What does it mean that my mother always leaks my privacy to others?

First of all, after hearing about your experience, I feel the same way, but I have already dealt with this problem here.

First, your understanding is slightly misunderstood. Since it is your mother, she definitely wants to be good for you without any reservation, and she will never deliberately say bad things about you to embarrass you, so don’t think so. Crooked.

Second, after correcting your mentality, return to reality. Your mother and you are from two eras. They grew up in different environments and must be completely different in terms of thoughts, views, etc., so The so-called privacy that you think is very sensitive and even difficult to express and share may, in the eyes of someone who has experienced it, she just thinks that you are too young and you take the problem too seriously, and it is no big deal. . .

Thirdly, every time you remind your mother not to tell others something about yourself, it is certainly impossible for your mother to refuse you and say no, but she may agree to it casually. , but maybe she was still thinking about what you said at the time, and she didn't know what she had promised you, or she knew it and promised you not to tell it, but because she cared too much about you, some She can't make a conclusion on things herself, so she can't help but tell people she thinks are trustworthy when she turns around, hoping to get comments or approval from others, and then deepen her understanding and judgment of certain things about you. She may later be trusted by this so-called trustworthy person. People spread what your mother said in an embellished way. . .

So in view of these points, you actually have no reason to doubt whether your mother doesn't love you and doesn't wish you well. It's just a misunderstanding caused by personality, generation gap, age difference, etc. It's mainly due to the lack of understanding between the two of you. Truly effective communication results in you infinitely amplifying the consequences of facts and emotions.