To my son-five pieces of advice from a mother to her son who is about to go to college.

Son, first of all, congratulations on studying hard at the cold window for more than ten years, finally squeezing through the college entrance examination wooden bridge, stepping into the university gate and starting a wonderful ivory tower life for four years. You have heard that college life is very free, without so many controls and constraints, not to mention the tension and hardship of three years in high school.

When you say this, your yearning and expectation, youthful face, can't restrain your imagination of the new campus life. Looking at your smiling face, the corners of your mouth are slightly tilted because of relaxation, and I have an inexplicable worry in my heart. Not only you, but also my mother. Although I have never been to college, I have long heard that college life is relaxed in the new era of advanced information. Whether you go to class or not, no one cares about you, sleeping in class and playing with your mobile phone, the teacher will turn a blind eye and so on. I know this is by no means alarmist, so I want to talk to you about something.

1: About freedom

The word freedom, as interpreted in the dictionary, is to be your own master, free from restrictions and constraints. It looks like a beautiful word, but if you don't grasp it well and have insufficient self-control, it will become synonymous with indulgence. Do you know why college teachers don't attend classes and don't care about you? It's not that the teacher is not responsible, but that you are a college student, an adult and know how to be self-disciplined. You don't need others to supervise and restrain you, but you are responsible for your actions and future.

Teachers are just people, not gods, and their abilities are limited. If you don't want to learn, the teacher can't help you. Therefore, I hope you don't indulge yourself excessively by singing the song Long Live Freedom under the banner of freedom. You can sleep late if you want, attend classes if you want, and play games if you want. Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? These so-called free and spontaneous behaviors will become a slap in the face in the near future.

The road of life has always followed a principle, that is, no pains, no gains. There is no road in life in vain, and every step counts. Similarly, there is no such thing as a pie in the sky. Every effort you made, every drop of sweat you shed, and every laziness you stole have been printed on your account book. Good and bad have time to witness, and will be repaid to you one by one in the future.

The ancients said that as you sow, you reap what you sow. This is not empty talk. This sentence contains the wisdom and truth of the law of causality. Therefore, I hope you can correctly understand the freedom of college life, grasp the degree of this freedom, and give youth a higher level of meaning and value. To lay a solid foundation for entering the society and taking part in the work in the future, let me run freely in the sun and gain a foothold in the wind and rain. Remember, children, in the world of adults, the greatest freedom is not to do what you want to do, but to do what you don't want to do, and you can resolutely refuse and not do it. This is the definition of freedom.

2. About learning

In learning, you have gone through more than ten years of learning career. It may seem verbose to talk about this topic with you now, but I still want to talk to you. There is an old saying in China that it is never too late to learn. The meaning is self-evident. No matter what age or field, we should always keep our enthusiasm for learning and thirst for knowledge. When you put your heart in an empty cup, you will feel that there is still a lot of knowledge to learn, and you will never reach saturation and enrichment. As long as we form the habit of studying and thinking hard, the bumps on the road of life will be smoothed out one by one.

Four years in college is the most important learning stage in your life. In the past ten years, you have only studied for exams, but you have not understood the truth of life and are not afraid of the hardships of the survival pressure in the adult world. It's different now. You are an adult and sensible. A good age to bravely pursue dreams. You should stick to your faith, be ambitious, be a studious passer-by and be a leader of the times.

Therefore, I hope you will cherish your study time in college more and hand in a satisfactory answer sheet for your student career when you leave school. I also hope you can remember that time can't stand quiz, time can't stand disappointment, and youth can't stand perfunctory. There are natural rules for flowers to bloom and fall. If flowers cherish each other, they will not be hurt. When you have a chance to study, study hard and study hard, and you won't regret it for yourself.

3. About dreams

Dreams are things that will make you feel extremely happy if you persist. Dream is a shining light on the long road of life, illuminating the unknown direction on your way forward. Life must be attached, life is magnificent, and dreams are big or small, which are the best attachments on the road of life. Only those who have dreams will be full of passion for life and motivation to face difficulties and forge ahead.

Edison's dream is to invent electric lights to illuminate the dark world. To this end, he used thousands of materials day and night and tried thousands of times before making a breakthrough. Finally, he succeeded. If he gives up after a failure, his name will not be remembered forever without his perseverance. Someone once asked him, "You have failed thousands of times. Why do you keep doing this? " ? He said, "You are wrong. I haven't failed thousands of times. I just successfully told myself with thousands of experiments that these thousands of materials can't shine. "

It is never easy to pursue your dreams. The process that can be pursued is a great wealth of life. No matter what the result is, it is worthy of youth and the scenery it has passed. Whether it is rain or sunshine, after personal experience, you will eventually understand that bittersweet experience is the truest taste of life.

When you are alive, you must have dreams and goals to pursue and strive for, so that ordinary life will become wonderful. People can be ordinary, but they must not be content with mediocrity. In the young age when they are putting down their footsteps and bravely running to pursue their dreams, they must never choose an easy life to kill time and waste time. It's like climbing a mountain, climbing to the top of the mountain and seeing the vastness and heroism of the earth. It's a scenery that people who wander at the foot of the mountain will never appreciate.

4. About life

How to be a man, how to be a man, how to be a man? This is the primary problem that we have to face, study and practice all our lives. As a man, I hope you are a kind, honest, independent and responsible man, and take responsibility without hesitation. From practice, spare no effort to make due contributions to society as much as possible, to seek happiness and stability for the family.

Rich is compatible with the world, poor is immune. When you are in a high position, you should be humble and self-sufficient, humble and virtuous, and when you are in a low position, you should be humble and generous. No matter at what stage, when and under what circumstances, we should learn to respect everyone around us and be strict with ourselves. Most importantly, as a man, you should write the herringbone forcefully. Being a man, being worthy of being a man, and being worthy of the conscience of the world are the basic principles of being a man.

How to be a man is a university question, and it is not easy to do it well. As we all know, there are not only good people, but also bad people, sunshine, wind and rain, angels who bring light to people, and demons who sneak into the darkness to do evil. We all hope that society will be harmonious and life will be full of sunshine everywhere. But we have to admit that the dark side lurks in every corner that we can't see anytime and anywhere. You must learn to protect yourself when these dark sides come unexpectedly.

Being kind and not hurting others is an education, and not being hurt by others is also an ability. To make friends, you should learn to distinguish who can be superficial and who can be deep friends. You should know better. Near Zhu Zhechi, near Mexico is black. When you are surrounded by positive friends who radiate positive energy every day, you will also be influenced by them and be full of vitality. On the contrary, when they are a group of decadent and idle rabble, if you don't have enough self-control, it is easy to be dragged down. You must learn to distinguish this.

5. About the future

The future, the future, refers to the days that have not yet come, the road of the future. I hope you understand that it doesn't matter what kind of shoes you wear, what matters is how to grasp the direction of progress and take every step down to earth. A watch with tens of thousands of dollars is the same as an electronic watch with a few dollars, and it is equal to people. When you make full use of your time, you can accomplish many things. You let it flow through your fingers and it will never come back.

In fact, the future is not far away, but sooner or later. I hope you can pave your own way for the future as much as possible and do valuable and meaningful things bravely and enthusiastically. Whether you are successful or not, the experience will always teach you something, and your mind will become more and more mature. Dare to try, dare to explore, fall down, get up and move on, young people, have plenty of capital. Youth is a prism. From different angles, each side has different wonderful things.

It is every parent's greatest wish to have children and become a phoenix. Mom is no exception, and you can't be refined. I hope that you will succeed in your studies in the future, take the initiative and become a pillar of the country and a talented person in society. However, my mother hopes that in the future, you can follow your heart, do what you like for your hobbies and interests, and live your ideal life in your favorite way. I would rather be a slave in my dreams than a puppet in reality. This is the greatest value and significance of life.

Dear son, mother hopes that you can make a living in the form of hobbies and jobs in the future, instead of being forced to give up hobbies and do jobs you don't like against your will in order to make a living. There is a huge difference between the two. I believe you will understand and understand the true meaning of this sentence. You choose your job, and your job chooses you. These are two completely different concepts. This requires you to consolidate your strength during your college years and give you more choices and space when you take part in the work in the future.

The above five points are what my mother wants to tell you. Please analyze it carefully. If there is anything wrong, you can raise an objection. Remember, we always communicate on an equal footing. If you think everything is right, mother wants you to take this as a criterion and put it into action. Mom, please forgive me for being wordy again.

Dear son, please remember that the mother's intention in saying so much is not to control you, let alone interfere with you, but to love you, just to make your future perfectly satisfied. Finally, I wish you a happy, full and meaningful college life every day.