The feeling that blind date men give me is that they always feel that they are awesome and have a big temper, but sometimes they feel that others are ok. What should I do?

Lovers inevitably stumble in love. After the initial novelty, two people will enter a stage called running-in period.

When you enter the world of two people from a single state, you will gradually realize their differences, which is called the running-in period of love and the real test period. The process of overcoming the running-in period is also the process of trying to love someone. When two people are together, it is not a simple question of who is right or wrong. The key is to respect each other's ideas, strive to change themselves for each other, and accept each other with an inclusive attitude, so that love will be better!

When a couple decide to be together after a period of hard work, they have to face a longer road, because after that, they really want to live together and get out of the original perfect side.

They may have a cold war because they have different views on a line in a movie, or they may quarrel because the other party doesn't wash socks. In short, they will find many details of each other unacceptable, and it is time to break in. This is a long process. You have to be tolerant and considerate, and you have to think about each other and the future, so that you can get through this difficulty. Lovers who pass this level will sublimate to the realm of knowing yourself and yourself, and then you will become more and more tacit. This may be the so-called how to see the rainbow without experiencing wind and rain, and how to achieve harmony without experiencing running-in.

Running-in period is a transitional period. If it passes smoothly, the feelings of two people will be sublimated to a new stage. Mutual tolerance, mutual understanding and even each other's shortcomings are the advantages of mutual appreciation! But if you don't spend it, then the running-in period is a precursor to two people breaking up. Today, I will share with you some matters needing attention for couples to spend the running-in period.

1. Don't change too much.

For example, if you like each other's optimism and extroversion, then he must have a good relationship with the opposite sex. You like the other person's clever and sensible, then he certainly doesn't like adventure and comparison man show. If you like the other person's coquetry, then he will be a little girly. Advantages and disadvantages must coexist. You can't have your cake and eat it. On this issue, two people should compromise each other.

2. Don't take it for granted

When a person treats you well for too long, people tend to take it for granted. Parents are the best examples. Of course, the love our parents give us will never disappear, but lovers are different!

If you take his contribution for granted, it will be difficult for him to have the courage to stick to it. Love is selfish. When he pays for you, he certainly wants you to give him the same warmth.

Control emotion

If we stay with a person for a long time, we can easily lose our temper with him. We always show the worst to the people closest to us, because we think he will understand me, and he is the one who knows me best. In fact, he is also the most vulnerable person to us. If you love him, you must be more patient. Why should life be like love at first sight? It is better to love at first sight than to be tired for a long time.

Feelings are two people's business. Two people have communication and contact, and finally they will have feelings. The main reason that the running-in period easily leads to failure is the lack of normal communication.

Sometimes two people will wonder why they can talk about everything at first sight, and then you can accept it no matter how bad the other person is. But in the end, everyone was silent until they lost it. I still felt that fate had not arrived, so I should wait for the next person who knows me better and is more in tune. In fact, as long as you have this idea, your relationship will inevitably fail. No matter who you are with, even if you go to the marriage hall, you are doomed to divorce.

The fundamental reason lies in people's self-esteem. They always want to get each other's approval and see how much they love and care about themselves, while they stand still first. Finally, the other person is tired and gives up, and you are still thinking that you are not sincere. People who really love you won't leave you.

Too much self-esteem often hurts each other invisibly. When a person is willing to put down his self-esteem and love you, he must really want to have a future with you. But you feel that the other person has changed and become more and more contemptuous. That's because you don't understand love as deeply as the other person, and love is not as sincere as the other person.

To solve this problem, it is also very simple. Two people hold hands to have a touching communication, tell each other what you need and let them tell you. And talk about their respective ideals and the future they want. In the end, you will find that whether you can do it or not, the other party will tolerate you unconditionally. After going through the stage of self-esteem, your feelings will be sublimated to another level. Two people know how to respect each other more and think more about each other, so they will feel safe for the first time.

Just like a child, I tell you a secret, you tell me one, and then we guard the secret together and move forward hand in hand.

Some boys are always hasty in pursuing girls. Tell me I love you when we meet and be my girlfriend. If rejected, they will find the next one. Come on, do you think feelings are worthless Chinese cabbage in the vegetable market? So all the girls will be scared away by you. Please respect your feelings and girls. After all, what you like is appearance. If you ask yourself, when she is old, can you still love her as you did at the beginning?

Some boys have been chasing you for a long time, thinking that girls have been testing you and giving up. In fact, you don't know that after you left, she silently broke her heart and cried. But she'll never get your heart again. She knows that you are kind to her and accepts you from the bottom of her heart, but she hasn't determined her heart yet. Boys should give her time. A girl's test ended from the beginning. You can ask her out alone, which means she has a crush on you. You can ask her out alone twice. Actually, she already likes you. The rest is waiting for her to get familiar with you and determine her heart, which usually takes 2 to 3 months. This is a precursor to the running-in period, and boys will succeed if they can get through it. I can't stand failure. I hurt someone who loves you.

Let's talk about girls. Some girls like to compare with their boyfriends. No matter how good others are, what you see is only the external appearance. It is also the harvest paid by others. You compare your boyfriend. Do you like your boyfriend or someone else's boyfriend? Respecting him and encouraging her is what you should do.

Some girls have been unable to determine their own hearts, do not accept, do not refuse, do not pay. Well, congratulations. You have succeeded in becoming an excellent love rat. You must feel quite wronged yourself. What does it matter to you that boys are willing to do everything?

Then let me ask you: Do you know that boys like you because they are good to you? When you are not sure about your heart, you hesitate to refuse or accept, that is your business. The time, money and, more importantly, sincerity that boys spend on you. Do you deserve him? Don't give you an excuse to be friends with him.

To tell you the truth, you are selfish. You are afraid of losing someone who loves you, but you are not satisfied with him, and you want to wait for him to work harder. And no matter how hard he tries, he won't get your sincerity in the end, because you don't know how to respect feelings and boys. Girls who know how to respect their feelings don't like to refuse at the beginning. When you meet a boy you like, try to cultivate him into what you want. Not as painful as you.

Everyone dreams of a perfect love, which only exists in fairy tales. Romance only exists in the eyes of others, and two people can't feel it at all. It is the perfect love that has come together through hardships.

To love someone is to make up your mind from the beginning not to abandon or give up, to constantly tolerate each other's shortcomings, and to remind each other to change with correct giving up; Carry forward each other's advantages and encourage them to maintain their advantages.

The most touching feeling is that

1. Unconsciously, you find that the other person has changed, changing in the way you want, and one day you are not used to it and want the other person to change back.

2. What wakes you up every morning is no longer the annoying alarm clock, but the hug of the other party.

3. The day before you leave, you inadvertently turn around and find that the other person is still standing in the same place watching you leave first.

4. Experience the trivial life of daily necessities, as always for you.

The other party knows all your hobbies and habits, even the places where you hide your private money. The other party silently gives you money to change your position or take the initiative to admit your mistake.

6. I was about to get angry when I came home one day and saw no one. The other person is actually visiting your parents. I scolded him for not seeing each other's anger and explanation in the past, and finally got a call from my parents about whether he got home safely.

7. Two people realized an unattainable ideal together, and finally cried out I love you.

8. When everyone in the world is deceiving you and avoiding you, a person gives up on herself, but she silently accompanies you. No matter how many mean words you say, you can't get rid of it.

In fact, people are not suitable, only love and not love. Good relationships are all running-in periods, but few people really never leave, and most of them end in the running-in period. Failure is not that the other person is not loving enough, but that he is not persistent enough.

A person never takes the first step, but always wants to see the rainbow. Sorry, you always have to envy others.

A person always looks forward to the arrival of love, but sleeps at home. Sorry, you only dream.

A person always sees what others have and doesn't learn to do it himself. I'm sorry you have to wait to be eliminated.

Let go of your arrogant self-esteem, when you go all out, you still can't get the feelings you want. Even if I lost you, I learned my experience. I dare to say from the bottom of my heart-I loved you. Even if we broke up, with memories, we could feel the sincerity at that time, and our hearts were like a warm current.

Some people will never get love:

1. People who would rather passively accept failure than put down their self-esteem and take the initiative. Because your self-esteem is more important than love.

2. People who chop and change, are not sure about the feelings they need, and keep choosing to give up, and eventually you will have nothing.

3. People who cheat feelings, you only get a person's appearance instead of feelings, and you have no feelings.

4. People who listen to others' opinions, you just live like others, and have nothing to do with your feelings.

Nowadays, the network poison chicken soup always teaches people how to love themselves, what is qualified to love others, how to think from multiple angles, how to make money, how to see the pattern and how to look at people. You can agree with many views. If you believe it, congratulations! You have been successfully brainwashed.

Love can only be felt and understood by oneself, and both relatives and friends can only have the right to suggest. But always remember one sentence. In this world, there is no need for anyone except parents not to hurt you. There is a kind of person who is not suitable and always advises others to find another one. In fact, he doesn't want you to live better than him. When he can speak so confidently at the end of a relationship, he is not qualified to love someone.

People who teach you how to make money, how to look at the pattern, how to look at people and how to think from multiple angles on the Internet either sell books or sell training like pyramid schemes. It is very important for people to recognize themselves. There is an old saying that has been circulating for many years-keep your feet on the ground.

A person who lives a good life is also a lifetime, even if it is plain, he can live a lifetime. It is very important to learn to get along and stick to it as always.

For the couples in the running-in period, I wish all lovers all get married.