Is appearance really important?

Although I may hate to admit it, looks or appearances should be more important to people.

Many times, we keep saying that we won't judge a book by its cover, and even most people think so from the heart. But from the subconscious reasons, it is easy for us to have more positive imagination about people who are relatively outstanding in appearance in a short time or when we meet for the first time. For example, we will think this person is honest and reliable with a straight face, and tall people will think this person has leadership ability. The education we received and the experience we gained in the process of growing up remind us that there are a lot of devil wears Prada and hypocritical hypocrites in this world, but in fact, the subconscious mind does get more favorable feelings for people with outstanding looks than others. Our brains are far from being as rational and objective as we thought. But the truth is, being handsome and beautiful will indeed be more outstanding than others.

There are no ugly people in the world, and four points are born.

Nowadays, it is easy for us to adopt the method of "slice analysis" in many emotional or work interactions, that is, to judge the whole thing or person from a certain detail of the whole in a short time, in which appearance plays an important role. People's understanding of things at a glance is sometimes deeper than months of research.

Malcolm Gladwell cited an example called "Warren Harding Illusion" in Blink of an Eye: Warren Harding himself was only a newspaper editor in a small town in Ohio, and later became a state senator. In contact with a local lawyer and senator, he was "in good shape, handsome, charming, burly, strong, tall, with a pair of bright eyes and thick black hair." Peugeot's face was bronzed, adding a bit of Indian heroism to him. " The congressman actually had the idea of letting him run for president, and later he did arrange for Warren Harding to speak at the party chairman's meeting in 19 16 * *, "because he understood that people only need to see Harding's appearance and hear his low and magnetic voice, and he will be promoted. 1920 advised Harding to participate in the presidential election regardless of his opinions. " 1In the summer of 920, Harding attended the National Congress of the Communist Party of China and ranked last among the six candidates. Found his members indifferent to it. He predicted that since the winner could not be determined from the top two candidates, delegates would be forced to find another candidate and Congress would be deadlocked. At that time, this friendly and solemn candidate will stand out and finally be true. "He was finally elected president and died suddenly after two years in office. Most historians consider him one of the most failed presidents in American history.

This example may be extreme, but it can also show that some interpretations made by people using their own unconsciousness or intuition will indeed have a huge impact on our behavior, even surpassing our rationality and becoming the biggest factor affecting judgment.

"Implicit association test measures our subconscious bias. Although most people can't clearly perceive it, they can't help but associate leadership with a tall and strong figure. We have a general outline of what a leader looks like in our hearts. This model concept is deeply rooted. Once someone fits this particular pattern, we will turn a blind eye to other factors. "

Although the above example is about height, it is also of considerable value in terms of appearance.

Our attitude towards looks and appearances is manifested in two levels. The first is our attitude at the level of consciousness. This is the established values, the education we receive, and the tool we deliberately use to guide our words and deeds. At this level, our principle is "don't judge a book by its cover, and don't be a party in appearance". But on another level, our subconscious attitude towards appearance may be more natural, the class itself. Before we have time to think, these connections will automatically flood into our minds. We can't consciously choose our subconscious attitude, and even we can't detect his existence. It is this level of operational judgment that overcomes our rationality and values and directly affects our behavior and choices. At this level, we like to associate with people with outstanding looks, and it is easy to have more positive associations with people with outstanding looks.

We don't judge whether such a choice is "fair" or "correct", but I'm afraid it is "reasonable". Seeking truth from facts, looks are still very important!

At least know how to wear light makeup, dress appropriately and communicate politely. to be neither humble nor arrogant

At least know how to wear light makeup, dress appropriately and communicate politely. to be neither humble nor arrogant

At least know how to wear light makeup, dress appropriately on different occasions, and be polite and supercilious in communication.

Jin Shang, take myself for example, looks will really highlight you, but there are actually more inexplicable "hatred" from jealousy.

Refer to Zhihu's answer to "@ Gaoqing Roof"

Pure personal feelings.