Due to limited conditions, I was forced to live with my in-laws for more than a year, leading to severe depression. What should I do?

What are you depressed about? The young couple rented a house to live in, explained their situation to their in-laws, and left them in a friendly way. Everyone was very happy.

I can't afford to rent a house if conditions don't permit. In order not to live with my in-laws, I'd rather drink porridge every day. Now I take care of two children by myself. I am in a good mood, too. I must push myself. Since living together is so hard. Why not separate,

Mental torture is more painful than physical torture. Live separately after less than one piece. Conditions are not allowed. It's just an excuse that you still depend on your in-laws. I have made up my mind that there is no difficulty that I can't overcome.

One of my colleagues had a big fight with her mother-in-law after giving birth to a baby. Later, everyone advised her not to divorce. She ran away from home, left her children behind, put down the shackles of maternal love, and went out to play no matter what husband or marriage. I came back to work, rented a small house next to the unit, bought a small electric car and lived by myself. Her mother-in-law and husband are exhausted from looking after the children. They came to beg her, and she took care of the children on weekends. Now the child is in kindergarten and is very close to his mother. She was happy, too. Woman, please yourself first

I don't know how much it costs to rent a house in your place. Our side has a 30-square-meter house in the city center, with one bedroom and one corridor, 1333 yuan/month. I live with my children, that's enough. I am here because my children accompany me to school, and the house in the city center is also the most expensive. No matter how bad the conditions are, these thousands of dollars will have to be squeezed out. You and your wife must move out. If there is no need to get involved with the elderly, your life is the most important!

Work at sunrise, rest at sunset, get up early and work hard to earn money. Tired, a thief died, thinking nothing, out of sight, out of mind, and seeing nothing. The three meals were solved by the unit and I fell asleep when I got home. When I see my in-laws, I smile more and turn a deaf ear to criticism. If you make money, you will be fired immediately. Only by keeping your distance can you be harmonious.

Lived with my in-laws for more than a year. Severe depression, conditions are not allowed to live alone. What should I do? What should I do? For my own health, live separately.

No conditions, you can discuss with your husband and rent a cheaper house, as long as you can live. When you leave, your mood will naturally improve, and depression will slowly leave you. No disease, no disaster, two people work hard, earn money, pay down payment, and buy a smaller house. I didn't completely get rid of my in-laws.

Judging from your severe depression, it shows that your mother-in-law is relatively strong, and you may be at home and treat people less well than your mother-in-law. It makes your mother-in-law always give you little shoes to wear, and you are not pleasing to the eye.

It may also be that you are really not motivated, don't work hard, or even a little lazy, don't want to work, don't want to do housework, make your mother-in-law dislike you, and nag you at home every day.

But you may also be a little single-minded, too concerned about people and things, and still obsessed with the truth. It is possible that you are still a little introverted and unwilling to express yourself. If you think about one thing unfairly, you will get sick after a long time and people will be depressed.

If you don't change your environment and lifestyle now, it is possible that your depression will get worse and worse, and you may even think that living is meaningless. Might as well die and get rid of it. By that time, it will be really late, and that is really severe depression.

In order to live a healthy and happy life, you must first cheer yourself up. Go out and look for a job, support yourself first, don't rely on others. At work, making more new friends and talking to people can distract your attention and think less about unhappy things. If you find pleasure in your work, you will naturally feel better.

While the iron is hot, you need to be hard. To be a man, you must be hard first. If we have the ability, who will dare to judge you? Mother-in-law said that you are also doing well for you and your wife. No one who is an old man thinks of his children, and hopes that his descendants will live better than themselves. The old people have good intentions. If some old people use the wrong method, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will naturally arise.

If you want to solve contradictions, you must learn to solve them yourself. My mother-in-law said I was not good, but I would listen and correct it. I don't care what happens, just tell her what she can do to you. To be a man, you should learn not to care about things or fallacies. That person will naturally not be depressed. I will be happy!

I know this situation very well. After six years of marriage, I was very angry with my in-laws. I went to the hospital last year to check for breast nodules. It hurts to raise your hand a few days before the physiological period. Although it is my physical problem, I think my in-laws still contribute, because most of my unhappy life is brought by them.

It is said that the post-90s girls are very happy and spoiled by their parents and in-laws. I was really spoiled by my parents at home. My parents gave me enough sense of security to make me feel that all interpersonal relationships in the world can be sincerely changed.

After I got married, I treated my in-laws better than my parents. I cooked three meals a day and invited them to eat. I did all the housework by myself. Sometimes my father-in-law goes out to play and I leave him food. I warmed him up when he came back. I began to live in junior high school, and I often have to make up lessons on weekends and winter and summer vacations. I spent less time at home after work, so my parents didn't want me to do housework, saying that I finally came back to rest.

Before marriage, parents were against it. They said that my husband's family condition is not good. At that time, my parents were about 45 years old and my in-laws were almost 60. If I can't help the two old people, I will prepare for their old age. I will work very hard. At that time, I was still young and didn't understand human suffering. I thought that as long as my husband was kind to me, everything would be fine.

Love is far from my husband. I see him two or three times a month. Before I got married, I quit my job and wanted to be with my husband. Not long after my marriage, I got pregnant, so I didn't look for a job again. I began to learn to do housework at home. I am not a sentimental person. I honestly cooked three meals a day and all the housework without any discomfort.

Before the baby was born, it was quite harmonious, but after the baby was born, there were contradictions. Before I was born, my mother-in-law said that she took care of me, but I started to be hospitalized until I was born. My mother-in-law has never taken a day off. She was unusually busy that month, working overtime until nine o'clock every night and working overtime on weekends. My husband took care of me in the hospital for a few days. When I came back, my mother saw that my husband had called and said that he could stay for two weeks.

After my mother came home, I was alone. My husband made breakfast before going to work. Before going out, he bathed the baby, washed the dishes and pans, and I made my own soup. He came back late at night, so I took my own kettle to boil water, burned more pots and poured them into the bath in my room. Let it cool down and help the baby bathe by himself, and then pour out the water when my husband comes back.

Before pregnancy, my mother-in-law said that she would help take care of the children after the full moon and go out to work for me. At the full moon, she said that the child is too young for her to take, and she will take it after weaning; The child has given up breastfeeding. She said that the child is too naughty now, and she will help pick him up when he goes to kindergarten. The child went to kindergarten last year. She said that she had a bad relationship with her father-in-law and didn't want to come back to face each other every day. I never asked her to take care of the children. She wrote, directed and acted a lot of beautiful words, went out and said that I was too lazy to go out to work, and excused her from taking care of the children.

In fact, I know that my mother-in-law had a hard time before, and her husband was not good to herself, and she had to bear it at home and abroad. Now that the children are older, I want to save more money while I can still earn money. As a woman, I understand her very well. But she shouldn't slander me everywhere without giving or contributing.

It is said that father-in-law is easier to get along with than mother-in-law. Our family is beautiful. My mother-in-law doesn't want to be with him every day, so she has been living in the dormitory. We are migrant workers in the countryside. We are still working in the fields when we are 60 years old in the countryside, while our father-in-law only works when he is 60 years old.

I talk a lot when I'm not doing anything. I never take my grandson for a day. When my son was ill, he scolded me, saying that I couldn't take care of any children and was not worthy to be a mother. Very ugly. He also said that he would take my son back to his hometown, regardless of my two in-laws begging for food outside. That's ridiculous. We all paid for food, clothes, housing and transportation ourselves. Who is he to say that he took care of us?

He not only scolded me for not taking care of children, but also scolded me for not caring for my son. Where my husband works, everyone knows that it is difficult to collect money on the construction site. Sometimes my husband gets a phone call from a worker or material supplier at home, and he will hear it. When my husband went out, he scolded me for not being able to manage my husband well and owing a lot of debts. I don't even know how to ask my husband to enter the factory to stabilize his salary. While he asked me to call his son into the factory, he also boasted to people that his son was the boss. His face is disgusting.

My son is in kindergarten, and he is afraid that we will let him pick him up. He said a long time ago that there were so many cars on the road that he was afraid to pick up the children. I have to take care of the children, so I can't go out to work full-time, so I have to take back my manual work.

My father-in-law knows that I am at home, walking around the house in red shorts. I got up to go to the toilet several times at night and met him. He left the door open and turned on the light, which scared me half to death. I told my husband that he would remind his father to pay attention. As soon as we eat, he says, "Ka ... Poof ..." and sits at the table, whether it will affect us or not.

My parents gave me the view that at any time, don't scold your elders and have something to say. I will endure being angry again, thinking that after all, it is the person who gave birth to my husband, and everything is fine at home. Being at home every day also affects her husband's mood at work.

After the serious breast nodules last year, I think it's time to think more about myself. I don't care what my mother-in-law says. Anyone with discerning eyes can see who is good and who is bad. As for those who listen to her nonsense, it is not worth my attention to their opinions.

Once my son knocked over four bowls of rice in a row, and I hit him. My father-in-law said I was heartless. How to teach such a young child? He also told my son that his mother was crazy. I am too lazy to argue with him. I called the old man on speaker, told him what happened and asked him, "It's up to you, son. Should your son fight? " Who cares about him? If your father cares about me, I don't say a word and don't care about anything. If it's up to me, tell your father not to interrupt. I'll scold me and teach him a lesson. Your father, the child's view of right and wrong is very chaotic. "

Husband replied: "It must be intentional to knock over four bowls of rice in a row. If you don't teach now, you can't teach when you grow up. " You gave birth to the baby. Of course it's your call. When dad interrupts again, let him talk to me directly and leave you alone. "From then on, my father-in-law never dared to say anything about me taking care of my children. He is lazy and has little money on him. He depends on his son to support the elderly, so he dare not ignore his son's words.

I'm too lazy to eat three meals a day. I will eat out and come back when I take my son to school in the morning. I cook as much as I eat at noon. Sometimes he sits in the living room and I order takeout to take him to the room. When my husband comes back for dinner in the evening, I will cook together. If he doesn't come back for dinner, I'll cook as soon as I pick up my son, and if my father-in-law doesn't come back, we'll eat.

I stay in my room when he is disheveled, or I will go shopping as a reward. If I go shopping, I will ask my husband to transfer money to me. Going out is too expensive, so I told my husband that I didn't want to go out. Your father is at home, not dressed properly. Because I was embarrassed to go out at home, my husband told his father himself.

Once I got up to go to the toilet at night and met my father-in-law who left the door open. I went back to my room to wake my husband up and cried for a long time, saying that I was afraid. Later, every time I went to the toilet in the middle of the night, I woke my husband up to accompany me. It's been almost a year since then, and I haven't seen him since I closed the door to go to the bathroom.

Don't give yourself too many shackles. I feel that as a younger generation, I should honor my in-laws. The premise of being good to them is that they are worth it. But after all, my in-laws are elders, so it's useless to discuss it well. Let my husband go out. How to get a man to talk is a thorny problem. Men are trouble, no matter how noisy you are, just don't hit him. At this time, we must find ways to turn the contradiction between in-laws and sons into contradictions with sons.

For example, when I was teaching my children, my father-in-law sang the devil's advocate, and I told my husband that I would care nothing about my father-in-law in the future. My husband must know his father's character. He is always jealous of what others do, and it is difficult for him to do it himself. At that time, I really didn't care about my children, and my father-in-law couldn't do this or that. My husband will definitely be reluctant to leave his son with him, and he still has to take care of it. In this way, the contradiction between my father-in-law and me will directly involve my husband, who must find a place for himself.

Another father-in-law walks around the house all day in big underpants, and I'm embarrassed to talk to him, and my husband doesn't take it seriously. Then if I can't change them, I will change myself and stay in my room all day. When the room is hot, you have to turn on the air conditioner, and the monthly electricity bill is more than 0/00 yuan/kloc. Maybe my husband doesn't care about the electricity bill. Going out shopping is different. Sit down and have a cup of milk tea when you are tired. After going out for so long, you must buy something to eat and wear. I used to earn 100 yuan by doing manual work at home, but going out shopping may not be enough.

My husband also knows that I am an otaku, and I go shopping when I have something to do. I also told him that it is embarrassing to stay at home. Seeing that the expenses are getting bigger and bigger, the backbone of his family's supply must not sit still.

And my father-in-law doesn't close the door when he goes to the bathroom. My husband may also talk about his father, but the effect is not obvious. It's not like he left the door open when he got up to go to the bathroom. I can't feel the same way when I'm angry. Men are crazy. So I wake him up every night, and he dare not get angry no matter how sleepy he is. It was caused by his father.

After a hard day's work and no good sleep, he certainly didn't like it, so I successfully transferred the problem to him. So I don't need to say that he will find a way to change his father himself.

Therefore, as a daughter-in-law, when the words and deeds of in-laws have a great negative impact on us, we must first pass our own psychology. Filial piety to in-laws is naturally the best, but in-laws are unreasonable, and we don't need to demand ourselves with the framework of "virtuous". If you don't like your in-laws' daughter-in-law, no matter how well you do it, it's not pleasing to the eye. There is no need to care about your good reputation.

There is also the need to learn to transfer contradictions. For a husband, one is his parents and the other is his wife. He must want harmony between the two sides. When there is a contradiction, most men also choose to perfunctory in the past, and both sides don't want to offend.

As we all know, our unpopular daughter-in-law said that what her in-laws said was not serious, and it was useless to say more. But my son's words are different. Since ancient times, there has been a saying that "raising children to prevent old age". Old people without wages and savings are of course afraid that their sons will not support them, so they dare not offend their sons. It sounds a little sad and even cruel, but there is no way. This is the reality.

So transfer the contradiction between in-laws and us to our husbands, and things will be solved very well.

In fact, as a daughter-in-law, no one gets married by fighting with her in-laws. It is best to meet reasonable in-laws. But there are many in-laws that seriously affect our lives and even our health. There is no need to get used to it. What happened to us, the most pitiful thing is the children.

Share my experience as a reference for the subject, and wish the subject a speedy recovery.

If the old man doesn't go home, you go. If you can't afford a house, you can rent a house. If you need an old man to look after the children, you have to put up with the irritability of being together. Old people want to go out, you should be a daughter-in-law subsidy and get together on holidays. After all, they are your husband's parents.

Actively find a way to solve it, let yourself get depression, and it is yourself who suffers.