Will you send your children to a full-time kindergarten under the age of 3?

0-3 years old is the period when children establish the best attachment relationship. In this golden age, I don't recommend sending children to full-time kindergartens.

Attachment is a very important emotional bond between parents and children. If the child is sent to full-time care before the age of 3, it will reduce many opportunities for companionship, which is likely to cause insecurity to the child, and at the same time, it will not establish a safer attachment relationship, so the child's various behaviors will follow.

Unsafe attachment can be divided into avoidance attachment and rebellious attachment. The former, mom and dad left, and the child didn't respond. Mom and dad are back, and the children haven't changed. Such children equate their parents with strangers, and there is no close attachment between them. It is difficult to influence children on the road of raising children in the future.

In the latter's rebellious insecure attachment, children will be quite anxious and rebellious because of their parents' short-term departure, and then they will show their willingness to contact their parents when they come back, but at the same time they are resistant, which is a contradictory behavior.

There is a mother who is too busy at work to send her children under 2 years old to the mother-in-law's house in rural areas to raise them. She seldom goes back to see the children, and even if she does, she just goes back and forth like a horse. Later, the child returned to her when she was 6 years old and ready to go to primary school, but the child had no feelings for her. The mode of getting along with her was like being with others, without any intimacy. Children are afraid to tell her at the first time when they encounter any problems. This state once made her regret it very much. Why did she send the child away when he was young?

Therefore, it is not recommended to send children under 3 to full-time care. Even if there are any objective reasons, I think it is necessary to increase the company with children in the golden age, establish a good attachment relationship, and increase the foundation for future education.