Just listen to some polite words and don’t take them seriously. If you take them seriously, you will lose.

As the saying goes: It’s hard to know a person’s face but not his heart. It’s hard to paint a tiger’s skin but its bones. What I am saying is that many people are not telling what they mean, and this is understandable, because there is a kind of lie in this world called a white lie, and we ourselves are the same. Naturally, we don’t have to force others. This is probably a comparison of feelings!

Because people are social animals, in addition to dealing with their own family members, they inevitably interact with many people every day. Speaking is also the simplest and most straightforward way to communicate, but some people cannot express certain words. Keep it in mind, otherwise if you think too much, you will feel that the world is hot and cold, and you will inevitably be disappointed. For example:

- 1- "Let's have a meal together in a few days"

Say this The person who said this to you may not really want to organize a dinner party or something. Inviting you to have a meal together is probably just a word of mouth, or just a casual remark made on a whim.

If you take it seriously, the result will inevitably be disappointing or even embarrassing. The pace of life of modern people is too fast. It is not a luxury to have a meal with relatives and friends, but it is not very casual. Everyone may not be able to make time, and the relationship between people who eat together is mostly or There is more or less interest relationship.

The person who said this to you may be an uncommon relative, or an uncommon friend of a former colleague, etc. The place where they spoke was next to their respective dinner parties, or in a shopping mall parking lot. A chance encounter, no matter where he says this to you for any reason, at least you can get along well in terms of face, but if he really sincerely invites you to dinner, he will set a time with you at that time, because the person who invites you before the meal is the real inviter Subject, others arriving later may just make up the number.

- 2- "Call me if you need anything"

We often hear people say this to ourselves, but it must be who said it, and it is our own What your closest relatives and close friends say is true. If it is a casual acquaintance or a colleague, friend or relative who you don’t often contact, just listen to it and don’t take it seriously.

First of all, there are not many people who say this sincerely, and there are really not many people who can help by calling when something really happens. In addition to your own parents, brothers and sisters, there are also real friends who have deep friendships. You You can call them when you have nothing to do, and it will definitely work if you call them when something happens, because they love you and help you without any reason or asking for anything in return.

But your family and close friends will generally not say anything about calling you when they meet and say goodbye. You rarely even say thank you to each other. Most Chinese people are so reserved. , you often never even say thank you to the people who really protect you.

Besides them, there are really very few people who are really willing to help you. As someone said: You can call me for anything, such as eating together, singing together, drinking and eating supper together, or even going shopping together. When going to nightclubs, just don't call me to borrow money, because I don't have any money and I even want to borrow it from you.

The person who told you to call him when you have something to do, I think who is sincere and who is just talking, everyone has a steelyard in their heart, and you will not be confused.

-3-“Don’t be embarrassed to say it when you need money!”

Talking about money hurts feelings. If you don’t talk about money, everyone is happy, but when you meet acquaintances, relatives and friends You will chat when you get it, and as you chat, you will run into money.

Borrowing money is different from calling for something. Calling for something can be to ask someone to help you get to know someone, or you may need his help to find someone to sign, etc. However, if you need money to borrow money, it is a naked money issue. . The rise of your chat, unless your family has a mine and is not short of money, otherwise you will always talk about what you want to do in the future, whether you start a business or buy a bigger house, etc., and the other party takes over and says: "I need money." "Don't be embarrassed!" It's really touching.

It’s okay to be moved at the time. If you take it seriously afterwards, you will often regret it. The person who tells you this will let you know what it means to take advantage of an emergency rather than to take advantage of poverty.

There are many more polite words similar to the above. No one is right or wrong, and it is not necessarily black and white. Life is not easy for anyone. Everyone is pursuing their own happy life, as long as it is not intentional. Just hurt others, and your life will always become happier.

Really, just listen to some polite words, don’t take them seriously, otherwise you will lose!