Children should be "stocked" rather than "kept in captivity"

Central Plains Focus Team? Growth sharing 86 1 day? 2020- 1 1- 16

In life, many of our parents treat their children as "pets", do everything for them and never let them do anything for themselves. I only know poor children, but I don't want to use them.

In fact, to love children is to be willing to "use children". If you want to train your children to be people who can adapt to the future society, you should "raise" them instead of "keep them in captivity" and be willing to let them go.

So, how to "stock" children?

1, learn to show weakness. Parents who really love their children should be "weak" in front of their children and give them a chance to love others. Don't always treat yourself as a mountain, treat your children as grass, let your children rely on you, look up to you and fear you; Don't think of yourself as a big umbrella, but treat your child as a chicken, shelter your child from the wind and rain, and make your child vulnerable.

2. Learn to use children. Let the child do what he can, not for him. In fact, doing what children can do is the biggest blow to their enthusiasm, because it will make them lose the opportunity to practice. If you are always worried and want to intervene in everything, it is equivalent to telling him, "You can't, I don't believe you."

In fact, the more children use it, the more useful it is.

A person can only feel his own value when he is needed and used by others. When a child is used and needed by his parents, he will have a sense of value and belonging, and then have a strong sense of responsibility.

3. Believe in children. If parents want to cultivate their children's perseverance, they must trust their children. I believe that children want a better heart and have the ability to become better. We should provide them with opportunities to exercise, practice and show their skills from an early age, and let them try, experience and exercise, so as to exercise their survival skills and anti-risk ability.

In short, on the way to accompany children to grow up, it is better to give them a pair of walking feet than a pair of brand-name shoes.