Talk about simple love, poke your heart and meet your unknown self.

It is time that wastes the years, gradually making us confused about what is today and what is tomorrow. I'll even be lucky enough to show up, only to find out that I really miss you.

We all say that love is blind, and some people say that love is caused by dopamine. The ultimate reason for the long-lasting love is the internal psychological needs (I finally want to discuss love from the psychological point of view).

We long for love to happen because we need to be seen and valued, and we need to have a sense of existence.

When a person continues to care about you and gives you a feeling of knowing you very well, you will become more and more dependent on each other. In addition to your habits, you will feel your presence in each other.

Xiao Bing left me a message saying that the boy who confirmed the relationship between men and women online was supposed to meet on the winter solstice, but he stood her up. After standing her up, he never contacted her again, let alone a red envelope gift for Christmas, not even a blessing.

I asked Kutcher, what kind of couple are you? It's just the flirting I mentioned earlier. The other party is a liar, yes, but you want to be teased and teased, so you have to give up. Whether to delete it or not depends on your determination.

Xiao Bing is upset. She said that she really got along well with him. He is not handsome, but he is humorous.

Many people, like cookies, just talk, talk for a long time, and then get distracted.

Why can't we control our hearts and leave?

From the perspective of existential psychology, all of us want to see that we really exist in this world, which is what we often call the sense of existence. We can see the real material form of our existence through the mirror, and we are also eager to be seen at the level of consciousness and spirit.

I especially long for my deepest self to be seen.

If your soul is really seen by a person, you will easily fall in love with this person.

This is also the reason why we are easily distracted by people we can talk to. Because of this tacit understanding, this understanding has brought us closer.

It is also easy for us to make a better impression on people with similar interests, because it is easy to produce a kind of spiritual sound, and the physical and mental pleasure brought by this confidant sound can easily make us fall in love with each other.

We've all had this experience. When someone you like or care about doesn't reply to your message, it's easy for you to lose control, keep looking at your mobile phone, ponder over the text repeatedly before sending the next message, and even think for a long time before adding expressions and punctuation. This anxiety is the direct result of being left out.

In love, when the active party gets the indifferent response from the other party, the mood will fall into a downturn, because the neglect and indifference of the other party will lead to a lack of sense of existence, which will lead to a sense of meaninglessness and at the same time feel useless.

If your partner always doubts you and denies you, then what you feel is not understood, and this feeling of distrust will make you feel lost. People who can read you and always stand on your side will make you feel looked at, which will make you feel safe in your feelings.

So I am most afraid of cold violence in my feelings.

Love that makes the other person feel at ease and comfortable will last long.

Another important reason is that I met myself in the process of loving you.

In the process of getting along with you, I found my own shortcomings. At the same time, in the process of loving you, I keep learning, constantly discovering new myself and meeting unknown myself.

I love you, because from you, I really found my sense of existence in this world.

I have always felt that whether I give love or want to be loved, it is to meet my inner needs.

Everything we do is driven by internal needs.

So, when you can't love, or feel that love is too tired, you might as well calm down and ask yourself, what are you doing to get love? Only by stopping and conducting sober introspection can we love ourselves better.

Absent-minded sentences, every sentence is written in your heart.

1. Life is an invisible piggy bank, and every effort you make will not be wasted.

Many times, we are unhappy not because the conditions for happiness are incomplete, but because life is not simple enough.

When you want to give up your dream, stick to it for another day. You will find that the result of refusing to leave is so beautiful.

People can't live too clearly. As the saying goes, exhausted, heartless, not tired.

Between life and death, it is a lonely life journey. Keep a true love and light the lamp of warm life.

6. I gradually understand that people will experience too many ups and downs in their lives, and it is impossible to be smooth sailing forever, and it will not be stormy forever. No sky will always be clear in Wan Li, and no one's mind will always be spotless. Therefore, after Qian Fan, learn to be strong, learn to be patient and learn to be calm! In prosperity, think more, in adversity, have more courage; When you succeed, you have more indifference; When you hesitate, you are more confident.

7. What keeps a relationship is not honesty, but consideration of the feelings of the other party, with reservations-feelings that are freely put away last the longest.

8. Love can be as humble as a flower in the dust, or as proud as ever.

9. The road of life depends on yourself step by step. What really protects you is your own personality choice, and what really hurts you is the same, your own choice.

10. Most of the pain in life is not caused by others, but by yourself.

1 1. We are all scattered in the wind of years. In retrospect, I can't see the trace of being together, although it was so hard to be together.

12. Treat everyone around us with heart: No matter whether we meet or miss, there are always some people and things that we can't forget.

13. I know my pain, my lament and my happiness best.

14. Some things, some people, when you walk with the years and look back, suddenly feel that the whole world has changed. Maybe this is youth! Memories are beautiful, but they have become the past, and all we can do is cherish them. Then, face the future with a smile.

15. You asked me how I was, and I said I was fine. The good thing is that I drove alone through the boundless wasteland, I stood by with my eyes closed and watched the unfathomable sea, I dealt with some calculations in my life, I resisted the occasional bad attempt of fate, and I wanted to call you at those times to say that I was afraid. But in the end, I held back. I can't rely on you anymore. I'm fine. Although I still miss you, I still learn to let you go.

16. Everyone's youth can't escape a love. Here, there is love, affection, joy and joy, but it is difficult to have eternity alone.

17. Time is the best medicine. Give yourself some time. If you learn to love yourself, you can't have a hard time with anyone.

18. In life, the real self bears the disguised self. In reality, a simple self is loaded with a complex self. Go to the theatre, opera and acting. Don't trust eyes, don't trust ears, only the perceptual heart is right, just understand.

A Collection of Quotations from "Meeting Unknown Oneself"

1. Personality tends to external environment. Past karma of various educational life events (if you believe it) = life mode.

Everything that separates us from our true selves is like darkness. All we can do is to illuminate them with the light of awareness. In this part of the body surface, the so-called light of awareness is to reconnect with our body. Most of us have only 5% knowledge and control of our bodies, and 95% of our bodies are controlled by the automatic navigation system in a subconscious state. Therefore, finding a connection with the body can help us expand 5% of our territory and find more ourselves. Talk to your body and listen to your body.

3. Listen to the voice in your head and observe it. The sound is there. I'm here to listen to it and see it. This understanding is not an idea, it is a feeling that you are present, and a new dimension of consciousness rises. Through such observation (listening to inner thoughts and conversations), you can feel a deeper self under those thoughts, a conscious existence.

I have feelings, but not my own. I can detect my emotions, but what I can detect is not the real knower. The mood is repeated, but it doesn't affect my heart. I have emotions, but not my own.

We all have a kind of consciousness since childhood, and that kind of consciousness has always existed since you can remember when you were a child, accompanying you to go to school, study, get married and do things. So, one thing about us has not changed. Although our bodies, feelings, feelings, knowledge and experience are constantly changing, we still have a basic feeling about ourselves.

6. Do you know? There are only three things in the world: God's business, your business and others' business.

7. The root of all our pains is that we don't know who we are, but we blindly cling to and pursue things that can't represent us.

8. The advantage of surrender is that when you accept the present and don't waste your energy fighting for nothing, things will often take an unexpected turn for the better, and you will find that the original struggle is really in vain. Moreover, because you concentrate on what is in front of you, sometimes you will find a better solution to help you get out of the immediate predicament or the situation you don't like.

9. Basically, any exercise that can make you concentrate and live in the present can help you reconnect with your body, so the exercise itself is not important. What matters is your mentality and situation when you do it.

10. When you become a mother in the future, remember to give your child unlimited emotional support and recognition.

1 1. These emotions are all energy. Especially for children, some natural fears, unexpected anger, disappointment and sadness are just the flow of natural life energy. When it is time to come, I will definitely go.

12. About one hundred years ago, our great psychologists discovered the human subconscious. It controls our thoughts, feelings, behaviors and reactions to people and things, as well as our interpersonal relationship and decision-making process.

I have a body, but I am not my own. I can see and feel my body, but what I can see and feel is not a real viewer. My body may be tired or excited, sick or healthy, heavy or relaxed, anxious or calm, but it has nothing to do with my inner self. I have a body, but I am not my own.

14. So if a person is full of happy and positive thoughts, then good people, good things and good things will ring with him and be attracted to him. Similarly, if a person always carries a pessimistic thought frequency, then it is no wonder that bad things often happen to this person.

15. Every parent is human and has his own restrictions. But you have to believe that in every moment in the past, your parents tried their best to play their roles. They may not be the best parents, but their knowledge and resources are limited. Under many restrictions, what you get is the result of their best efforts.

16. Those qualities that are not allowed are suppressed by our subconscious mind. But they are a kind of energy, and they won't disappear just because you don't recognize its existence. These things are what psychologist Jung called shadows, the inherent characteristics of our denial, repression and resistance. These repressed shadows, as well as our emotions that have not been recognized by our parents and environment since childhood, are unreleased energy stored in our cellular memory. They come to us from time to time and cause us trouble, but we don't want to see them. As a result, we have developed many strategies to escape these anxieties, impetuousness, sudden anger, inexplicable sadness, and the mantra that you are not good enough, you are wrong, you are inferior to others, and you are not perfect.

17.A (event) b (belief, idea) c (result) a is always neutral, because the same a will appear in different people. For example, when my mother-in-law sees me, her face is not very good (A). If I think she hates me (b), I will feel very sad (c), but if I think she is in a bad mood (B 1), I will pay neutral attention to my interaction with her (C 1). If I think she is uncomfortable (B2), I will be kind to her (C2). So different B leads to different C, which also affects my relationship with my mother-in-law.

18. Quiet time is the most effective weapon to cure our chaotic thoughts and negative emotions, because it can help you build up your consciousness and enhance your knowledge of things and yourself. Moreover, during meditation, if our bodies are motionless and our emotions and thoughts are closely monitored, you can have a short meeting with the true self. Although short-lived, you are close to the source of life; Maybe you can't drink it, but you can get some wet steam. Quiet time can not be established overnight, but in this process, you will feel more and more the characteristics from your true self: love, happiness and peace.

19. Having accepted so many expectations and ideals, we have produced many beliefs, values, attitudes and standards to restrain ourselves and measure and criticize others. These are the foundations of our daily thoughts, and we never test the correctness of our thoughts.

20. Behind every negative emotion, there is an idea to support. Because emotion is the reaction of the body after being stimulated by our thoughts.

2 1. Hard work, alcoholism, smoking, various addictions, watching TV, groupies, excessive exercise, helping others, constantly reading, studying, clubbing, changing partners, changing jobs, all kinds of plays in life.

22. If we are used to paying attention to the feeling of the body and taking care of it from time to time, many diseases will not be caused by accumulation.

23. I am not my job, my performance, my success or failure. These external things simply can't shake my inner true self and see the false identity of the ego!

24. When you really want something, what you radiate is the vibration frequency of that energy, and then the whole universe will unite to help you achieve what you want.

What makes us psychologically miserable is not the event itself, but our thinking about time and the stories fabricated around this event.

26. This inner self will not be born with your body, nor will it disappear with your death. It can observe all kinds of life, enjoy the sunrise and sunset, and the Yun Qi Cloud disappears, but the passage of time and the change of environment will not change it.

27. In the face of daily life, we try to live in the present and surrender to what has happened. What has happened is God, because it wouldn't have happened if it wasn't God's will, so we surrender to it. Because we believe in God's grace, we can make the best choice without fear, because we firmly believe that God's grace is hidden in it, so the best things will happen because of our conscious choice.

Many times, when we are in a bad mood, such as sadness and depression, we always want to struggle out of this quagmire. So we don't face it, suppress it, deny it, and refuse it with many escape strategies. Remember: whatever you resist will last. Because when you resist something or an emotion, you will focus on that emotion or event, which will give it more energy and make it stronger.

29. Modern society is like a killing battlefield. Everyone is trying to grab the energy of others in different ways, trying to control others, using power to override others, gaining their attention, recognition and love, or proving that they are right, good and superior.

30. I have desires, but I am not my own desires. I can know my desires, but what I can know is not the real knower. Desires come and go, but they don't affect my heart. I have desires, but I am not my own desires.

3 1. All the events that happened to us were carefully packaged gifts. As long as we are willing to face its sometimes ugly packaging and open it bit by bit with patience and courage, we will be pleasantly surprised to see the treasure inside.

Many times, we think that our emotional resistance and opposition can change the facts we don't want, but our resistance is like hitting our head against the wall, which is really futile and doesn't help the subsequent development of things at all.

33. Because the fact is the biggest, because what has happened cannot be changed. Not accepting it is like hitting your head against the wall, hoping to knock it open. In vain, the biggest reason why we will suffer is to resist the facts.

34. It is an invisible world, but it dominates our external world. Our consciousness, self-knowledge, thinking, rationality, judgment and feelings all come from the subconscious. Our cognition and preference for ourselves at the level of consciousness only accounts for 1% of our own panorama. The subconscious is a very powerful force, which has a complete influence on our self, 99% of which we don't know.

Dear, there is no one outside. Everything outside is the result of your inner projection.

36. Focus on your inner body, feel the feelings of all parts of your body at that time, or focus on your breathing. Our thoughts are always in the past and the future, but our bodies and breathing are always in the present.

Physiologically, if you do something repeatedly, a long-term and fixed relationship will be established between some of our nerves and cells. For example, you are angry, depressed and miserable every day. You repeatedly wire and integrate that neural network every day, and it becomes one of your emotional patterns.

When we have a deep and sincere desire in our hearts, the whole universe will unite to help you. This is the god in your mind. When you pray, there will be a positive vibration energy in your heart, which will absorb what you want, that is, God answers your prayers and gives you what you really want.

39. I see that I am looking for the painful feeling of not being loved. I accept this feeling wholeheartedly and let go of my demand for it.

40. Worry is the worst gift. Better bless him!

4 1. Emotion is an energy that will come and go. Adults don't interfere. Let children learn how to deal with their emotions. What we have to do is to give them unlimited love and support. If you teach children to avoid negative emotions by transferring, children will learn to use substitutes to avoid emotions when they grow up, such as smoking, drug abuse and workaholism, which is terrible. If you want to suppress your child's emotions, it will be even worse.

42. I am the only pure awareness. I am the witness of all thoughts, feelings, feelings and perceptions.

43. I have thoughts, but I am not my own thoughts. I can see and know my thoughts, but what I can know is not the real knower. Thoughts come and go, but they can't affect me inside. I have thoughts, but I am not my own thoughts.

Every sentence is simple and profound.

Every young man will grow old.

But I hope

Memory of you

all the best

Live in peace with the past and be gentle with the world.

May you be less hurt when you are stubborn, and may things remain the same when you suddenly wake up.

Write down the scenery in your heart to ensure that the spring will bloom in the coming year.

The title falls in front of the court, and Qin Hui wears it with you.

May you be treated gently by the world, even if life is always mean and ridiculous.

The best thing in life is meeting, and the most rare thing is reunion.

I hope you won't be worn away by the years, and don't be negative about everything. All your choices are not because you have to, but because you really like them. That would be great.

It doesn't matter if you meet someone. You just don't like others. Good morning.