularly look down on a kind of people. They are not only poor but also complain all day long. You can say that I There is such a person around me who never works hard. The three members of his family rely entirely on borrowed money to survive. He dreams all day about starting a business. Even with a lot of foreign debt, he actually wants a second child for a boy. Even the production expenses are borrowed, not to mention the old man and so on. The old man has no savings at all, and he complains all day long about being looked down upon because he is poor. In fact, he is not looked down upon as poor at all

Moreover, this person’s The concept of consumption is also very strange. I spend money that does not match my income. My monthly salary is 3,000 yuan. I spend 1,000 yuan to buy toys for my children. I have all the toys at home. I just borrow money when I have no money. The child has a stomachache and needs to buy more than 200 yuan. Biostime, but when I bought a cake worth more than 100 yuan for my parents, he thought it was expensive because he didn’t use it on himself [picking his nose]. This is the weirdest person I have ever seen.

I don’t think it’s okay to be poor. As long as you keep working hard and be diligent, you will get better and better

In most cases, it makes sense for people who are really poor not to visit relatives. Don’t believe it, anyone with a sly eye knows this truth. People without a sly eye think that others really treat themselves as guests [呲呲]

As the saying goes: A small fortune depends on hard work, a big fortune depends on fate. . Some people are really poor. They work hard all their lives and end up with nothing. Although in today's society, if you work hard, your life will not be too bad, and you will definitely have enough food and clothing, but it depends on who you compare with. You are an ordinary person in your family, and your relatives are all rich. Even if you are diligent, you will be looked down upon if you visit relatives during the holidays. Relatives are not like others laughing at you behind your back, but are sarcastic and sarcastic in front of you, which is quite sad when you think about it.

Almost all of my relatives are demolished households, and their lives have exploded in middle age. So, seeing that those of us who had not been demolished were poor people, my aunt would bring two bottles of Wahaha when she came to my house during the holidays, or she would eat the leftovers of the food, and her words would be sarcastic, and her contempt for others would be very obvious. You may think that my family has a difficult life and has never seen food or drink, but is "generous" in all kinds of ways. Every time I come, I bring a few small things worth a few dollars, and when I leave, the trunk of my car is filled with fruits and vegetables. I was confused. Although my family is not rich, it is definitely far from a poor county. My younger brother bought his own private car before he was twenty, and his family situation was much better than that of his family. As a result, we were demolished and we became poor in the eyes of others.

A relative in my family once said that if you don’t bring a thousand yuan gift to their home, don’t go. So, we stayed away from each other for so many years. We took our children on holidays without visiting relatives. My parents scolded me for being heartless. Don't say you look down on us, I won't go to your house yet! How can you be so willful! When I was poor, I didn’t eat or drink from your house, nor did I use your wifi. Why should I lick my face and make myself miserable? I’m not stupid [呲呲]

My parents They are typical indifferent people. They are afraid of borrowing money when others avoid them. They also comfort themselves in various ways, which is something that relatives do not have. Whenever I have nothing to do, I always like to say that I am stupid because of my studies and do not understand the ways of the world. I live without any human touch and am selfish. I am deeply impressed by their views and do not interfere with them. Of course, I do not take their words seriously. I just live my own life. Why do I care about so much [呲呲]

When a person is poor, even his relatives will really look down on him. This is the reality.

People under low eaves have to bow their heads. In this real society, people must know how to be forbearing and learn to be tolerant, instead of being blindly strong, and they must dialectically understand the phrase "the strongest is easy to break".

It’s other people’s business to look down on you. You don’t lack a hand. You have your own brain and your own hands, which can bring a lot of things.

I feel that if you are poor and looked down upon by your relatives, you don’t need to resist, get angry, or vent. Instead, you should be diligent, down-to-earth, and realistic, and let others see your differences, your abilities, and your abilities. to your efforts.

You walk on your single-plank bridge, while others walk on other people's sunny paths. In this life, one does not compete with others for food, drink, status, or status. You are not supported by them, and you don't need to look at their faces. The main thing is to live happily, live freely, and live freely.

This makes sense. This is the case in real society. When you are poor, no one wants to talk to you, and no one wants to take a second look at you. They are all afraid of getting stuck on you and stay away from you. If you want to be respected by others, you must have real talents and skills, strengthen your self-confidence, work hard and struggle, and achieve some achievements that will impress others. Only then will others respect you, otherwise , accomplish nothing and no one will look down upon you.

This is a true portrayal of today's society. People are poor but have short ambitions, horses are thin and hairy, and those who are looked down upon by relatives and friends can only make unremitting efforts, not afraid of hard work, be down-to-earth, work hard, and work hard. I have also met many people who have big money. I didn’t make any money, and I didn’t make any small money. I played cards, bought chips, and gambled every day. The more I gambled, the poorer I became. So I hope that gentlemen will take this as a warning. Even if they have money, they should get up early. A happy life depends on hard work. Only by using your hands to create can you have possessions. You must have firm faith. As long as you are hardworking and willing to do something and take responsibility, God will never let down everyone who works hard.

Give me an answer, yes!

Don’t ask why, are there poor and rich people among your relatives?

If so, you know it.

For wealthy relatives, you hope that they can help you. Even if you don't have such an idea, you say that you feel envious of these people. But it is possible to say that being rich is great. Then it is possible that you have a holiday.

You may not feel that your poor relatives have anything to do with me. But in front of this relative, you will feel more or less superior.

If you still can’t understand it, for example, suppose you are a boy and there are two girls around you, one from a rich family and the other from a poor family. You must be more interested in children from rich families, and it’s not because of their looks! Everyone has a longing for good things deep down, and those rich people accumulate wealth through their own efforts. It’s more of a reflection of ability!

In fact, it feels very realistic to say it, just like a teacher who likes good students and dislikes those who study poorly. Some people work hard and rely on their own efforts to accumulate wealth, leaving aside things like character first.

If you look at the news, you will know that people like Jack Ma are very popular, and how much attention they pay to some poor people!

Whether it is urban or rural, whether it is ancient or modern, it is a society that pays attention to human relationships. When you are weak, incompetent and poor, your relatives will pretend not to see you; when you are rich and capable, others will come to compliment you and want to benefit from you. "If you are poor in the busy city, no one cares about you, but if you are rich in the mountains, you have distant relatives." Even in modern society, this will still be the case, and it will become more and more serious.

Relative was a very good word when we were young. I vaguely remember that our aunts bought us sweets and fruits to eat. Sometimes they would hug us affectionately and give us small red envelopes. If we were in the countryside, our cousins ??would carry us across the river to play in the water and catch fish and shrimps. Especially when our parents want to beat us, our relatives will stand by us and help us excuse ourselves. At that time, it seemed that apart from our parents and grandparents, our relatives might be the best people to us, because they would treat us better than ordinary people.

When we grow up and have the ability to think independently, we suddenly find that we need to re-understand the word relative. Especially in rural society, relatives are money-based relationships that compete with each other and benefit from each other. When we get together, we either talk about family affairs or gossip about the village. Moreover, opinions and conflicts often arise between relatives in rural areas. The following four situations can help you understand the subtleties between relatives and make people no longer have illusions.

Participate in weddings with share money: Share money is originally a small way to congratulate each other on good deeds in rural society, and it is just a courtesy. However, some relatives only take advantage of the land and collect gifts in various ways. When he needed to return the favor, he pretended to be blind and deaf, wishing he didn't pay a penny.

It is easy to borrow money but difficult to repay it: Borrowing money between relatives in rural areas is particularly prone to conflicts. Not borrowing is not fun enough. If you borrow something without asking, you will delay repaying it on the agreed date. If you ask, it may worsen the relationship. If you don't ask, you are unwilling to do so because it is all hard-earned money.

Poor in the busy city and no one cares about it, but rich in the mountains with distant relatives: a family's financial situation will always change over time. As the saying goes, thirty years in Hedong means thirty years in Hexi. In rural society, when you and your relatives have the same economic conditions, your two families can live in peace with each other and greet each other during festivals.

When your relatives suddenly become very rich, but your own family is far inferior to them. Even if you lower your profile and go to their home and bring them a lot of gifts, you will still be looked down upon and the reception towards you will not be as good as before. Your words have become harsh and unbearable, and this kind of relative rarely comes to your home. Do you think this kind of relationship should continue?

They say they care about you, but in fact they don’t care about you that much at all: Relatives sometimes seem to treat you better than they treat their own children, but in fact they are just paying lip service to them. What matters is of course their own children. I once heard a real example. A relative told the child's parents that there was a good middle school in the county and it would not be wrong to send the child to study. When the child's parents actually sent the child to study, the relative said He sent his children to a better middle school in the county.

"If you are poor in the busy city, no one cares about you, but if you are rich in the mountains, you have distant relatives" will become more and more serious in today's human society. The movement between many relatives in rural areas and cities will gradually become less frequent. Within 10 minutes of arriving, they would drive away. Due to the lack of exchange and communication, some people say that visiting relatives now is like "acting". In the future, the phenomenon of "poor people in the downtown area and no one cares about them, and rich people in the mountains with distant relatives" may become more common.

When a person is very poor, you will not have relatives to greet you even in a busy market. When a person is very rich, even if you live in a rural area deep in the mountains, you will not be without relatives. This sentence exposes the cruelty and indifference of human society and makes us tremble. What do you think about this? Welcome to leave a message.

Most of them are like this, and some are looking down on poor relatives who are unwilling to make progress and settle for the status quo because they do not help the poor. There is a saying that tells the truth: if you are poor in the streets, no one will ask you, but if you are rich in the mountains, you will have distant relatives! It exposes the instinct of human nature to the fullest. When a person is poor, he is afraid that his poverty will be contaminated by him. He is afraid that his poor relatives will ask for a loan or ask for help. If he sees it from a distance, he will avoid it and find an excuse to evade it. But the rich person Relatives, even if they have a donkey's tail and a stick, will come to him no matter how far away they are, as long as they can get in touch with him. They will flatter and distance themselves from him to express their relationship with him. Little did he know that he turned a blind eye to his poor relatives and looked down on them from the bottom of his heart. The mood is just like the way he sees you now! People who are three points poor but five points poor are like troubles and stains in the eyes of others. If you want to do something to change the status quo, when you go to seek support, others will always think, look, you are here to borrow money again, you are really a debt collector. There is a bottomless pit of ghosts, and lending him money is like a piece of meat that will never come back, so he refuses for various reasons! A better relative will think that it is not enough to give it as charity anyway. It is unlucky to find such a relative, and send him off like a beggar, keeping the loan amount to the minimum, and say politely with pity: Only this time it will not happen. next time! Therefore, people must work hard and manage their lives well. We don’t expect to be rich and powerful. Just be able to stand upright in front of others. Otherwise, if you are poor and even look down on your own relatives, your life will really be a failure!